Hi, I'm a woman living in Canada, with a history of self-harming behaviour including anorexia and bulimia. I have had major issues with both money and food resulting in obesity, and now I am reasonably healthy and on the road to a healthy relationship with food.
As a result of a toxic upbringing, I had major co-dependency issues earlier in life. After completing university, I was focused on work and money issues and haven't really had the opportunity to deal with relationship issues. I just ended a 3-year relationship with an alcoholic (sober 18 years but not working the AA program when we split). It was best for both of us to end the relationship, but I am now feeling terribly alone and missing the idea of being in a relationship.
If I were to enter another relationship now, it wouldn't be any healthier than the one that just ended. I would rather get healthy than do anything else, so I have sought out Co Dependents Anonymous and hope to learn as much as possible.
Hi, SugarBee, and welcome to MIP! I'm glad you found us!
It sounds like you've come a long way from where you started. I applaud your courage and determination to do what's best for yourself, even when it's not easy. Have you ever read any of Melody Beattie's books on codependency? They're excellent. We also have message boards here at MIP for Al-Anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics. One or both of those might also be helpful to you on your recovery journey.
Recovery is seldom easy, but it's always worth it. WE'RE worth it! Keep coming back - you'll find a lot of great people here, and a lot of ESH and inspiration!
Red Hawk
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My heart is moved by all I cannot save: so much has been destroyed. I have to cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world. A passion to make, and make again, where such un-making reigns.
Hi RedHawk, and thanx for the message! I have read some of Melody Beattie's books. I also have the Hazelden.org daily meditations set as the homepage on my laptop, so every day I get some inspiration. I'll definitely keep reading these message boards; i want to learn as much as I can from others who might have had experiences similar to mine.
