I have been over responsible all my life caring for everyone. Always friends with the kids with problems. Could never say no at 17 got into a relationship and married a compulsive gambler would have a;lways took him back but in the end he lost our home and me and kids had to move on. Then after a year o my own I started to date a fella I had none since cildhood long story short he turned out to be an alcoholic he is in AA and 7 months sober. We have seperated because my co dependent behaviors are raging even though I have been in al anon for over three years I seemed to go backwards when he got sober. I have just started coda meetings and feel like this is for me just me, not about anyone else just me. hugs
Welcome Tracy! Glad to have you hear with us. Alcoholism and other complusive disorders are a family diesase. Everyone is impacted whether they know it or not. I come from the other side of the equation- I'm the recovering Alcoholic. When I sobered up and started recovery through AA- I changed and so did the family dynamics. I became independent and able to stand on my own 2 feet. I got confident and re-gained my self esteem. I got to a point where I could say "no" and had boundries. I used a Sponsor and the Fellowship to discuss my issues with. My wife was not pleased. She still struggles with it today. But, that's her issues and not mine. My kids have slowly come around. I believe they're happy to have a Dad and not a friend. Like I used to be.
I also have co-dependent characteristics that I'm working on here and now in Alanon. I'm also an Adult Child of an Alcoholic.
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