Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

blossoms103 · blossoms103

Hello. I am new here though many years ago when I lived in a different place, I went to a few CODA meetings which I liked, but nine here for over 300kms. I am in Australia in a small country town. I hope this doesn't come out wrong, but I am here through desperation. I've been very depressed and tearful....

cooladd · cooladd

Hello. I am in a relationship and have been for over 7 years. I know i am codependent and have some other problems after having been brought up in a dysfunctional environment. She has cheated on me about 6 years ago years ago but i ended up staying with her after having left her for a short while. This year...

huggybear · huggybear

I posted a year ago, my friend and I had an argument and I was not coping. Well we got back together but there is always this drama with him, if I dont do the right thing then he doesn't talk to me. We recently had a real big argument where he was just about to punch me because I was standing up to him. He apologi...

gabigail · gabigail

My spouse has been fighting end stage liver disease and was given the prognosis this week that she only has less than a year to live on this current liver. She's being put on the waiting list, but I know the waiting is excruciating and I don't want to think of if it doesn't get found in time. It's been a long,...

Chops · Chops

Hi I'm new to Coda - I've been sober for a number of years. In AA we talk about staying away from the first drink. Its the first drink that does the damage. What is the equivalent in Coda?

mkelley · mkelley

I am new here. I have never done anything like this before. I am married to a man with many addictions and it is ruining every relationship I have. I had a stroke 4 years ago due to tremendous stress and the loss of a step daughter. I also have MS and it is a trying journey of its own. His addictions run everyth...

jay76 · jay76

Let me start of by saying that I am very new to all of this. I’m just starting in my recovery process and honestly just recently realized how screwed up my childhood actually was. I’ve never posted anything on any message board before and I just started really even looking at them.I am in desperate need...

HeatherK · HeatherK

I don't know why I can't do the dating thing. I try, I really do. But somehow casual dating zooms into the relationship zone for me all-too-naturally, without any effort whatsoever. I always start it out trying to "take it slow"... yeah right. That's like me trying to sip a shot of whiskey ou...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Sometimes, we act in a manner with which we are less than comfortable. That's human. That's why we have the words: "I'm sorry." They heal and bridge the gap. But we don't have to say, "I'm sorry" if we didn't do anything wrong. A sense of shame can keep us apologizing for everythin...

willing · willing

... as much as we love others? That has been the question on my mind lately. Someone is treating my daughter poorly and mama bear is roaring! To see her hurting just tears my heart out and I look at her and how wonderful of a person she is and wonder "How could someone treat her this way? She is an amazing h...

willing · willing

willing · willing

One of the things I realized while I was watching this is that when I don't have good boundaries I am in MORE pain. I stress more and for a longer period of time. Even though I am worried at that time about suffering from someone elses anger for setting my boundaries, living in fear. I THINK I am avoiding...

Webbyfooty1 · Webbyfooty1

hi I am new I think I am what is called a love avoidant - since getting sober years ago I consistently involve myself with unavailable men -it's beyond painful right now. I have been attending CODA meetings where I live for a few months but this last man just took me to a very bad bottom - married. So sick an...

Linistea · Linistea

Using the Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps by Melody Beattie Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. The author describes something many of us have probably experienced with the "Dreaded Fourth Step". Heading to a meeting and you find out that the topic is th...

willing · willing

https://www.facebook.com/glennondoylemelton/videos/vb.178909129709/10154418728709710/?type=2&theater

gabigail · gabigail

hi everyone-This weekend was interesting and eye-opening to my recovery. I so have a long way to go!I get a call at the hospital from my A that she needs me to come up immediately to the hospital. She's scared and she just needs to see me. This was on Friday and her friend that she's been staying with for...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and somet...

willing · willing

"Playing the edge means being willing to go into the unknown. It means approaching that place where real growth occurs." ~Stephen and Ondrea Levine, Who Dies? Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." ~Step Eight of CoDA The...

