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  aww I am standing in for CODA here. I belong to ACA, and Alanon mostly. I ama GR for a group here in NZ. At the present- through our lock-downs we are planning an assembly for November. 

I find that is takes city folk, by and large a lot longer to trust than farm people.

On our MIP ACA group we had a real breakthrough. On remember felt that being in our group changed her life forever.

I can't tell you exactly why- for anonymity reasons.

But she had been a farm girl- and we really hit it off.

All the 12th Step work was actually done within the group- which was a safe place for both of us.

We did become facebook friends. After a few months I told her I was quitting.

She said- no, no, no, and said she wanted to be in touch forever.

Okay- so no worries- we keep in touch regularly, as friends.

I created an ACA facebook group when I was banned from the MIP facebook group.

I have one loyal member there, who is the member of a f2f group of four people.

This person too- comes from a rural backdrop. Most rural people like to chat, and they can sum up -people fairly quickly.

I know know that if y'all in keep friendship going for 3 or 4 years-  it does change the body chemistry.

A lot of us don't know what wellness is. 

And some of us just cannot work out why we get into conflicting relationships.

But good groups do give us peer support. Slowly we learn the basic boundaries- and how we can ge this to work.

CODA, ACA and Alanon members can be very needy around each other- and we all understand.

A lot of us have a lot of catching up to do- with trust and emotional intimacy. aww ...

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