Not many CODA meetings in my area, so I went to the next option, and went to an Alanon meeting. Plenty of them in my area. The meeting was small but very warm and inviting. I enjoyed the topic- Live and Let Live and the shares of the folks there. The shares came from the angle of taking care of ourself and let others take care of themselves. The freedom that's felt when we let go of others and their problems. That we can turn our problems over to a HP and be restored to sanity(Step 2).
I went home and worked on Step 2 out of my CODA Literature. I then read: "By believing we create the space for that to happen- be restored to sanity. We stop empowering the problem and begin to empower the solution, one that will be given to us." We may not know when or how but it will happen. It then goes on to say that whenever Melody is tied up inside she re-visits step 2- the solution. It's God that can do this, not me. How did I fall this far off the beam..........
I then realized this was the missing link to my unmanageability, serenity and peace. I've been searching for this, but just couldn't put my fingers on it. I think I had lost my faith and trust in a HP and didn't know it. My mind was stuck on searching for an answer and the answer was step 2 then 3. Somehow my mind got twisted that I thought I needed to restore my own sanity. Insane right. I've tried for years to do this- not successful. The solution was a re-visit to Step 2- God could and would if he were sought. I prayed and got reconnect with Step 2. Now Step 3 make a whole lot more sense. I can I go through the motions of turning my will and life over to a HP if my faith and trust aren't in line............... I feel real good today.
God did for me what I could not do for myself. He revealed more... clarity... in his time....... I'm grateful for that.
Sounds as though the meeting was benefial to ya! YAY! So glad you are in a better place (mentally/emotionally).
I've just begun attending Alanon meetings, so I'm not very familiar with the steps. However, prior to deciding to attend such meetings, I've read tons of books. All the books said the same thing: the mind that created the problems cannot solve the problems. Makes sense to me. Seems to be what you are sharing.
It's hard to hand over the problem. But when I do, I find that the answer comes to me. But DAMN IT! never in my time.
