Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

DavidG · DavidG

Used to be burdened with that stuff! So joy is an emotion too? Had to look for joy- search for it... ...

DavidG · DavidG

My hero of all time is Janet Frame. I saw the first clip- and though the reacher was being really sadistic- and into blaming- big-time.

DavidG · DavidG

-boundaries are always topical. I reckon that are created through our rituals of encounter. Also I focus on rites of passage- which I think are what gives us maturity. The process by which we give ourselves maturity. Get maturity. Below is a reading from another MIP group. It is a resume of a rea...

DavidG · DavidG

Whilst in the USA- in 2013 I met three of the principals of these MIP boards. Sadly, since then both Betty K. and John F. have passed away. I am a rural person- a farm boy- and mostly this is how we do stuff... ...part of the dream was to look as "The American Model" of doing 12 Step work- and The Internati...

DavidG · DavidG

I am not sure I appreciate being able to look in on the MIP Alanon group- and not being permitted to share? The group has taken a turn- which I appreciate and support in principle. Wholeheartedly in fact! But I would rather have access to the steps board and other items in the MIP camp. ...

DavidG · DavidG

STEP 8... I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... to do my programme really. It has been fairly successful, overall. Facebook is a mixed blessing for some. Personally i find that it helps bring family and community together. And this depends on how we choose to use tools, like this......

DavidG · DavidG

Don't justify, argue, defend, or explain. I think maybe, that the last word was added to make up the akronym? I really love to explain, when I am asked stuff. Over years of 12 step recovery, my communication has improved a lot- at least I believe so. But stepping in and explaining stuff- where there...

DavidG · DavidG

Bon looking at the work of Dr. Alice Miller- who was a pioneer- in getting away from blaming the child... ...getting hooked up into the blame-shame cycle, imo, is a precursor to our co-dependency. I blue that the things Dr Porges is enunciating it an outcome of this modern trend... ...thes...

DavidG · DavidG

Below is a quote from on elf our MIP members. It looks like out combined MIP Steps group- of which CODA form a a part has been wrecked. The Alanon Mod refused to hold a conscience meeting on the Alanon Business board- and to conduct a properly convened conscience meeting. Instead there was a kangaroo co...

DavidG · DavidG

It can be a long convoluted journey! ... Watch Dr. Brene Brown do the journey. Ah believe that Bill W. of AA fame also undertook it. Alice Miller- "The Drama of the Gifted Child" also- and for herself, mostly, imo... People will step in your way. Overtalking- oversharing. Taking up far too much sp...

Linistea · Linistea

The first chapter starts as it should, someone telling their story so we can identify. This was Jessica's story. A 32 year old woman married to an alcoholic. Jessica tells of her inability to function in life anymore. The depression - the lack of will to do even the smallest things like showering....

DavidG · DavidG

I call it Te poutama tekau ma rua... The Twelve Steps. And the we all get to Step 12, and learn to dwell there we end up with a sense of commonality, and unity. I found this for myself- by visiting Stepping Stones- to home of Lois and Bill- and temporary home to many. I met the person on this clip- and knew...

DavidG · DavidG

As a co-dependent I had to learn to live with addiction, and equally, with other co=dependents. Listening to a talk by a pioneer and veteran, Bob E. is is entirely possible act the addict and or alcoholic has codependent traits as well. Not sure if we are allowed to unpack the nature of the disease? Or h...

DavidG · DavidG

From the MIP Alanon board:- "Your participation here has spiraled into as much insanity as the member who was recently banned. As another member, it's uncomfortable to watch, impossible to participate and just so removed from our purpose and intent." If this is about me- this is patently untrue...

DavidG · DavidG

I can't say that my SO was going through a relapse. My SO is a lovely mother, grandmas and aunt- always has been. But over 38 years I have had to face a mean nasty, gaslighting projecting fiend. Which i have used the steps and meetings as a way of dealing with. Something I didn't cause, can't change or cur...

DavidG · DavidG

https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=405968197554255&set=a.399936418157433

DavidG · DavidG

If a CODA member came through this way- I would go up to the Mall for coffee time and swap notes. ACA is unlikely to take hold here in my lifetime- barring a miracle. I have scaled down my involvement in recovery. 10 years with MIP groups. ... Getting across a city and sharing at a meeting for 3 or 4 min...

