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I read about this " The Karpman Drama Triangle " in our Codependent No More book a few weeks ago, and then looked at it again this past week. I have always found that in my recovery that when I am ready to grow, and I am looking at the apropreate material, that I act out the worst case ( or at least it seems ) of what I need to learn. This weekend was the Karpan Triangle. Rescue - Persecute - Victim. It was very painfull going through it as it usualy is, but this time I was able to see how exactly I play the role on each side of the triangle. And how very unloving it is, and that my illution of controling ( Helping to make it better ) is really controling me, ans has me steping and fetching to the sick dance of codependency. Thank God I have 12 steps in my life so I dont have to wallow in the mire of my disfunction, and I can ease the sting of what comes out of me. 

I have been a little sparse on these boards for a while. I went back to work a couple of weeks ago, after being out of work for a real long time and my contact with sober recovery orientated people has diminished some what which has pushed me inside if myself. Not a real good place for a selfish selfcenterd alcacodie. I am so gratefull for the way out ( 12 steps and God ) when I have had enough of me, which is what I really suffer from, not alcohol or them.      



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Thank you for your share, Billyjack. I love your raw, heartfelt honesty. I love especially your last sentence. I'm my problem too! I found myself running left, right & centre for help last week & it was within me all along. I went to my place of worship, fell to my knees & gave myself back to my Higher Power. I need only try to love myself as much as this & the rest of the answers come easier. The Steps & my God is the way out for me too.

No longer do I need to look to others for that which is given to me inside if I only choose to listen. We are precious & free. The irony of it is that I do need help when I'm lost & we do do this together but the answers are inside when we open up & look for them. Patience is a virtue & God's delays aren't God's denials. They do come if we work & wait for them. Thank you for being here, Billyjack to just the right amount that's God's will for you. Recovery love & blessings, Danielle x



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Thanks for sharing this Billyjack. I'm my problem too. I am finding it so hard to reconnect with myself and not rely on others for my sense of self and worth, but I'm really struggling with it. I love what Danielle says about God's delays not being God's denials, but I am struggling right now to find a place of serenity.

I just wanted to let you know I hear what you are saying and can so relate to it.
Take care Billyjack.
Freya x

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