You know, I don't get this entire codependency thing. I really need to go speak to a professional about it and I may have some other issues going on. Living with and active alcoholic has been a roller coaster ride and I do not enjoy it at all. I really just enjoy the quiet nice times but the bad can be really bad. He's 50 and I am 43 and our relationship reminds me of one that I had when I was 17 (not really a relationship) if you know what I mean. The past couple of day's I've been (as he says it) sweet as Tupelo Honey. That's his song to me (for many years now) but God can he get evil and then turn and twist things around to make it look like my fault. Sometimes I think I'm the one that's crazy here. And at times I think he's bipolar and he can be VERY egotistical. I don't get the major changes ... I guess that's what I'm posting and I still cling to him. I have been looking around for material to read. I'm also searching for a Doctor in my area.
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The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places. - Ernest Hemingway
This reminded me of my relationship with my wife.
After she would pop the pills and I would find her almost dead. When she would get back from the hospital. She would promise to never do this again, how she loved me, and her kids so much. yada yada yada. Of course I wanted to believe her, maybe this time it would be true. Well if you read a previous topic post of mine. You know how this relationship ends.
The codependency in me kept me stuck. And I might still be in the relationship today, if not for her taking the option off the table. But I didn't understand I was codependent at that point in time.
Would it have made a difference????