DavidG · DavidG

...scripting is something I reflect on a fair bit, doing Step 11. Where I end and other start- that sort of thing. In years past my boundaries have been bombarded. Sometimes that have been absent. And then I began to notice- that other people were being co-dependent on me- foisting their solutions...

DavidG · DavidG

Number one for me... Brene. These are unprecedented times!!!

DavidG · DavidG

MARIANNE ELIOT'S book "Zen under Fire" is a great treatise on codependency. A relationship starved of emotion under a really straitened situation. [https://www.thenile.co.nz/books/marianne-elliott/zen-under-fire/9780143567158?gclid=Cj0KCQjwjo2JBhCRARIsAFG667WLwLYu9oW7...

DavidG · DavidG

We have the right to be wrong. As co-dependents we are often bamboozled by dependents who expect perfection a fair bit. But in their overall life-style, that may not have made it at all. Not for themselves. One of the classic images of us- as a co-dependent- is being locked together with a narci...

DavidG · DavidG

I come from a small compact country. 5 million. We have communities here, and networks and links between these communities. Below is the testimony of a family member- a strong korero- a speaking time. I would have followed a talk like that with a song- so, as a consequence, I will follow with a song...

DavidG · DavidG

This is my only point of contact with the MIP family. This CODA board. Like with my own FOO, I felt that MIP had treated me really badly. There is one person in the MIP family I think ah kin trust. And you might be that person reading this right now. ??? Gaslighting and bullying. My place here is stop b...

DavidG · DavidG

[https://www.codependentsanonymous.org.au/nz-meetings]

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... CODA, Tradition 6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. This tradition is fairly straight forward. It is closely related...

DavidG · DavidG

Oh yes! I do have a face 2 face meeting. About an hour away from here. [AFG meeting]. They have made me a group rep for our meeting. I went to an assembly last weekend. ... In my report I made something clear- we have a -no cross-talk- guideline for the core of our meeting. I think that this is good news for c...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... understanding is the gateway to change? I describe myself as a racehorse who was put to the plough. There were not always straight lines behind me. Yesterday i topped a walnut tree. I was scared that when I became 84 I would be too old- and the branches too heavy- to do is then. So I did...

DavidG · DavidG

It's about one-ness and a sense of personal belonging. About empathy and ~being in the present~. I think that this is what Step 12 is supposed to look like- on any of our multitude of 12 step programmes. These Miracles in Progress recovery boards were designed by one person- John, to help facilitate...

DavidG · DavidG

You may not watch those shows- "Survivor". Eight or 10 Americans get out on a desert island.The thing is to vote members "of the tribe" off this island.So with scheming and conniving- in the end- there is only one individual left standing. Does this show project an attitude, or a norm of American l...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Betty K. was a stalwart of one of the MIP recovery groups. I met her eight years ago, after braving the underground subway system of New York City. She told me that she had been to Stepping Stones, north of NY. With a whole lot of people. I was an out of town visitor, and I only had my SO with me. We...

