Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization.
Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
Or we may have been taught, as kids, that mistreatment was some kind of love or the best "attention" we would ever get from our parents and/or SOs. I was even taught that I NEED to learn how to "take it like a man" when others, especially our parents, abused us. It was noble and heroic to just smile or keep a straight face while being ABUSED or, worse, neglected.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
Teachings about "letting go" and "believing" often sent me into a tailspin over HOW TO DO IT? I suppose that was and still is the whole point of getting into Recovery to finally learn HOW to do or be such and such. My higher power helped me a lot to LEARN HOW to stop the abuses and begin finding the love, respect and happiness that my Shame-based parents and a few others had robbed from me at the beginning of this latest life cycle on earth. It's a shame that the Abusers never had an opportunity to get into Recovery during their earthly adventure. Oh well...........NEXT TIME!
