I need some advice please. So being codependent I haven't had, well, really any healthy friendships whether it was because I was clinging onto them or enabling and being used. In the recovery program meetings I attend, I've met someone who I think could become a good friend. I just don't want to mess it up like I always do, I don't want to just switch to being codependent on her if that makes sense. What advice do you veterans have that might help me gauge if I'm being overwhelming or acting on my codependent traits with her as a friend?
For me, if I find myself changing my plans that I set say for a day outing because this new friend is asking for something. Then I know I’ve started down the never ending rabbit hole I’ve been trying to dig out of for the last few years. It usually starts off as just small stuff. Until they get their hooks into ya.
I try to keep reading the books to keep me on the right path for healthy choices for me. Not politically correct but (F) everybody else.
I’m not saying I won’t give a person a ride to a store if I’m going or in need of something as well. But I don’t do it to be accepted by this person. It sometimes can be tricky, as to when you cross that line.