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	Anger, pain and grief... (Preview) Used to be burdened with that stuff! So joy is an emotion too? Had to look for joy- search for it... ...	DavidG	1	44	September 16th by DavidG
	Scripts, and narratives... (Preview) My hero of all time is Janet Frame. I saw the first clip- and though the reacher was being really sadistic- and into blaming- big-time.	DavidG	0	46	September 15th by DavidG
	B-b-b-b- boundaries... (Preview) -boundaries are always topical. I reckon that are created through our rituals of encounter. Also I focus on rites of passage- which I think are what gives us maturity. The process by which we give ourselves maturity. Get maturity. Below is a reading from another MIP group. It is a resume of a rea...	DavidG	0	53	September 12th by DavidG
	A dream... (Preview) Whilst in the USA- in 2013 I met three of the principals of these MIP boards. Sadly, since then both Betty K. and John F. have passed away. I am a rural person- a farm boy- and mostly this is how we do stuff... ...part of the dream was to look as "The American Model" of doing 12 Step work- and The Internati...	DavidG	0	48	September 11th by DavidG
	Friday share... (Preview) I am not sure I appreciate being able to look in on the MIP Alanon group- and not being permitted to share? The group has taken a turn- which I appreciate and support in principle. Wholeheartedly in fact! But I would rather have access to the steps board and other items in the MIP camp. ...	DavidG	2	55	September 11th by DavidG
	I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... (Preview) STEP 8... I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... to do my programme really. It has been fairly successful, overall. Facebook is a mixed blessing for some. Personally i find that it helps bring family and community together. And this depends on how we choose to use tools, like this......	DavidG	4	55	September 9th by DavidG
	j.a.d.e. AND jaded... (Preview) Don't justify, argue, defend, or explain. I think maybe, that the last word was added to make up the akronym? I really love to explain, when I am asked stuff. Over years of 12 step recovery, my communication has improved a lot- at least I believe so. But stepping in and explaining stuff- where there...	DavidG	0	55	September 5th by DavidG
	Switching the paradigm- to take care of ourselves... (Preview) Bon looking at the work of Dr. Alice Miller- who was a pioneer- in getting away from blaming the child... ...getting hooked up into the blame-shame cycle, imo, is a precursor to our co-dependency. I blue that the things Dr Porges is enunciating it an outcome of this modern trend... ...thes...	DavidG	0	44	September 2nd by DavidG
	MIP in turmoil-just not true... (Preview) Below is a quote from on elf our MIP members. It looks like out combined MIP Steps group- of which CODA form a a part has been wrecked. The Alanon Mod refused to hold a conscience meeting on the Alanon Business board- and to conduct a properly convened conscience meeting. Instead there was a kangaroo co...	DavidG	1	42	September 1st by DavidG
	From sympathy to empathy... (Preview) It can be a long convoluted journey! ... Watch Dr. Brene Brown do the journey. Ah believe that Bill W. of AA fame also undertook it. Alice Miller- "The Drama of the Gifted Child" also- and for herself, mostly, imo... People will step in your way. Overtalking- oversharing. Taking up far too much sp...	DavidG	0	44	August 30th by DavidG
	Book Study: Codependent No More - Chapter 1 (Preview) The first chapter starts as it should, someone telling their story so we can identify. This was Jessica's story. A 32 year old woman married to an alcoholic. Jessica tells of her inability to function in life anymore. The depression - the lack of will to do even the smallest things like showering....	Linistea	37	12183	August 28th by DavidG
	Putting CODA, Alanon, ACA, NA, AA, Xa together... (Preview) I call it Te poutama tekau ma rua... The Twelve Steps. And the we all get to Step 12, and learn to dwell there we end up with a sense of commonality, and unity. I found this for myself- by visiting Stepping Stones- to home of Lois and Bill- and temporary home to many. I met the person on this clip- and knew...	DavidG	0	27	August 28th by DavidG
	A Sunday Share... (Preview) As a co-dependent I had to learn to live with addiction, and equally, with other co=dependents. Listening to a talk by a pioneer and veteran, Bob E. is is entirely possible act the addict and or alcoholic has codependent traits as well. Not sure if we are allowed to unpack the nature of the disease? Or h...	DavidG	0	35	August 28th by DavidG
	Is this comment about me? (Preview) From the MIP Alanon board:- "Your participation here has spiraled into as much insanity as the member who was recently banned. As another member, it's uncomfortable to watch, impossible to participate and just so removed from our purpose and intent." If this is about me- this is patently untrue...	DavidG	2	80	August 27th by DavidG