Maresie · Maresie

Normally my life is sea deep in drama. I left this one job a few months ago after a five year saga of victimizatiom, merciless recrimination and very little return. Except really for year or two I existed on the pittance I earned there. Pretty much I have been able to wash my hands if everyone there. I ha...

carlyrodgers · carlyrodgers

Hello all. My name is Carly Rodgers and I am in the process of conducing a very important study centered around hope and attachment from a perspective that has yet to be looked at. If you'd like to participate, click on the link below. I've also attached the consent form if you so choose to look it over...

gabigail · gabigail

I am married to an alcoholic, but our relationship is very codependent. My A lost her job this weekend. I have been relying on this income to pay bills. Now that medical bills are piling up, I’m in over my head. (My spouse has been in and out of the hospital for treatments for liver disease and has stop...

Linistea · Linistea

Detachment The author spent some time considering the topics for this chapter - the first chapter regarding the solution. She chose detachment not because it is most important, but because it is what we need to do first and what we need to do most frequently. Attachment "When a codependent say...

Burumba · Burumba

Hi all, Does anyone know how I could get a sponsor online or how to find skype meetings. I've been codependent all my life and it makes life very lonely and difficult. I'm in recovery from other substances for years and know the 12 steps well but have never had any idea how I apply them to my codependence ev...

stripes101 · stripes101

Hello, I am a newb, and a codependent. I wanted to begin attending CODA meetings, but can't find any near. There are Alanon meetings nearby, most of my closest relationships including family have been addicts/alcoholics so I am thinking I should just go to Alanon. Have no idea what it entail but my lif...

fap123 · fap123

The temptation of getting involved with a family member rough marital problems has been brought into my awareness. My first reaction was to help. But after remembering back to my own relationship issue. I would have been offended with someone telling me to leave the relationship. (even though l...

Green · Green

Hello dear readers, I am a codependent woman who has been in recovery for two years. I have made a lot of good progress towards loving myself and owning my choices. However I am currently struggling with my feelings towards my partner's ex. After 3 years apart, she is still bitter about their separatio...

Hope · Hope

I am new to the group and wanted to say hello. I have recently come to the conclusion that I am a big ole co-dependent. My dependency is tied to my husband who I believe to have issues with alcohol. I love him and our lives together. But.... and isn't there always a but? His issues have become mine. His...

Hopeless_in_NC · Hopeless_in_NC

I'm aware of a CODA group conscience that seems to be out of control. 1. There appears to be a "super conscience" of 4 or 5 people (including the person who started the group) who seem to meet and make decisions that they then ask the regular, post-meeting GC to approve. (Maybe this is OK, IDK) 2. There are...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier. Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships: anger, resentments, feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing. If we have not put closure on a relationship, if we c...

willing · willing

June 9You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Panic Few situations - no matter how greatly they appear to demand it - can be bettered by us going berserk. —Codependent No More Don't panic! If a swimmer was crossing a great lake, then suddenly focused too heavily on the distance remaini...

