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You know the feeling of anxiety you get before going on a first date or an important job or meeting.

Well that’s what I’m feeling today.

 

Today is the last day the tenent has to pay the late rent she owes for September rent.

My hope is she will pay.

I try to keep myself busy to keep my mind off the issue. By the end of the day, I will know the results. Then I will have to take the necessary steps, to take care of myself, and my kids.

 

I try and relate to how this tenant might feel. But the reality is. She makes her own decisions on how she spends her money. I was working at the property the other day. And I saw this tenants 4 or 5 year old kid, with a smart phone sitting on the couch. This child had a sippie cup in his hand, and was hitting it against this working phone that was on the couch. The childs sitter said, “Billy stop hitting your phone, before you break it”. Really, a 5 year old with a better quality phone than I own?

Maybe I’m so old to understand the logic to giving a small child a phone.

Maybe there’s an (app) to supply a roof, over his head.

 

Seems like the younger parents try and buy their kids love with presents or to show off to other people how cool there kid is.

I just don't get it. 

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Right with you on this one, Fap123.  As a single mother for my daughters entire life I didn't buy nice clothes, get my nails done or any "luxuries" until after all my bills were paid which was never when she was small, we lived from paycheck to paycheck sometimes having to get creative.  Sometimes I was even late on rent, paid this bill one month and another bill the next.  There wasn't much guilt (lots of stress though) about living this way because I was not frivolous and was doing the absolute best I could do.

I remember one month I couldn't pay my sitter and not only was that OK, they gave me $200 so I could pay some bills and get groceries.  This was not a handout, it was a hand up because they could see that I was not being wasteful and doing everything I could.

Now we are doing well financially but I still live the same way and it FEELS good.  I am proud of myself and very grateful when I pay my bills every month, even though it isn't a challenge.  I guess that is silly.  I still try not to spend money on frivolous things.  As much as I try not to judge others, when I see someone get out of the Escalade with their clothes nicer than mine, their acrylic nails, smart phone and then pull out the EBT card to pay for groceries ... well I get a little steamed.  I probably don't know their situation and shouldn't judge ...

The issue is everyone feels entitled these days and they think that people will let them slide or someone else will take care of it.  I will help anyone who is working to help themselves.  If my ex-tenant was trying his hardest I would have let him slide.  I would have even given him money.  But instead he sat on his butt and played video games, lied and stole.  He was out on his butt PDQ along with "I never want to see you on property again."

I'm VERY glad my daughter doesn't have a sense of entitlement, is a very hard worker and responsible. 

Hold your ground Fap123.  You are doing the right thing.  You need to take care of yourself and your family.

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Up-date, so the tenant called me and said her mom had the check for the rent, but the tenant was not sure if she would get it in time to get it deposited into the bank, as her mom went to a meeting.

I don’t think my bank is open on Saturday. So I told her to call me and up-date me later this evening.
I think I will give her until 10 AM Monday morning to have the check deposited. This should give me enough time to check it on-line before the close of the bank day on Monday.
I really wanted to help her out, as she is a single mom. I even allowed her to move her girlfriend in as a roommate, because she watches the tenant kid while she goes to works. Thinking this would help her out financially as well. I can only do so much. This time line will be firmly drawn in the sand. By Monday afternoon, the account will be closed. And on Tuesday, the eviction papers will be filed with the court.

I really hope she pays the rent.

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Up-date, So, Monday I follow thru on closing the bank account. Following thru on the boundaries I set
The closing of the account will not be completed until the next business day. So any deposit on Monday could block the closing of the account.

Well, That what happen. The good news is the tenant paid the owed amount of rent. So she bought herself another week or so of time. It really hard for me dealing with this 23 year old girl with two young kids, 3 and 1 years old. The last thing I want to do is evict them.

Sometimes it really sucks to be a landlord.

My prayer is that God gives me the wisdom needed to handle this for a win/win outcome for all involved.

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Yes, I can see where this is a bit stressful.  I can tell you as having been a single mother I learned to be stronger when people set boundaries and made me be responsible.  If I was given things I hadn't earned or helped when I could help myself, I don't think I would be the person I am today.

 



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So I forgot to up-date this the other day.
The tenant paid by check sometime Monday morning, and the check clear the bank the following day. So she has until the first of October before the next rent is due. Keeping my fingers crossed.

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So I finally put my foot down on my tenant. The one who I’ve have felt sorry for because she a single parent who I’ve tried to help/rescue. My holding off at posting the 3 day notice, have come to an end. I’ve allowed her to disregard the rules of the lease regarding pets, and care of the property long enough.

At this point I see this landlord /tenent relationship being terminated by the end of November hopefully.

