I'm grateful for the CoDA program. I've learned that by allowing others to live their own lives, I have the time & energy to tend to my own affairs. I once thought I was helping others by doing things for them. I gave them a silent message that I thought they weren't capable of doing for themselves. I gained a false sense of importance, but avoided real growth opportunities. As a result, their self-esteem suffered & so did mine. Now, I'm aware my relationships with others improve when I mind only my business. My good feelings about myself increase as I work through my own issues. I always have plenty to do! CoDA Daily Meditation.