I find it difficult to stay in the moment and not trying to control a situation.
Let me explain. This weekend I went to a free music in the street event. There are many homeless people who go because it is a downtown location. A lot of these people are drinking and become drunk. I don’t mind this as it’s quite entertaining to watch them dance in the street without a care in the world. Sometimes they fall down. It amazes me of how happy they appear to be, not having anything but a few possessions and a bottle to drink.
So this one particular homeless guy came up behind me and drops a handful of his possession to the ground with a thump. I turned around to see what I heard, and then went back to watching the band. The homeless guy organizes his stuff, and then comes in front of me standing about 4 feet away. He starts pointing in my direction and yelling something, but I cannot make it out. After a few minutes he moves into the street dance area. He again points into the crowd and yells something a few times and then starts dancing trying to get different women to dance.
This guy comes back behind me and drops something and it makes a loud noise. I turn around to see what it was. He says to me. “You did that”. I just ignore him and turn back and watch the band.
He comes back in front of me again, and starts pointing and yelling something I can’t hear or make out what he saying.
So in my mind, I’m thinking I can kick this guy ass if I need to, as we are close to the same size. I start thinking, at what point will that invisible line in the sand be crossed.
So now instead of enjoying the band I’m thinking of all the scenarios that could happen, and how to react to them.
Nothing ends up happing with this guy, as some rain came in, and I ended the night early.
But this is an example of how I get pulled into trying to control a situation in my mind.
Why can’t I just laugh at the situation in the moment?
Why do I need to plan out some defense plan that usually never gets to the point of deployment?
My codependency issues of wanting to be in control are still alive and well in some parts of my life.
Hopefully by looking at them, I can learn to trust in my higher power to protect me in any situation.
My plan was leading to a fight if things went too much further with this guy. Maybe my higher power tossed in the rain, knowing it would get me to leave. Thanks again HP.
Hopefully the 3 people, who read this post, will be able to reflect on the question of.
How would I react in a similar situation? Trust or Control?
Glad to hear you got out and enjoyed some music! That sounds like fun.
I don't think you were trying to control anything. If you had made him try to DO something, interacted with him, yelled at him ... perhaps. But you assessed the situation and possible outcomes. Sounds normal to me!
Ok, 1 of 3 down .
Thanks for sharing Fap123. I promise I will be more active soon. This weekend was grading my 700 foot driveway by myself with a tow along device. I think I am trying to kill myself. Looks GREAT! But I think next year I will hire it out. I can barely move or think today.
Be well.
Willing
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Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned. ~St. Francis of Assisi
I guess my point was, had I just ignored the guy and just focused all my attention to the band playing music, or the cute women walking by. Not only would I have enjoyed listening to the music and looking at the women. I might have got lucky enough to take one of the women home to play doctor with.
Instead, I worried about what this guy might do.
Willing,
Ever heard the saying "One person work, is another person fun". That grading work sounds like fun to me. lol
Will work for pizza and ice tea. lol
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