What pissed me off, to finally feel good about serving this notice this weekend was. As I’m serving her the notice, she say’s “my mom’s out of town”. And then said, are you going to serve me a notice every time I’m 3 days late? I just responded that the rent is due on the first.

So now it’s my fault her mom didn’t pay the rent on the first, before going out of town. Or it’s my fault she gets a 3 day notice served to her. News flash, pay your rent.

I can only blame myself for getting into this situation and hopefully I will learn this lesson for the last time.

My future landlord days include up-dating and re-writing provisions in the lease that will favor me financially from late paying tenants.
Posting 3 day notice without fear of what the tenant thinks or say’s.
Only renting to people who meet all the requirements to lease the property, no exceptions.
And evicting non paying tenants regardless of cost as fast as possible.

Taking these steps will bring less stress to my life. Save me time and money in the long run.
Help me to learn I don’t need to help others. I not responsible for their setbacks and poor life choices.


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I'm just to nice. So I allowed a late rent payment in at the last minute, to spare the tenant the fun of moving. However I plan to serve her a 7 day notice to clean up the paper trash on the property. Remove any animals (I've seen two dogs). Removing a trampoline from the property. I'm sure she not going to be happy about any of this. But the first two items are clearly mentioned in the lease. The trampoline would fall under some grey area, as it is not specifically mentioned. I really concerned about the trampoline from a liability point of view. And because she struggles to pay the rent. I don't think she can afford to buy liability insurance to protect me from something I have nothing to do with.

As stressful as this has been in the last week or so. I've been practicing to stand firm for what is right for me.

My decision to call off the eviction process that was just hours away from being recorded at the court house. Came t me after I did a paper I called, My tenant & landlord Purpose Statement.
It really helped to relax and feel good about being fair yet firm in my relationship with the tenant.
So I should have a happier weekend.

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So Saturday I took over a 7 day notice to the tenant. And as expected she made her excuses as it being someone else's fault why the dogs were there, or the trampoline was there. Even tried to minimize blame of paper and trash that littered the back yard. Making the argument about a piece of carpet I left from installing new carpet at the property that I did leave inside for people to wipe their feet on while showing the house. But she was the one who moved it to the outside. So she was trying to blame me for this one piece of carpet strip as the trash I was referring to. I said, I'm not talking about a piece of carpet, I'm talking about the paper and trash and diapers on the ground that I have been cleaning up so I can mow the grass.

I was a bit anxious hours before going and not sure how she was going to react. But overall, I feel better about myself for taking back control of how I need to deal with this tenant. I would hate to have to evict her. I just can't imagine how stressful that would feel to me, if I were in her shoes. If I were in her shoes. I would be working, and communicating with the landlord often,and paying any amount of money I could,to keep a roof over my head. The worst thing to do in my opinion is to remain silent as the tenant. From my point of view as a landlord. If the tenant don't care enough to keep an open line of honest communication with me the landlord. Why should I cut you a break when it comes to paying the rent.

I feel my tenant & landlord purpose statement, help to soften my words in response to her today. It also help me to remain calm and in the moment. Relaying what my objectives were, and allowing her to reply, and I simple restate the points she needed to address in the matter.
I would hope she gets on the same page, as I'm not going to back down from posting 3 day notices when the rent is late. I have listen to the excuses to long already.

Peace

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Bumble Dunny wrote:

Ok. I remember now. I don't want to make myself even more unpopular here. But what's wrong with having two dogs? I take care of one of my tenant's two dogs for free, so I have no life. But she does. I think they're great. They let me know when aliens have descended here. Lol. I really need to get some sleep.


 

I love animals as well, The problem from my point of view regarding my tenant is. The lease states no pets, The tenant struggles each month to pay the rent for herself and two kids. If she can barely afford to keep a roof over her own head and care for her own self and children. Why would I believe she can afford to care for the 2 dogs welfare. Beside the point of potential carpet damage, fleas infestation, and other liabilities involved with having a large breed dog.

This young woman is lazy. An example. Letting the garbage can overflow in the yard, with flies all over it, due to her not taking the can to the road side to be empty by the garbage service. Or leaving dog waste on the ground in the same area her young kids go out in the yard to play.

I have never had a tenant agree to buy an insurance policy to protect me and my property from some dog biting incident or like my current tenant regarding the trampoline she has erected on the property. Who do you think is going to have to cover the cost if some neighborhood kid wonders into the backyard to jump on this trampoline, and they break there neck while jumping on this trampoline. Or if the dog attacks them and tears the kids face off?

I the landlord will be on the hook, because the tenant barely can afford to pay her rent.

  



-- Edited by fap123 on Sunday 11th of October 2015 05:35:46 AM

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