I had become so reliant on my sober ABF emotionally and as he got better and saw this he suggested we needed space to concentrate on our recoveries as it was unhealthy. He was so right we have not spoke to for 5 days I have started to reach out to others I did not realise how much I was isolating how my life evolved around him. I am starting to feel little better. I really do believe I am addicted to him. I am worried We said we will see each other once a week for hour or so to keep contact. I am scared that this will trigger all mu neediness and once he goes the pain will return. I am thinking of ringing him and suggesting that maybe we should leave it a little longer. I feel very abandond by him a;lthough I do know this is healthy and its my co dependency feeding these negative thoughts. We have been together 6 years on Wednesdat and it is my sons 18th in a couple of weeks. I just do not know if I can just be friends and I know we can not be together I am just starting to realise how unhealthy our relationship is, but I miss him so much. It is not either of our faults he is an alcoholic I know he loves me and I am a co dependent a grandaughter of an alcoholic our diseases brought u together. we do love each other but we are both unwell, I am so confused. I just want us both to be happy and today I can say this is even if it means we need to seperate for good, wow my will must be realising maybe its been wrong all along.
I can really relate to your feelings here Tracy. I am going through something very similar with my partner. I just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and am sending hugs. Freya