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I have read this boards often, but didn't share before.  I have a question that I hope make sense.

I was wondering if growing up anyone had a "fantasy life" in their head?   I always lived in a fantasy world throughout the day.  I never told anyone about it.  I always had my "fantasy world" playing out in my mind, has I lived in the real world.   No one knew about it.

I did this from the time I was around 6, until in was into my late 50's.   I don't do it any more.   I did it all those years and never told a soul.

I was just wondering if any one else ever did this?  It must have been a way that I coped with my life growing up.  I have tried to do it now, but for some reason I can't any more.

To be honest, I wish I could do it again.   I can't do it any more.   My mind doesn't take me there.  I do miss my "fantasy world".   I hope this makes sense.  

 

 

 



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Hello Marygirl,

So glad you finally shared with us!  I did not have a fantasy world, sometimes I wish I did.  I think I could have found some kindness there.  Instead I just forget things.  I have trained myself since I was a child to just forget and now that I am an adult, my professional life I remember every detail.  My personal life just disappears pretty much right after it happens.  It is frustrating.  I have been trying to change that.

 

I think we all find our own ways to cope.

 

I hope you keep sharing with us.  That was a great question.

 

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Hi Mary

Welcome to the group.  I do that!!  I fantasize when life is just too much.  I go to my other world where I can meet my needs., play with my pets, have the money I need to take care of myself and my animals and help my loved ones.

I think it is healthy if one does not "live there" to the exclusion of reality.  Sometimes I do too much of the "going to the happier place" because I am not really a people person and I  am on limited funds, have to be creative just to make ends meet and also with PTSD, I just want to get away from real life and its constant dealing with situations.  I guess what I am trying to say is that you are not alone and not abnormal, I think we CoDAs are all the products of dysfunctional family life and so many of us didn't have much joy as youngsters.  I certainly did not.  My life was nearly unbearable so in the past , I did go into fantasy world.  A LOT!! It was my escape.  Now, getting healthier in the program, I still daydream , seeing me in my country home with  a horse or two, and growing my own vegetables and fruits, puttering in my garden.  Walking in nature.  Yes I do day dream a lot about it.  They say to visualize the things you want, that you can actually draw it to you.  I focus so much on fear my needs wont' be met and financial fear that maybe I draw hardship to me, fearing it so much.  So I am trying to be more grateful and to visualize and spend my energy seeing me where I want to be.  I think some fantasy is a healthy escape from the rigors of today's life.  I don't want to be there all the time because I want to learn how to live my life in the now, being mindful and feeling "ok" where I am at now.  This is where I am.  So it behooves me to make my peace with my current situation if I cannot change it.  I can change my attitude.  Glad you are here.  Thanks for sharing, I relate to your share 



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Sometimes a fantasy can be an all too real thing that actually happened before this time and space we're conscious of. I'm glad yours has been more like a dream than a nightmare. My doctors used to tell me that I was day dreaming that I was sleep walking but stopped arguing when I started coming in with sexually transmitted diseases when I don't even date in my waking life, my hair three inches shorter than my haircut when I had no access to scissors to cut it with, and throw up with food in it that wasn't available in my house. I now take sleeping pills to block out the worst of the abuse that I have to take, and it has been recommended that we activate our alarm system here. Motion sensor cameras aren't out of the question. We might have to move to a place where we can lock ourselves in at night and smash the windows if there's a fire. I've even had foreign countries offer asylum with a curfew, night guards, and a war on our common enemies. I think that a gate on our community would be a good start, but no one else I know seems to want that. Enjoy your innocence and count your blessings for any reprieve from fantasy because the daymare came next for me. I hope it's just a phase that I have to go through to get better. Thanks.



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I did this for a few years during fifth and sixth grade. My grandmother had passed, there were some bullies in my class and II wanted to disassociate with the world. Isolate. I came out of it in seventh grade. I can't say I did any better though as my focus was always other and outer focus until I was 42 and a few years in the program.

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