Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

"Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding each step and event...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship? With a particular character d...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending...

forgiveness=healing · forgiveness=healing

I am new to this site, as well as to the realization that I am co dependent. Looking at myself and beginning to make changes in what I see, thus far has been a back and forth effort! i realize that just because I intend to, and have a desire to change things is not quite so simple.... i was wonderingif any one h...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him. —Anonymous I spent ten years buying everything for myself at garage sales. I didn't even buy myself a new pair of shoes. The entire time I was depriving myself, my husband was gambl...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe. Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current, unless it is necessary for your surv...

gladlee · gladlee

My boyfriend loves to read. He purchased a book titled Lasting Love, The Five Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship by Hendricks and Hendricks. I am grateful he has five secrets. I have 12. We laugh about that together. In short, the secrets are commitment, emotional transparency...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Let yourself have a good gripe session. From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we w...

kimmy1975 · kimmy1975

Hi! My name is Kimmy. I found this board kind of by accident. I am a member of the MIP alanon board, although I rarely post there anymore, but I read there daily. Anyway, I clicked on the wrong button while reading there and it brought me to the MIP home page, and I noticed that there is a CoDA board. My q...

Melusine · Melusine

Hi Everyone, I am new to this board ,but not to recovery. In the last couple of months a lot of family of origin issues have come up for me in relation to a toxic relationship that went really wrong. I wound up taking steps to sever the relationship, but have also been struggling with feeling abandoned by...

Berni · Berni

I have spent many years caring for others and as I come from a very large family there are a few that I have used the Karpman Dram triangle on. I know from the twelve steps how to detach with love but I am having great difficulty with letting go of my only grandchild who is 4 years old. From circumstances aft...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then it hits. Guilt. Whenever we begin to experience the fullness and joy of life, we may feel guilty about those we've left behind - those not recovering,...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your successes, your growth, and your accomplishments. Celebrate you and who you are. For too long you have been too hard on yourself. Others have spilled their negative energy - their attitudes, beliefs, and pain - on you. It had nothing to do with you! All along, yo...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling afraid, going away, or disliking us. But our need to control traps us into feeling like victims and martyrs. Freedom is just a few words away. Those wor...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now." These are a...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

BLUE BOOK STUDY RETREATFriday 29th ~ Sunday 31st July 2011 “To a loving Higher Power,To each member of the Fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous andTo the codependent who still suffers.” Welcome to St Joseph’s Prayer Cte, Formby, U.K.A Great Place to Increase Your Conscious Contact with God(O...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container, the plants had been transferred to a larger container; then transplanted into the garden. Now, because I was moving, we were transplanting them agai...

daisy31 · daisy31

I have a friend who has been a great friend for the last 3 years. Her husband is no longer drinking or doing drugs but he still has the same behaviors though. He has a long term illness. My friend has been such a caretaker and enabled him so much. I never realized how unhealthy it was until recently as I h...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

God's will most often happens in spite of us, not because of us. We may try to second guess what God has in mind for us, looking, searching, hypervigilant to seek God's will as though it were a buried treasure, hidden beyond our reach. If we find it, we win the prize. But if we're not careful, we miss out. Th...

gladlee · gladlee

YESTERDAY IS FINISHED - I AM READY FOR TODAY "I unclutter my consciousness today, and rid myself of old patterns, old hurts and wrong beliefs. I close the book on yesterday and focus my thoughts on today. Equipped with fresh ideas, feelings and new ways of living, I am now free to proceed with th...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...

gladlee · gladlee

Namaste ((my friends))For the past few days, I have been struggling big time…. like, Higher power has been trying to show me some major things...Last Friday, I was angry about my employer's behavior. On Sunday, I was angry about my family's behavior. On Monday, I was angry about my boyfriend’s b...

jazzmynn · jazzmynn

I am co-dependent and have been that way for years. I am currently upset because of a friend issue. Please tell me what you think of this. I used to live next door to Mary and we were really good friends. I have another friend named jane whoo had no friends and was lonely. I introduced her to Mary and we we...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Boundaries to me are what the entire Program hinge on, learning where I end and another person begins, I spent nearly my entire life wondering why my "boundaries" worked with some people but not others, because I thought enforcing a boundary meant informing another person how they had ha...

daisy31 · daisy31

Hello all, I am new here and just now realizing that I am very codependant. I feel overwhelmed as to what I have to do to overcome this but I am also ready to do it! I have 2 things that are coming up for me the first is that I generally want everyone's approval. Anytime I write on any site that I am on then I w...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Just as we have relationship histories, most of us have work histories. Just as we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our relationship life, we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our work life. Just as we develop a healthy attitude toward our relationship histor...

