I see life through filters. Life experiences I chose to use along my path, sometimes are really bad choices for me.
When I find myself flying out of control headed for that proverbial block wall. I do have other choices. Change my filters.
When my EX-GF bailed on me, yet continued to use me. I still had other choices. Change my filters.
When other people disappoint me in my life. I still have other choices. Change my filters.
When I find myself in these predicaments now. I change my filters.
Like an air or oil filter in my car, if I leave it in too long. The car stops running, I become stranded. Same thing happens when I continue to look through the old filter; I look through in my life. Relationship problems, sadness, rejection, and so on.
Checking my filter often is smart preventive maintenance.
Asking myself,
Am I happy?
Am I taking care of myself first?
What have I done for myself lately?
I hate doing maintenance for myself, having to get motivated to do the work. But the eventual break down is even worse, so I have learned to “just do it”.
Like exercise, I feel like I don’t want to, I’m too tired. But 10 minutes after a hard work out, I feel fine.
Understanding I place the filters in, and can remove them just as easily in my life, if they are not serving my direction I want to go. Just change the filter.
Stop using excuses, and accept 100 percent responsibility for where I am, and KNOW. I can move forward by just replacing my own filter of how I view the world around me.
The only reason it become difficult for me, is because I have become lazy from my past bad habits.
Life is in constant motion, I’m either moving, or I’m in the way of someone who is.
Nobody likes that slow driver in the left lane, on a Friday afternoon.
Wow thank you for the big proverbial slap in the face fap. I have been so very angry today. I'm angry at the person that abandoned me like I was a piece of garbage to be forgotten. I'm angry because I feel like I am just swirling the drain but the water is running so you never actually GO anywhere just swirl the drain and it pisses me off. I don't know how to move forward I have never played this game before I'm just learning and that I SEE others breaking through moving forward pisses me off because I'm steady swirling. Change the filters?! So simple and so difficult. I will have to write those questions down though and start asking myself them throughout my day...maybe it will change my filters today.
WonderGirl, We all have been there (swirling around). I'm just like other on here, tossing out a rope of hope. It's up to you and others to pull yourself to dryer ground. Just like a dog shakes off the water after going for a swim. Shake it off shake it off. Hum... sound like a good song title.
Hi! WONDERFUL questions I need to ask me on a daily basis. Check in with me. Am I happy today? If so, what am I doing or did do to cause that??
Am I taking care of myself first? if not? why? What can I do to remedy this??
What have I done for me lately? Well, first I did ask me these questions over this stressful last couple of days. I was not happy BC I compromised on my beliefs. I acquiesced to another's demands for a while, not considering my limitations. When I corrected this and did set a boundary, it resulted in another trying to bully me and I stood up for me and stated that we were not a match. Am I taking care of myself first? Not at first but I am back on track so the answer today is "yes". and what have I done for me lately? nurturing me, exercising, being honest about my part in conflicts and being willing to make changes to keep my side of the street clean. Putting my needs first and then being willing to share healthy self love with others.
fantastic share, Thanks
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Katie J.
Love begins within me and then radiates out to the universe
