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Tampa


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I have many times referred to myself as the verbal "Whipping Post" as he does verbally abuse me. and yet I can't seem to leave this person. Who would want to stay in such relations not just with the person who is supposed to be your best friend and lover but just anyone in general?

Being badgered the past two days:

Stupid F*cking B*tch -Bite the hand that feeds you f*cking stupid b*tch - No wonder my family f*cking hates you - You act like a f*cking child -Get the f*ck out of my house - You're a f*cking child - It's amazing YOU have a child - I don't want this - I don't need this sh*t - I DON'T WANT YOU HERE - SHUT up, shut up, shut up and pack your f*cking sh*t - what the f*ck is the matter with you... you can call the cops or whatever you are a miserable disturbance here.

This can go on and on. This was one piece of the verbal lashing in about 2 minutes over spilled tea.

And yes I know Whipping Post is done by the Allman Brothers.

 



-- Edited by Tampa on Saturday 20th of June 2015 09:41:26 AM



-- Edited by Tampa on Saturday 20th of June 2015 09:43:25 AM

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Tampa, Sending positive energy to give you strength and wisdom in this difficult time.

Peace


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Sorry. I think I would like to stop drinking tea with this person at the very least. Thoughts of some sci-fi disappearing at the push of a button came to mind though. But sometimes it's not possible to get out quickly and stay out. I like to change rooms and or times that I do things in like eat, sleep, and get ready for the day. Then the person has the choice of following me and I have the choice of getting a job if I don't already have one and leaving if the behavior doesn't get any better. Good luck.

Another alternative that I have wanted to try is couples therapy. But I would definitely need a job for that. 



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fap123 wrote:

Tampa, Sending positive energy to give you strength and wisdom in this difficult time.

Peace

 Thanks, it's always needed.



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Sorry. I think I would like to stop drinking tea with this person at the very least. Thoughts of some sci-fi disappearing at the push of a button came to mind though. But sometimes it's not possible to get out quickly and stay out. I like to change rooms and or times that I do things in like eat, sleep, and get ready for the day. Then the person has the choice of following me and I have the choice of getting a job if I don't already have one and leaving if the behavior doesn't get any better. Good luck.

YES, a job, I would love. I have been looking for months now and a college graduate. Maybe if I dummied down my resume I might find a "job".  I do own a small virtual IT business that I work tirelessly at. I also have my own room as well and would love to have silence in times like this. Living with an active alcoholic is difficult and especially when you've come to the realization that you are codependent. Hmm... never thought of that.



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Good luck on the job search. It sounds like you're at least doing something to put on your resume. I wouldn't over emphasize it. And I would be willing to take an entry level job in this economy. Then when I have a job it's time to look for a better job.

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Lol. I wouldn't tell the first job or the man about any of my plans for leaving. You might like that song that says something like just slip out the back Jack...


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Lol. I wouldn't tell the first job or the man about any of my plans for leaving. You might like that song that says something like just slip out the back Jack...

Oh no... not going to do that. 



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Good luck on the job search. It sounds like you're at least doing something to put on your resume. I wouldn't over emphasize it. And I would be willing to take an entry level job in this economy. Then when I have a job it's time to look for a better job.

Any job will do for me... even McD's or anything. I need to make specific resume for each job I'm applying I guess. 



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I would start with indeed.com. I think they even help you with your resume. Then see if you can print it and take it to the places that you usually go and fill out an application. The practice will help you when it's time to step out of your comfort zone a little. I mean I've gone so far as to make cold calls from a telephone book. Also asking questions about a job can get you hired whether there's a job available or not. Employers like people who take an interest for some reason. They say you can make up your own job after some experience but I don't know. I'm not very good at dreaming up things that don't exist. Lol. Can you believe that I wanted to be a designer? I'm more of a a retro fitter.

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(((Tampa))) My heart hurts for what you are going through.
Are you safe? That seems overly explosive for spilled tea.
Living with an alcoholic makes the codependency worse, but in
My situation, it has brought a greater awareness to the fact that
This is what I've dealt with my whole life.
I hope you can find a peaceful place to go- either in your home
or with a friend.
Thinking of you during this time.

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(((Tampa))) My heart hurts for what you are going through.
Are you safe? That seems overly explosive for spilled tea.
Living with an alcoholic makes the codependency worse, but in
My situation, it has brought a greater awareness to the fact that
This is what I've dealt with my whole life.
I hope you can find a peaceful place to go- either in your home
or with a friend.
Thinking of you during this time.

Thank you hon. I'm okay...promise. When he gets mad he just verbally explodes. He was fantastic yesterday! As usual the bad comes with good. Thanks to Al-Anon and this realizing I'm codependent and being here on this forum board helps. Hope to see you soon in the room. ((gabigail)) 



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Bumble Dunny wrote:

I would start with indeed.com. I think they even help you with your resume. Then see if you can print it and take it to the places that you usually go and fill out an application. The practice will help you when it's time to step out of your comfort zone a little. I mean I've gone so far as to make cold calls from a telephone book. Also asking questions about a job can get you hired whether there's a job available or not. Employers like people who take an interest for some reason. They say you can make up your own job after some experience but I don't know. I'm not very good at dreaming up things that don't exist. Lol. Can you believe that I wanted to be a designer? I'm more of a a retro fitter.

Well, I've walked into Family Dollar, Walmart, K-Mart etc. and they all point to a computer. They do not deal with paper applications anymore, at least here in Tampa. I am in the IT field and I can't stand that. I would love to meet a person and shake their hand. Good idea on calling companies. I am listed on indeed.com and my resume is up. I look daily and get notices as well as from many other of the like.  



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Yeowza!  I can't deal with people like that for a second.  My step father was that way and then I had a very toxic relationship that was that way.  Only 2 people and I just duck and run.   I just have zero tolerance for being yelled at and called foul names.  It literally paralyzes me, I can't function and have to get away at all costs.

I am glad you are safe and I am very sorry you are dealing with that.  No one, not a single human being, deserves to be treated that way.

Willing



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Yeowza!  I can't deal with people like that for a second.  My step father was that way and then I had a very toxic relationship that was that way.  Only 2 people and I just duck and run.   I just have zero tolerance for being yelled at and called foul names.  It literally paralyzes me, I can't function and have to get away at all costs.

I am glad you are safe and I am very sorry you are dealing with that.  No one, not a single human being, deserves to be treated that way.

Willing

Thank you Willing. I don't know what has happened but he has done a 180. This time expressing LOVE more than ever in our entire relationship. No angry words, not even an argument. I feel like I am in a dream but I do not expect this to last. He's 50 but he acts like a rebellious teenage boy (not irresponsible for jobs or what-have-you).... I am praying that the nasty stays away at least. Not expecting a Knight in shining armor to show up and stay. LOL 



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This forum can work like magic. Just be sure to continue the work on your part, so it won't turn on you. Hugs!

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Bumble Dunny wrote:

This forum can work like magic. Just be sure to continue the work on your part, so it won't turn on you. Hugs!

Yes, work on my part and work the program. Thank you for all the support. Hugs back at you. 



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