I have read this boards often, but didn't share before. I have a question that I hope make sense.
I was wondering if growing up anyone had a "fantasy life" in their head? I always lived in a fantasy world throughout the day. I never told anyone about it. I always had my "fantasy world" playing out in my mind, has I lived in the real world. No one knew about it.
I did this from the time I was around 6, until in was into my late 50's. I don't do it any more. I did it all those years and never told a soul.
I was just wondering if any one else ever did this? It must have been a way that I coped with my life growing up. I have tried to do it now, but for some reason I can't any more.
To be honest, I wish I could do it again. I can't do it any more. My mind doesn't take me there. I do miss my "fantasy world". I hope this makes sense.
So glad you finally shared with us! I did not have a fantasy world, sometimes I wish I did. I think I could have found some kindness there. Instead I just forget things. I have trained myself since I was a child to just forget and now that I am an adult, my professional life I remember every detail. My personal life just disappears pretty much right after it happens. It is frustrating. I have been trying to change that.
I think we all find our own ways to cope.
I hope you keep sharing with us. That was a great question.
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Welcome to the group. I do that!! I fantasize when life is just too much. I go to my other world where I can meet my needs., play with my pets, have the money I need to take care of myself and my animals and help my loved ones.
I think it is healthy if one does not "live there" to the exclusion of reality. Sometimes I do too much of the "going to the happier place" because I am not really a people person and I am on limited funds, have to be creative just to make ends meet and also with PTSD, I just want to get away from real life and its constant dealing with situations. I guess what I am trying to say is that you are not alone and not abnormal, I think we CoDAs are all the products of dysfunctional family life and so many of us didn't have much joy as youngsters. I certainly did not. My life was nearly unbearable so in the past , I did go into fantasy world. A LOT!! It was my escape. Now, getting healthier in the program, I still daydream , seeing me in my country home with a horse or two, and growing my own vegetables and fruits, puttering in my garden. Walking in nature. Yes I do day dream a lot about it. They say to visualize the things you want, that you can actually draw it to you. I focus so much on fear my needs wont' be met and financial fear that maybe I draw hardship to me, fearing it so much. So I am trying to be more grateful and to visualize and spend my energy seeing me where I want to be. I think some fantasy is a healthy escape from the rigors of today's life. I don't want to be there all the time because I want to learn how to live my life in the now, being mindful and feeling "ok" where I am at now. This is where I am. So it behooves me to make my peace with my current situation if I cannot change it. I can change my attitude. Glad you are here. Thanks for sharing, I relate to your share
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Sometimes a fantasy can be an all too real thing that actually happened before this time and space we're conscious of. I'm glad yours has been more like a dream than a nightmare. My doctors used to tell me that I was day dreaming that I was sleep walking but stopped arguing when I started coming in with sexually transmitted diseases when I don't even date in my waking life, my hair three inches shorter than my haircut when I had no access to scissors to cut it with, and throw up with food in it that wasn't available in my house. I now take sleeping pills to block out the worst of the abuse that I have to take, and it has been recommended that we activate our alarm system here. Motion sensor cameras aren't out of the question. We might have to move to a place where we can lock ourselves in at night and smash the windows if there's a fire. I've even had foreign countries offer asylum with a curfew, night guards, and a war on our common enemies. I think that a gate on our community would be a good start, but no one else I know seems to want that. Enjoy your innocence and count your blessings for any reprieve from fantasy because the daymare came next for me. I hope it's just a phase that I have to go through to get better. Thanks.
-- Edited by Bumble Dunny on Wednesday 5th of August 2015 01:34:16 AM
I did this for a few years during fifth and sixth grade. My grandmother had passed, there were some bullies in my class and II wanted to disassociate with the world. Isolate. I came out of it in seventh grade. I can't say I did any better though as my focus was always other and outer focus until I was 42 and a few years in the program.
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