	Embracing the 12 Steps... (Preview) I can't say that my SO was going through a relapse. My SO is a lovely mother, grandmas and aunt- always has been. But over 38 years I have had to face a mean nasty, gaslighting projecting fiend. Which i have used the steps and meetings as a way of dealing with. Something I didn't cause, can't change or cur...	DavidG	0	52	August 26th by DavidG
	CODA explained... (Preview) https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=405968197554255&set=a.399936418157433	DavidG	0	47	August 25th by DavidG
	Meetings... (Preview) If a CODA member came through this way- I would go up to the Mall for coffee time and swap notes. ACA is unlikely to take hold here in my lifetime- barring a miracle. I have scaled down my involvement in recovery. 10 years with MIP groups. ... Getting across a city and sharing at a meeting for 3 or 4 min...	DavidG	0	56	August 24th by DavidG
	Projection... both backwards and forwards... (Preview) ...scripting is something I reflect on a fair bit, doing Step 11. Where I end and other start- that sort of thing. In years past my boundaries have been bombarded. Sometimes that have been absent. And then I began to notice- that other people were being co-dependent on me- foisting their solutions...	DavidG	1	49	August 24th by DavidG
	Random, random, random... lock-down chocolate... (Preview) Number one for me... Brene. These are unprecedented times!!!	DavidG	3	83	August 24th by DavidG
	CODA TRADITION 10 (Preview) MARIANNE ELIOT'S book "Zen under Fire" is a great treatise on codependency. A relationship starved of emotion under a really straitened situation. [https://www.thenile.co.nz/books/marianne-elliott/zen-under-fire/9780143567158?gclid=Cj0KCQjwjo2JBhCRARIsAFG667WLwLYu9oW7...	DavidG	0	52	August 23rd by DavidG
	Making Mistakes. (Preview) We have the right to be wrong. As co-dependents we are often bamboozled by dependents who expect perfection a fair bit. But in their overall life-style, that may not have made it at all. Not for themselves. One of the classic images of us- as a co-dependent- is being locked together with a narci...	DavidG	0	46	August 23rd by DavidG
	Trying far too hard- can sometimes work- because it create resilience. (Preview) I come from a small compact country. 5 million. We have communities here, and networks and links between these communities. Below is the testimony of a family member- a strong korero- a speaking time. I would have followed a talk like that with a song- so, as a consequence, I will follow with a song...	DavidG	2	67	August 22nd by DavidG
	Angry with the MIP family... (Preview) This is my only point of contact with the MIP family. This CODA board. Like with my own FOO, I felt that MIP had treated me really badly. There is one person in the MIP family I think ah kin trust. And you might be that person reading this right now. ??? Gaslighting and bullying. My place here is stop b...	DavidG	5	84	August 21st by DavidG
	"Our" meetings... (Preview) [https://www.codependentsanonymous.org.au/nz-meetings]	DavidG	0	46	August 20th by DavidG
	CODA, Tradition 6. (Preview) Hi Y'all... CODA, Tradition 6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. This tradition is fairly straight forward. It is closely related...	DavidG	1	58	August 19th by DavidG
	Reining in cross-talk at 12 Step meetings. (Preview) Oh yes! I do have a face 2 face meeting. About an hour away from here. [AFG meeting]. They have made me a group rep for our meeting. I went to an assembly last weekend. ... In my report I made something clear- we have a -no cross-talk- guideline for the core of our meeting. I think that this is good news for c...	DavidG	0	60	August 16th by DavidG
	Co-dependency, CARE or CURE? (Preview) Hi y'all... understanding is the gateway to change? I describe myself as a racehorse who was put to the plough. There were not always straight lines behind me. Yesterday i topped a walnut tree. I was scared that when I became 84 I would be too old- and the branches too heavy- to do is then. So I did...	DavidG	0	49	August 15th by DavidG
	Codependency and health... (Preview) It's about one-ness and a sense of personal belonging. About empathy and ~being in the present~. I think that this is what Step 12 is supposed to look like- on any of our multitude of 12 step programmes. These Miracles in Progress recovery boards were designed by one person- John, to help facilitate...	DavidG	0	44	August 14th by DavidG
	Averse to Change? (Preview) You may not watch those shows- "Survivor". Eight or 10 Americans get out on a desert island.The thing is to vote members "of the tribe" off this island.So with scheming and conniving- in the end- there is only one individual left standing. Does this show project an attitude, or a norm of American l...	DavidG	2	81	August 11th by DavidG
	The 12 Step mothership... (Preview) Hi y'all... Betty K. was a stalwart of one of the MIP recovery groups. I met her eight years ago, after braving the underground subway system of New York City. She told me that she had been to Stepping Stones, north of NY. With a whole lot of people. I was an out of town visitor, and I only had my SO with me. We...	DavidG	0	67	August 10th by DavidG
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