Red Hawk · Red Hawk

Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! Today I Accept My Mistakes I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...

lilmzsparkles · lilmzsparkles

Let yourself feel the good feelings too. Yes, sometimes, good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway. Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warm...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment (Preview) "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding each step and event...	lilmzsparkles	0	1510	Jul 12, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Bring Any Request to God (Preview) Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God everything we want and need. Do we need help getting our balance? Getting through the day? Do we need help in a particular relationship? With a particular character d...	lilmzsparkles	0	698	Jul 11, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Ending Relationships (Preview) It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the relationship die from lack of attention rather than risk ending it. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the other person take responsibility for ending...	lilmzsparkles	1	990	Jul 10, 2011 by forgiveness=healing
	setting boundries (Preview) I am new to this site, as well as to the realization that I am co dependent. Looking at myself and beginning to make changes in what I see, thus far has been a back and forth effort! i realize that just because I intend to, and have a desire to change things is not quite so simple.... i was wonderingif any one h...	forgiveness=healing	4	962	Jul 9, 2011 by forgiveness=healing
	Daily Meditation ~ Overspending & Underspending (Preview) I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him. —Anonymous I spent ten years buying everything for myself at garage sales. I didn't even buy myself a new pair of shoes. The entire time I was depriving myself, my husband was gambl...	lilmzsparkles	0	806	Jul 9, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Going With The Flow (Preview) Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment, the river of your life, your place in the universe. Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current, unless it is necessary for your surv...	lilmzsparkles	1	913	Jul 9, 2011 by Freya
	honesty in a relationship... (Preview) My boyfriend loves to read. He purchased a book titled Lasting Love, The Five Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship by Hendricks and Hendricks. I am grateful he has five secrets. I have 12. We laugh about that together. In short, the secrets are commitment, emotional transparency...	gladlee	2	833	Jul 8, 2011 by Red Hawk
	Daily Meditation ~ Getting It All Out (Preview) Let yourself have a good gripe session. From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay to gripe and complain. We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we w...	lilmzsparkles	0	478	Jul 7, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Hi! New here! Got a question about codependency. (Preview) Hi! My name is Kimmy. I found this board kind of by accident. I am a member of the MIP alanon board, although I rarely post there anymore, but I read there daily. Anyway, I clicked on the wrong button while reading there and it brought me to the MIP home page, and I noticed that there is a CoDA board. My q...	kimmy1975	7	1164	Jul 7, 2011 by Melusine
	Grief (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new to this board ,but not to recovery. In the last couple of months a lot of family of origin issues have come up for me in relation to a toxic relationship that went really wrong. I wound up taking steps to sever the relationship, but have also been struggling with feeling abandoned by...	Melusine	4	1041	Jul 7, 2011 by Melusine
	Letting go (Preview) I have spent many years caring for others and as I come from a very large family there are a few that I have used the Karpman Dram triangle on. I know from the twelve steps how to detach with love but I am having great difficulty with letting go of my only grandchild who is 4 years old. From circumstances aft...	Berni	4	876	Jul 6, 2011 by jj
	Daily Meditation ~ Survivor Guilt (Preview) We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then it hits. Guilt. Whenever we begin to experience the fullness and joy of life, we may feel guilty about those we've left behind - those not recovering,...	