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lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends we need to be clear about what we're apologizing for and the best way to say we're sorry. What we are really doing with our amends is taking responsibility for...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means we deal with feelings appropriately; we take responsibility for ourselves. We detach, when detachment is called for. We set boundaries, when we need to do that. We negotiate co...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do. We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something. Sometimes, doing a thing bef...

SugarBee · SugarBee

Hi, I'm a woman living in Canada, with a history of self-harming behaviour including anorexia and bulimia. I have had major issues with both money and food resulting in obesity, and now I am reasonably healthy and on the road to a healthy relationship with food. As a result of a toxic upbringing, I h...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest. In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as talking about feeli...

jj · jj

hi MIP family, still sober, still looking to do the next right thing... and going to school full time. the past year i have been getting all the prerequisites together so i could get on the list to take a certificate couse to be a nurses aid. i am leaning towards elder care up here in my rural part of nor...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. —Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, ri...

maka · maka

I'm new to the CODA online forum and unsure how to get started! About 5 years ago I realized and identified with the CODA/ACOA/Alanon traits but really never established any type of recovery program. I have found myself back in school and given an assignment to seek a 12 step supportive group as a homew...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Let healing energy flow through your body. The healing energy of God, the Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for us to draw on it, waiting for us to draw it in. It's waiting at our meetings or groups, on the words of a whispered prayer, in a gentle touch, a positive word, a...

RuthViolet · RuthViolet

Hello! I am new here and want to thank you for all the great info and posts. It is very helpful to read. As I have been reading over the Coda book and reading some AlAnon literature I have been working to step away from taking others inventory -- a very consistent and bad habit I have acquired over the year...

ivone · ivone

need a female sponsor to work the steps.

gladysg · gladysg

I want to form healthy friendships, but not rekindle the friendships I've had in the past. I had a person who came up to me telling me she wanted to be my friend. She gave me a lot of grief. I don't mind being around her but I know we could not be good friends. I told her so and told her that I'm not good at tact but...

Red Hawk · Red Hawk

This one really hit me today. Even though it's from an Al-Anon book, I think most people can benefit from it. Hope others gain some insight from it, as well! Red Hawk "The Al-Anon slogans are little pieces of advice. If we were entirely capable of putting them all into practice, we'd be pretty cl...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially responsible for ourselves. The feeling is understandable; the attitude is not healthy. Many people in recovery may believe that certain people in particular, and life i...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. —Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family, by our feelings, our thoughts, our circumstances, and ourselves. We are not victims. We do not have to be victims. That is the whole point! Yes, admittin...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Stop trying so hard to control things. It is not our job to control people, outcomes, circumstances, and life. Maybe in the past we couldn't trust and let things happen. But we can now. The way life is unfolding is good. Let it unfold. Stop trying so hard to do better, be better, and be more. Who we are and t...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. Sometimes it takes years for a recovery concept to move from our mind into our heart and soul. We need to work at recovery behaviors with the diligence, effort, an...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Stop trying so hard to make it happen. Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so much and so hard about it. Stop worrying so about it. Stop trying to force, to manipulate, to coerce, or to make it happen. Making things happen is controlli...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again. Some of us trusted our Higher...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Do not be in such a hurry to move on. Relax. Breathe deeply. Be. Be in harmony today. Be open. There is beauty around and in us today. There is purpose and meaning in today. There is importance in today - not so much in what happens to us, but in how we respond. Let today happen. We learn our lessons, we work th...

