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 I had role models and heroes, along the way...

I am listening to Anne, warming up her audience in Australia, five years ago...

 

Lois W. was my first main one- on the recovery trail.

I do appreciate the one hour talks- that many of the gurus deliver. Imparting essential knowledge.

I was never going to get into that arena myself- though, along the way- my mind emulated the great gurus.

i grew up with terrible communication skills. I always said that I would gatecrash a conversation- and just hope for the best.

Getting my left ear unblocked, and letting to hear stuff in stereo- was one of several great boosters for me.

Learning to breath well was one. smilesmilesmilesmilesmilesmilesmilesmile...

Teaching my body- not to run the bathroom every 20 mins, was another... aww...

Learning the art of small-talk, especially around my SO was another essential move. Living in a peaceful space is magical.

So my goal was to work within groups. Even small groups. Groups of two work with me.

To take my own frailty and damage- and make some spiritual medicine out of this.

Medicine that i will sake for myself- for starters! aww

As I write I am also waiting for Anne to warm up her talk.

It is easy to get bogged down with long introductions- and I am preparing for the filling on the sandwich! biggrin ...



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[Listening to Anne]

I claim space here- no apologies...

"We have the right to be wrong."

This phrase has slightly different edges to it- than:- "Progress not perfection."

I needed a weekend workshop... and so Invited Anne in as a speaker.

But I am not sitting there like a stuffed dummy. I am taking notes- I am reflecting and learning...

...it is too cold out there to do the garden. Spring morning, here in NZ.

The rest of the household is asleep.



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 Two Sundays ago... I was at a world conference- conducted on zoom.

It was hosted from New Zealand- and there were ceremonials around that I am familiar with.

So i was primed to share- and as it happened- everyone there got a chance to share- each in a different way.

After lunch this leader called me by name.

Then some time later she called me by name to share. My head went down. I began to weep copiously, I was in a safe space-

and also in my own home actually. aww ...

I did not go into detail- I went to the essentials...



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MATTERS ARISING FROM THE TALK...

THE TOPIC OF A THERAPIST CALLED MURRAY BOWEN CAME UP.

 Had a look at his work. Hmmm... the clinical or therapist approach is essential.

But, for me, my approach is group based and very very voluntary.

I used to have issues within and all form of authority. This was healthy since i questioned a whole heap of things!

 

I am an old timer now- in the 12 Steps.

where I am these days- I try to allow space to others, including newcomers... [by listening...]...

I try to listen and try to ascertain where other people are at.

I don't place myself at the forefront of things, usually. But I do like to be heard, and to participate. 



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HP offered me this phrase:- "shrinking my thinking"

Unlikely to catch on, at all, but helpful for me.

Got some information today- that keeps me with my identity. [A DNA test}...

 

My old consolidated phrase went like this:- I went from the paralysis of analysis to and attitude of gratitude.

Since I coined this for myself I embraced the idea of C-PTSD and took strides to deal with buried trauma.

Burned into the body- all over the place. I still have a therapist who I see regularly every 8 weeks. I actually

do most all of the work-at-letting-go myself. 



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