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	Hello. I'm New - Obsessed With Unavailable Man ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hello. I am new here though many years ago when I lived in a different place, I went to a few CODA meetings which I liked, but nine here for over 300kms. I am in Australia in a small country town. I hope this doesn't come out wrong, but I am here through desperation. I've been very depressed and tearful....	blossoms103	62	2392	Oct 13, 2016 by willing
	Coda Recovery while in relationship? (Preview) Hello. I am in a relationship and have been for over 7 years. I know i am codependent and have some other problems after having been brought up in a dysfunctional environment. She has cheated on me about 6 years ago years ago but i ended up staying with her after having left her for a short while. This year...	cooladd	2	938	Oct 10, 2016 by jimrich
	It's about a year since I last posted and I am back at the same point (Preview) I posted a year ago, my friend and I had an argument and I was not coping. Well we got back together but there is always this drama with him, if I dont do the right thing then he doesn't talk to me. We recently had a real big argument where he was just about to punch me because I was standing up to him. He apologi...	huggybear	4	619	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	Powerless over my dad (Preview) My spouse has been fighting end stage liver disease and was given the prognosis this week that she only has less than a year to live on this current liver. She's being put on the waiting list, but I know the waiting is excruciating and I don't want to think of if it doesn't get found in time. It's been a long,...	gabigail	3	626	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	Step 1 new 1st step 1st drink equivalent (Preview) Hi I'm new to Coda - I've been sober for a number of years. In AA we talk about staying away from the first drink. Its the first drink that does the damage. What is the equivalent in Coda?	Chops	6	961	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	At wits end (Preview) I am new here. I have never done anything like this before. I am married to a man with many addictions and it is ruining every relationship I have. I had a stroke 4 years ago due to tremendous stress and the loss of a step daughter. I also have MS and it is a trying journey of its own. His addictions run everyth...	mkelley	8	618	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	My marriage is falling apart (Preview) Let me start of by saying that I am very new to all of this. I’m just starting in my recovery process and honestly just recently realized how screwed up my childhood actually was. I’ve never posted anything on any message board before and I just started really even looking at them.I am in desperate need...	jay76	12	3988	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	From "dating" to "relationship" in ...one week. (Preview) I don't know why I can't do the dating thing. I try, I really do. But somehow casual dating zooms into the relationship zone for me all-too-naturally, without any effort whatsoever. I always start it out trying to "take it slow"... yeah right. That's like me trying to sip a shot of whiskey ou...	HeatherK	6	3837	Oct 9, 2016 by jimrich
	Daily Meditation ~ Apologies (Preview) Sometimes, we act in a manner with which we are less than comfortable. That's human. That's why we have the words: "I'm sorry." They heal and bridge the gap. But we don't have to say, "I'm sorry" if we didn't do anything wrong. A sense of shame can keep us apologizing for everythin...	lilmzsparkles	2	874	Sep 19, 2016 by willing
	Why can't we love ourselves ... (Preview) ... as much as we love others? That has been the question on my mind lately. Someone is treating my daughter poorly and mama bear is roaring! To see her hurting just tears my heart out and I look at her and how wonderful of a person she is and wonder "How could someone treat her this way? She is an amazing h...	willing	0	462	Sep 16, 2016 by willing
	The skill of self confidence (Preview)	willing	0	566	Sep 1, 2016 by willing
	Good boundaries free you \| Sarri Gilman \| TEDxSnoIsleLibraries (Preview) One of the things I realized while I was watching this is that when I don't have good boundaries I am in MORE pain. I stress more and for a longer period of time. Even though I am worried at that time about suffering from someone elses anger for setting my boundaries, living in fear. I THINK I am avoiding...	willing	0	607	Aug 26, 2016 by willing
	Having a very painful bottom (Preview) hi I am new I think I am what is called a love avoidant - since getting sober years ago I consistently involve myself with unavailable men -it's beyond painful right now. I have been attending CODA meetings where I live for a few months but this last man just took me to a very bad bottom - married. So sick an...	Webbyfooty1	4	587	Aug 22, 2016 by fap123
	Step Study - Step 4 (Preview) Using the Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps by Melody Beattie *Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.* The author describes something many of us have probably experienced with the "Dreaded Fourth Step". Heading to a meeting and you find out that the topic is th...	Linistea	14	8874	Aug 22, 2016 by willing
	This made me cry .... go figure. (Preview) https://www.facebook.com/glennondoylemelton/videos/vb.178909129709/10154418728709710/?type=2&theater	willing	0	527	Aug 18, 2016 by willing