Freya · Freya

I wrote a while back about how I've been changing how I do things. I've been working really hard on my coda programme, working the steps and really wanting to do things differently. I can feel myself changing. I can see how I'm seeing things differently, and for a good few weeks this has felt as if I'm mo...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had discrepancies between what they said and did. We may have had a mother or father who said, "I love you" to us, and then abandoned or neglected us, giving us confu...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

God is subtle, but he is not malicious. —Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our understanding of God. Our understanding may have been shaped by early religious experiences or the beliefs of those around us. We may wonder if God is as shaming and frighte...

jazzmynn · jazzmynn

My daughter is very special to me. She had my first grandchild a year ago, and I love that child so much. But, my daughter often treats me cruel by a snide remark or other bahaviors. The night before the 4th of July, my husband and I babysat our granddaughter so my daughter could g out with friends. Anywa...

tracy · tracy

I started some step work with a friend last night it brought the focus back to me and off my alcoholic partner. Reading from the work book it said I was powerless over my disease SMACK I do not tru;ly believe that I have acceoted I am sick. I know on an intelligence level but I keep slipping back into denial...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

"Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding each step and event...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship? With a particular character d...

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	Daily Meditation ~ Making Amends (Preview) Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends we need to be clear about what we're apologizing for and the best way to say we're sorry. What we are really doing with our amends is taking responsibility for...	lilmzsparkles	4	1287	Sep 1, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job (Preview) It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means we deal with feelings appropriately; we take responsibility for ourselves. We detach, when detachment is called for. We set boundaries, when we need to do that. We negotiate co...	lilmzsparkles	0	788	Aug 28, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Procrastination (Preview) Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do. We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something. Sometimes, doing a thing bef...	lilmzsparkles	0	588	Aug 27, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, I'm a woman living in Canada, with a history of self-harming behaviour including anorexia and bulimia. I have had major issues with both money and food resulting in obesity, and now I am reasonably healthy and on the road to a healthy relationship with food. As a result of a toxic upbringing, I h...	SugarBee	6	636	Aug 21, 2011 by SugarBee
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Shame (Preview) Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach shame to healthy behaviors that are in our best interest. In dysfunctional families, shame can be tagged to healthy behaviors such as talking about feeli...	lilmzsparkles	0	1040	Aug 19, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	good morning from jj/sheila (Preview) hi MIP family, still sober, still looking to do the next right thing... and going to school full time. the past year i have been getting all the prerequisites together so i could get on the list to take a certificate couse to be a nurses aid. i am leaning towards elder care up here in my rural part of nor...	jj	2	653	Aug 19, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Valuing this Moment (Preview) Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. —Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, ri...	lilmzsparkles	3	1146	Aug 19, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	New to the CODA online forum (Preview) I'm new to the CODA online forum and unsure how to get started! About 5 years ago I realized and identified with the CODA/ACOA/Alanon traits but really never established any type of recovery program. I have found myself back in school and given an assignment to seek a 12 step supportive group as a homew...	maka	10	4274	Aug 15, 2011 by Dean
	Daily Meditation ~ Friends (Preview) Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...	lilmzsparkles	2	500	Aug 13, 2011 by mimayita
	Daily Meditation ~ Healing (Preview) Let healing energy flow through your body. The healing energy of God, the Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for us to draw on it, waiting for us to draw it in. It's waiting at our meetings or groups, on the words of a whispered prayer, in a gentle touch, a positive word, a...	lilmzsparkles	0	481	Aug 11, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Taking others inventory (Preview) Hello! I am new here and want to thank you for all the great info and posts. It is very helpful to read. As I have been reading over the Coda book and reading some AlAnon literature I have been working to step away from taking others inventory -- a very consistent and bad habit I have acquired over the year...	RuthViolet	2	1377	Aug 10, 2011 by HealingChild
	need a female sponsor to work the steps (Preview) need a female sponsor to work the steps.	ivone	3	646	Aug 10, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Does this make sense? (Preview) I want to form healthy friendships, but not rekindle the friendships I've had in the past. I had a person who came up to me telling me she wanted to be my friend. She gave me a lot of grief. I don't mind being around her but I know we could not be good friends. I told her so and told her that I'm not good at tact but...	gladysg	5	839	Aug 10, 2011 by Dean
