Since splitting with my sober abf I have been spending a littl bit more time with my mother. Her co dependency is running riot she is trying to offer support which I do need a little of right now but I am noticing more and more where I learnt this behavior. we went shoping yesterday. She told me where to park, what bread i should buy, it was craziness. However I am very happy with how I handled the situation. I identified that she loves me and is coming from a good place she just wants to help. firstly I parked where she suggested and thought well how important is it. When she was telling me what bread to but I just replied politley I get this one mum. I am so glad I am in recovery it is very tiring being around people who,s co dependency has progressed right up the scale and it reminds me how bad I was and where I will go back to if I do not keep on with CODA . I know I can identify this today because I have recovered a little tiny bit but am aware if I want peace , serenity and happy relationships I need to stay and knuckle down.
I chuckled a little bit to myself reading your post, Tracy. What a lovely growing awareness you're having. God bless you & your courage to stay on the path.
