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CODA 12 Steps.... and Step One.


The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous 1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs. 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out. 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.


Je m'appelle DavidG.

My first contact with CODA was through the books of Melody Beattie. This was about 30 years ago. My Alanon group formed a sub-group to study "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood. Then they went through Melody's book, Codependent no More.

I was the only man in the group and I did not attend.

But I bought the books myself and studied them at home.

I studied Beyond Codependency too. One writer I was attracted to was Anne Shaeff Wilson. She gave codependency a wider context.

So there began a journey- as all journeys must begin...

...I spent much of my live head-butting city hall.

I also got into relationships with people who seemed to be narcissistic... and I sense that I am still in one. 

I am not wanting, or need to, get out of it- at all... but would like to learn more and to grow more- emotionally...

...part of a strategy of life...

thanks for listening...

kia ora mo te whakarongo... [in other words]




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I am a BIG fan of Melodiy Beattie her 12 steps for Codependents, really showed me that I was "so not alone" my first sponsor who was a male disagreed with me, but I stayed the course and told him I am qualified not just for Al-anon (which he was in) but also ACA and Codependents anon...Oh yea., and I wasn't embarrassed telling him that I was willing to be open to ALL 12 step program formats and If I qualify, if the steps/characteristics resonate???I'm joining and working it...and to this day, I believe that one can be a multi room qualifier....I look at most Al-anons...they are either CoDa or ACA or both...we share so many characteristics, feelings, etc....and its NO shame...we are all in this together, the way I see it....

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