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Question on Boundaries

My 22 yr old daughter completed her 4th rehab 11/30 and moved into sober living.  She hates it and wants to come home.  We had a family session with her counselor (she is doing PHP) last week where I said that I am not comfortable with her returning just yet and need more time (she has returned home 3 prior times and very quickly relapsed).   Her counselor proceeded to tell me that I was being selfish and should not project my fears onto my daughter.  She is working her program and is very engaged in recovery, blah, blah, blah.  Fast forward to the holiday, she was home for a long weekend, she did not use, but is still exhibiting addict behaviors; i.e., going out all night and sneaking out the back door so nobody sees her leaving; claiming she doesn't feel well and stayed home in bed all day on Christmas.  My boundaries were made clear to her - no sneaking out and she needs to be engaged with the family.  I asked her what her counselor would say and was told, he doesn't want anymore family sessions because I attack her!  Say what?  Am I crazy here?  Should I just let her come home with me not being comfortable?  I'm really confused as to why a drug counselor would think it's ok for an addict to return to a place where the co-dependent is clearly not on board yet.  Any input is welcome.

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