I am new to the group and wanted to say hello. I have recently come to the conclusion that I am a big ole co-dependent. My dependency is tied to my husband who I believe to have issues with alcohol. I love him and our lives together. But.... and isn't there always a but? His issues have become mine. His feelings have become mine, his needs and wants, you guessed it, have become mine. I am loosing myself to the fear and anxiety that come along with the what ifs. And since I am a bit lost with all of this mess, I find myself in a lot of pain, looking for answers. How can I improve myself while setting healthy boundaries and expectations? How do I begin to manage the anxiety when he is 20 minutes late? Or worst yet, is what if he is really sick and I loose him? I am so thankful to have a place like this group to vent and ready other people's stories to see I am not alone and that there is indeed hope. I am buying co-dependent no more tomorrow!