lilmzsparkles	0	703	Jul 5, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Celebrate (Preview) Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your successes, your growth, and your accomplishments. Celebrate you and who you are. For too long you have been too hard on yourself. Others have spilled their negative energy - their attitudes, beliefs, and pain - on you. It had nothing to do with you! All along, yo...	lilmzsparkles	0	622	Jul 4, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Directness (Preview) So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling afraid, going away, or disliking us. But our need to control traps us into feeling like victims and martyrs. Freedom is just a few words away. Those wor...	lilmzsparkles	0	499	Jul 3, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Who Knows Best? (Preview) Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now." These are a...	lilmzsparkles	0	457	Jul 2, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	CoDA Retreat ~ Formby/Freshfield Northwest U.K. (Preview) BLUE BOOK STUDY RETREATFriday 29th ~ Sunday 31st July 2011 “To a loving Higher Power,To each member of the Fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous andTo the codependent who still suffers.” Welcome to St Joseph’s Prayer Cte, Formby, U.K.A Great Place to Increase Your Conscious Contact with God(O...	lilmzsparkles	2	1827	Jun 30, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Accepting Change (Preview) One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container, the plants had been transferred to a larger container; then transplanted into the garden. Now, because I was moving, we were transplanting them agai...	lilmzsparkles	0	605	Jun 30, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	How to detach from a friend (Preview) I have a friend who has been a great friend for the last 3 years. Her husband is no longer drinking or doing drugs but he still has the same behaviors though. He has a long term illness. My friend has been such a caretaker and enabled him so much. I never realized how unhealthy it was until recently as I h...	daisy31	2	1001	Jun 30, 2011 by tracy
	Daily Meditation ~ God's Will (Preview) God's will most often happens in spite of us, not because of us. We may try to second guess what God has in mind for us, looking, searching, hypervigilant to seek God's will as though it were a buried treasure, hidden beyond our reach. If we find it, we win the prize. But if we're not careful, we miss out. Th...	lilmzsparkles	0	772	Jun 29, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	ACOA - The Past (Preview) YESTERDAY IS FINISHED - I AM READY FOR TODAY "I unclutter my consciousness today, and rid myself of old patterns, old hurts and wrong beliefs. I close the book on yesterday and focus my thoughts on today. Equipped with fresh ideas, feelings and new ways of living, I am now free to proceed with th...	gladlee	0	506	Jun 29, 2011 by gladlee
	Daily Meditation ~ When Things Don't Work (Preview) Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...	lilmzsparkles	0	621	Jun 28, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Achieving Harmony (Preview) When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...	lilmzsparkles	1	591	Jun 27, 2011 by Freya
	Sitting tight with the truth (Preview) Namaste ((my friends))For the past few days, I have been struggling big time…. like, Higher power has been trying to show me some major things...Last Friday, I was angry about my employer's behavior. On Sunday, I was angry about my family's behavior. On Monday, I was angry about my boyfriend’s b...	gladlee	2	747	Jun 26, 2011 by tracy
	I need help (Preview) I am co-dependent and have been that way for years. I am currently upset because of a friend issue. Please tell me what you think of this. I used to live next door to Mary and we were really good friends. I have another friend named jane whoo had no friends and was lonely. I introduced her to Mary and we we...	jazzmynn	2	795	Jun 26, 2011 by Dean
	Daily Meditation ~ Withholding (Preview) Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...	lilmzsparkles	0	484	Jun 25, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Step One and Boundaries (Preview) Boundaries to me are what the entire Program hinge on, learning where I end and another person begins, I spent nearly my entire life wondering why my "boundaries" worked with some people but not others, because I thought enforcing a boundary meant informing another person how they had ha...	LinBaba	4	2670	Jun 24, 2011 by Freya
	Others approval/boundaries (Preview) Hello all, I am new here and just now realizing that I am very codependant. I feel overwhelmed as to what I have to do to overcome this but I am also ready to do it! I have 2 things that are coming up for me the first is that I generally want everyone's approval. Anytime I write on any site that I am on then I w...	daisy31	3	639	Jun 22, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	Daily Meditation ~ Work Histories (Preview) Just as we have relationship histories, most of us have work histories. Just as we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our relationship life, we have a present circumstance to accept and deal with in our work life. Just as we develop a healthy attitude toward our relationship histor...	lilmzsparkles	0	559	Jun 22, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
	A Daily Reading (re-posted from ACoA board) (Preview) Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! *Today I Accept My Mistakes* I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...	Red Hawk	1	2036	Jun 22, 2011 by Freya
	Daily Meditation ~ The Good Feelings (Preview) Let yourself feel the good feelings too. Yes, sometimes, good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway. Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warm...	lilmzsparkles	0	1968	Jun 21, 2011 by lilmzsparkles
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