	Powerless over my qualifier (Preview) hi everyone-This weekend was interesting and eye-opening to my recovery. I so have a long way to go!I get a call at the hospital from my A that she needs me to come up immediately to the hospital. She's scared and she just needs to see me. This was on Friday and her friend that she's been staying with for...	gabigail	2	573	Aug 18, 2016 by willing
	Daily Meditation ~ Leaving Room for Feelings (Preview) We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and somet...	lilmzsparkles	2	1070	Aug 16, 2016 by blossoms103
	Step Study - Step 8 (Preview) "Playing the edge means being willing to go into the unknown. It means approaching that place where real growth occurs." ~Stephen and Ondrea Levine, Who Dies? Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." ~Step Eight of CoDA The...	willing	4	2521	Aug 15, 2016 by willing
	Practising (Preview) Normally my life is sea deep in drama. I left this one job a few months ago after a five year saga of victimizatiom, merciless recrimination and very little return. Except really for year or two I existed on the pittance I earned there. Pretty much I have been able to wash my hands if everyone there. I ha...	Maresie	6	660	Aug 4, 2016 by Maresie
	PARTICIPATE IN A VERY IMPORTANT STUDY!!!! (Preview) Hello all. My name is Carly Rodgers and I am in the process of conducing a very important study centered around hope and attachment from a perspective that has yet to be looked at. If you'd like to participate, click on the link below. I've also attached the consent form if you so choose to look it over...	carlyrodgers	0	518	Jul 31, 2016 by carlyrodgers
	Powerless against people...at my rock bottom (Preview) I am married to an alcoholic, but our relationship is very codependent. My A lost her job this weekend. I have been relying on this income to pay bills. Now that medical bills are piling up, I’m in over my head. (My spouse has been in and out of the hospital for treatments for liver disease and has stop...	gabigail	3	650	Jul 30, 2016 by gabigail
	Book Study: Codependent No More - Chapter 5 (Preview) Detachment The author spent some time considering the topics for this chapter - the first chapter regarding the solution. She chose detachment not because it is most important, but because it is what we need to do first and what we need to do most frequently. Attachment "When a codependent say...	Linistea	6	4137	Jul 29, 2016 by gabigail
	Help with starting-Online sponsor (Preview) Hi all, Does anyone know how I could get a sponsor online or how to find skype meetings. I've been codependent all my life and it makes life very lonely and difficult. I'm in recovery from other substances for years and know the 12 steps well but have never had any idea how I apply them to my codependence ev...	Burumba	5	926	Jul 24, 2016 by Maresie
	Going to Alanon if no Coda avail (Preview) Hello, I am a newb, and a codependent. I wanted to begin attending CODA meetings, but can't find any near. There are Alanon meetings nearby, most of my closest relationships including family have been addicts/alcoholics so I am thinking I should just go to Alanon. Have no idea what it entail but my lif...	stripes101	2	654	Jul 8, 2016 by NoMoDo(mat)
	Cautioned support (Preview) The temptation of getting involved with a family member rough marital problems has been brought into my awareness. My first reaction was to help. But after remembering back to my own relationship issue. I would have been offended with someone telling me to leave the relationship. (even though l...	fap123	1	570	Jul 8, 2016 by willing
	Difficulty making peace with vengeful ex partner (Preview) Hello dear readers, I am a codependent woman who has been in recovery for two years. I have made a lot of good progress towards loving myself and owning my choices. However I am currently struggling with my feelings towards my partner's ex. After 3 years apart, she is still bitter about their separatio...	Green	2	641	Jul 7, 2016 by willing
	Hello :) (Preview) I am new to the group and wanted to say hello. I have recently come to the conclusion that I am a big ole co-dependent. My dependency is tied to my husband who I believe to have issues with alcohol. I love him and our lives together. But.... and isn't there always a but? His issues have become mine. His...	Hope	3	531	Jul 7, 2016 by willing
	Out of control Group Conscience (Preview) I'm aware of a CODA group conscience that seems to be out of control. 1. There appears to be a "super conscience" of 4 or 5 people (including the person who started the group) who seem to meet and make decisions that they then ask the regular, post-meeting GC to approve. (Maybe this is OK, IDK) 2. There are...	Hopeless_in_NC	7	677	Jun 23, 2016 by Nix
	Daily Meditation ~ Hanging on to Old Relationships (Preview) We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier. Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships: anger, resentments, feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing. If we have not put closure on a relationship, if we c...	lilmzsparkles	1	1000	Jun 13, 2016 by willing
	Panic (Preview) June 9You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Panic Few situations - no matter how greatly they appear to demand it - can be bettered by us going berserk. —Codependent No More Don't panic! If a swimmer was crossing a great lake, then suddenly focused too heavily on the distance remaini...	willing	1	883	Jun 9, 2016 by willing
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