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I hate hurting people feelings. I find myself in this awkward position again. My codependent behavior does not make it any easier for me.

 

I have a tenant who is late on the rent and I struggle with starting the process to evict the person. If I just keep delaying the decision that will have them tossed out.  I lose funds that help support my own family needs.

 

I keep going back and forth with the argument that I make for either choice in this matter.

For some reason I can support both sides of this argument pretty strongly. 

 

Today, I regretfully place the notice for the tenant. My hope is they will pay the fees due me in time, to prevent the eviction.

 

This is one reason I hate being a landlord.

When I find myself worrying about these types of problems. I say the serenity prayer, and that seems to help me move forward.

 

Peace



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It does feel bad.  I evicted a tenant recently and it was my daughter's boyfriend.  Talk about a doosy.

One thing I have learned that helps me, yes I still feel guilt but it isn't NEARLY as bad, is to set boundaries.  REASONABLE ones.  They need to do 'x' by 'y' and if they don't then they face the consequences.  I am not emotionally responsible at that point.  I can unplug.  I was clear, there was not room for mistake, they didn't meet the requirements to they faced the consequences.  It has worked SO WELL in parenting, managing people, and being a landlord. 

Doesn't mean I don't feel bad, but I feel dramatically LESS bad.  They are responsible for their consequences, not me.  I am open to discussion and negotiation, but things are made clear and it becomes THEIR PROBLEM.

Hopefully your tenant steps up.

 

Willing



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