I'm new to the forums, but not new to the idea of codependency. It hit home a few years ago when I was looking for help dealing with my husband's drinking (shocker, I know ;) but for one reason or another, I haven't really dealt with my own issue head on. I looked for Coda groups but the closest ones to me are 1 hour away and at the same time I work each week, so I figure online support is the way to go for now. I'm 31 and feel like I haven't really been living my life for me...for all of it. I often think that I should do activities on my own that I enjoy.....then get stumped. I've been living far from my family (which, in a lot of ways, is good) and friends for the past 8 years. I've moved a lot and changed jobs a lot and am very challenged at this point to build my own support system or make new friends, but I'm still open to the idea and to trying again. I'm ready and willing to do what it takes to stop this cycle of codependency and take back my own life. I'm looking forward to reading about other's experiences in healing and getting better. Particularly, those who have had success in lovingly detaching from an addicted spouse and healing while in a relationship. Thanks in advance and happy to have found you guys :)