	Today's Reading (re-posted from Al-Anon board) (Preview) This one really hit me today. Even though it's from an Al-Anon book, I think most people can benefit from it. Hope others gain some insight from it, as well! Red Hawk "The Al-Anon slogans are little pieces of advice. If we were entirely capable of putting them all into practice, we'd be pretty cl...	Red Hawk	2	1300	Aug 7, 2011 by maka
	Daily Meditation ~ Solving Problems (Preview) Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....	lilmzsparkles	0	725	Aug 6, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Attitudes Toward Money (Preview) Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially responsible for ourselves. The feeling is understandable; the attitude is not healthy. Many people in recovery may believe that certain people in particular, and life i...	lilmzsparkles	2	586	Aug 6, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Vulnerability (Preview) I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. —Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...	lilmzsparkles	0	518	Aug 4, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Owning Our Power (Preview) Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family, by our feelings, our thoughts, our circumstances, and ourselves. We are not victims. We do not have to be victims. That is the whole point! Yes, admittin...	lilmzsparkles	3	785	Aug 4, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go (Preview) Stop trying so hard to control things. It is not our job to control people, outcomes, circumstances, and life. Maybe in the past we couldn't trust and let things happen. But we can now. The way life is unfolding is good. Let it unfold. Stop trying so hard to do better, be better, and be more. Who we are and t...	lilmzsparkles	2	809	Aug 4, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Keep At It (Preview) Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. Sometimes it takes years for a recovery concept to move from our mind into our heart and soul. We need to work at recovery behaviors with the diligence, effort, an...	lilmzsparkles	3	715	Aug 3, 2011 by LinBaba
	Daily Meditation ~ Making It Happen (Preview) Stop trying so hard to make it happen. Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so much and so hard about it. Stop worrying so about it. Stop trying to force, to manipulate, to coerce, or to make it happen. Making things happen is controlli...	lilmzsparkles	0	999	Jul 23, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Learning to Trust Again (Preview) Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again. Some of us trusted our Higher...	lilmzsparkles	0	938	Jul 22, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Resistance (Preview) Do not be in such a hurry to move on. Relax. Breathe deeply. Be. Be in harmony today. Be open. There is beauty around and in us today. There is purpose and meaning in today. There is importance in today - not so much in what happens to us, but in how we respond. Let today happen. We learn our lessons, we work th...	lilmzsparkles	1	877	Jul 21, 2011 by Dean
	It feels like things are falling apart (Preview) I wrote a while back about how I've been changing how I do things. I've been working really hard on my coda programme, working the steps and really wanting to do things differently. I can feel myself changing. I can see how I'm seeing things differently, and for a good few weeks this has felt as if I'm mo...	Freya	9	1112	Jul 20, 2011 by Freya
	Daily Meditation ~ Love, in Words & Actions (Preview) Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had discrepancies between what they said and did. We may have had a mother or father who said, "I love you" to us, and then abandoned or neglected us, giving us confu...	lilmzsparkles	0	603	Jul 17, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ God as We Understand God (Preview) God is subtle, but he is not malicious. —Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our understanding of God. Our understanding may have been shaped by early religious experiences or the beliefs of those around us. We may wonder if God is as shaming and frighte...	lilmzsparkles	0	520	Jul 14, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	How do I cope with this? (Preview) My daughter is very special to me. She had my first grandchild a year ago, and I love that child so much. But, my daughter often treats me cruel by a snide remark or other bahaviors. The night before the 4th of July, my husband and I babysat our granddaughter so my daughter could g out with friends. Anywa...	jazzmynn	2	782	Jul 13, 2011 by jj
	step work (Preview) I started some step work with a friend last night it brought the focus back to me and off my alcoholic partner. Reading from the work book it said I was powerless over my disease SMACK I do not tru;ly believe that I have acceoted I am sick. I know on an intelligence level but I keep slipping back into denial...	tracy	0	743	Jul 13, 2011 by tracy
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment (Preview) "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding each step and event...	lilmzsparkles	0	1510	Jul 12, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Bring Any Request to God (Preview) Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship? With a particular character d...	lilmzsparkles	0	698	Jul 11, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
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