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 aww ...scripting is something I reflect on a fair bit, doing Step 11.

Where I end and other start- that sort of thing. In years past my boundaries have been bombarded. Sometimes that have been absent.

And then I began to notice- that other people were being co-dependent on me- foisting their solutions on to me.

Especially one or two closest to me.

Gaslighting and narcissism are words that spring to mind.

But staying inside of my own hula hoop. Knowing who I am- and what my duties and obligations to the world are.



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 aww Maybe there is a sense that we should censor ourselves, or limit our sharing "to fit in".

      After years of shame research Brene Brown warns against the impulse to merely "fit in".

Personally i think about making waves. Not in a small paddling pool, though. There is plenty of space around the worlds to "make waves"

without affecting anyone else. Waves makes their own waves anyway.

I am re-reading a book by Marianne Elliott- "Zen Under Fire". I saw it initially- when I bought it as a treatise on codependency.

And attempt by one individual to find emotional intimacy. But set against the background of trying to find peaceful solutions in

Afghanistan. And attempts to create a culture of gender equality.

Sometimes i believe that improving economic standards will change things. Take away the need to sell off child brides, and for trafficking of people.

Simple persuasion may not be enough.

And to relate this to my own world.

Where drugs and drinking eats desperately into family budgets- and links with all those other enormous distortions of reality.

In theory this won't happen in the Moslem world- because drinking alcohol is taboo.

There will be other forces at work- but whose business is it? Whose initiative is it to change? Who called the shots? 



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