I am wondering if there are coda meetings on line one can attend. I have CODA meetings in my town which I intend to attend. Starting tonight. I also want to have access when I get the codependent crazies. I have been in a 3 yr relationship with an alcoholic and have finally gotten him to move out for a break. I have gone completely crazy in the last 3 yrs and I am ashamed of my codependent behaviour. I recognize that most of my unhappiness stems from trying to control outcomes. I so so need to relax and let go of EVERYTHING and I know I am going to need a lot of help DAILY. Which is why I have joined this group. I am hoping it can be a life preserver for me. I am so confused and think that codependency permeates who I am. It is going to be scary and exciting to find out who the hell I am without those behaviours. My alcoholic partner has actually been a saint putting up with me. :)
i find I am trying to control our time out, and the outcome and working hard hard hard to be willing to accept what comes. I will probably even be codependent on working through my codependency !!! :)
Appreciate any support available.
-- Edited by yooknowhoo on Wednesday 28th of February 2018 07:49:29 PM
Hi. I recently discovered what I really am, and all things including my other addiction lead back to my selfish codependency. I would also like to see online meetings for when I’m jumping out of my skin. Especially since I’m starving my other addiction.
Thanks for letting me share.
I am new here also and am new to CoDA I am codependent and attending a local group but no one is available to sponsor at that group. I will Check in here regularly.
I was raised in a household that was dysfunctional I had a bipolar mother and father that was not very nurturing. It lead to poor self esteem and I recently realized that I also have a food addiction. I eat to numb my feelings I started attending OA and have a sponsor there. I hope to see this group get more active also.
I have a very strange family(dont go near them anymore bc they drive me wacko) weren't alcoholics or physically abusive but..and actually I had a normal and very GOOD childhood until i reached about age 12 or thereabouts. Then things started going down hill and still not sure what all happened except that I had a lot of emotional kinds of issues and my mother couldn't deal with me. You know how teens are. They don't always mean to overwhelm their parents but they do. So anyway.. not sure what I will find @ this forum and not sure I want to bother with any more forums as: have had bad luck with very rude posters and just cold-hearted, apathetic people and so tired of them. I mean, life is hard enough as it is and then people come along and think they are going to... what? change you, control you, etc? I used to be very religious but I have seen some crazy stuff done in the name of religion.. I hang onto some religious practices that help me but for the most part.. Anyway.. where was I? I would prefer having an actual friend rather than friends on some impersonal forum. But right now.. I am where I am, haven't been in a relationship w/ opposite sex in many years and haven't had a close friend in many yrs.. don't try hard enough. But I always liked the 12 step thing so here I am :)