What’s your story, the voice from to the left of me said after a meeting I had been attending for a few months. It was Al, a guy I met with a few times after the meeting. We walked outside and I began to tell my story about how my ex GF left me for some other guy. During my story telling he would hem and haw with the awfulness of how I was un-fairly treated. After I was finished with my story we went our separate ways until the next meeting.
As the months have come and gone by, I reflect back on how accurate my story telling really was after having the benefit of time to heal the hurt I felt at the time of the event.
Funny how much the story changes, when you can see it through this clean filter.
What use to be “the ex GF left me for a new guy” and it was all her fault. Soon became, I could have communicated better with her to see if there were something going on that made her go looking. I’m not saying I take full responsibility for her wrong actions, but I could have done a better job looking back at the situation now with a clean filter.
Even more time to reflect with a clean filter; will reset the story line to. “I was totally responsible for the break-up”. Say what!!
I believe life is much like a movie set. I am the director and an actor in my own movie.
If the movie goes off course like my relationship did. It’s my fault. I let my movie just play on to the degree of being out of control. As the director, I could have stood up, and yelled CUT-CUT.
So if I had know, I was a playing this director role at the time before my relationship started. I would have been more in tuned to the other actors in my movie. I would have seen the problems before hand, and made changes before investing too much time and wasting money on this movie.
I allowed this sorry ass movie to play on, and I now have to pay for all the wasted film. I’m the Director. I’m 100 percent responsible. Just think how boring my movie is going to be to anyone else I share it with. How boring is your movie to someone who is not part of your movie set? One word, (BORING)
So the best thing I can do as an up and coming director is to learn from any mistakes. Take the positive & negative points and learn from them and be grateful for both.
I’ve have to burn through a lot of worthless short films before I produce a mega hit Hollywood movie. Just setting some boundaries, and learning when to yell CUT, will get me closer to that goal.
Looking back how I got myself into this mismatch of actors in my last relationship film.
I was brought up in a family believing if you were not in a relationship with someone. Something was wrong with you. Bull****. I think it really is the other way around. If you’re in a relationship, that relationship can become a false support that will someday fail. Plan for it!
Each person has the same GOD/Higher Power available to them as anyone else. I need no one else to live a happy and fulfilling life.
Fantastic story. My e/s/h is that rarely is one responsible for a relationship ending. In my failed relationship for the most part, I had a part. Some part. I grew up with crazy fighting, drunken, abusive parents who beat us for fun. Now did I , as a child have a part in my not wanting anything to do with them again?? Of course not!! But as an adult. With free will. Thinking for myself (unless one is mentally ill and incapacitated) I did have a part. Maybe it was letting it go on for too long. Maybe I was too clingy. Too independent hence their not feeling like a part of my life. I am just throwing out examples here. I am divorced. I had a part in our breakup. So did he, however my job is to look at my part, if any, in a relationship going down and learning from that loss. Just tossing my 2 cents here!!
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Love begins within me and then radiates out to the universe
Good share, Fap123. Very honest. I agree, it is like a movie. Now I just try my hardest to take care of my side of the street, be authentic, communicate honestly, and be really damned grateful. It can all go away in an instant ... in fact, it is inevitable ... whether it is a day or 40 years, nothing lasts forever.
Life is what it is today ... right now. No right, no wrong, it is just IS. In a relationship, out of one ... doesn't matter. Wasting a day ... now that is a bit tragic to me.
Willing
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Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned. ~St. Francis of Assisi
