Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

DavidG · DavidG

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John · John

Hello Everyone, As the founder and webmaster of Miracles In Progress I want to extent a personal "Thank You" to each of you for valuing and utilizing the CoDA portion of our site. As we grow in our recoveries from alcoholism, addiction, or being a family member of a loved one who suffers from this di...

WebHelper · WebHelper

The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...

willing · willing

http://coda.activeboard.com/t41972579/book-study-codepende...

DavidG · DavidG

Anzacs is what we call ourselves "down under". I saw an Australian member come in yesterday- and quickly retreat. A loved sponsee of Betty and a close friend of mine. Watch that space- pretty certain that she will not come back again. "Friendly fire" is what we hear a whole heap since 1942. Happen...

DavidG · DavidG

I didn't tell my SO about it. And now I am glad I didn't, as things have worked out... ... K. and I went out together, two different times- in the early '70's. An old friend started a facebook forum- and pinned up a photo of us together. I had always wondered how things had gone for her! So we friende...

DavidG · DavidG

[https://www.codependentsanonymous.org.au/nz-meetings]

DavidG · DavidG

Used to be burdened with that stuff! So joy is an emotion too? Had to look for joy- search for it... ...

DavidG · DavidG

My hero of all time is Janet Frame. I saw the first clip- and though the reacher was being really sadistic- and into blaming- big-time.

DavidG · DavidG

-boundaries are always topical. I reckon that are created through our rituals of encounter. Also I focus on rites of passage- which I think are what gives us maturity. The process by which we give ourselves maturity. Get maturity. Below is a reading from another MIP group. It is a resume of a rea...

DavidG · DavidG

Whilst in the USA- in 2013 I met three of the principals of these MIP boards. Sadly, since then both Betty K. and John F. have passed away. I am a rural person- a farm boy- and mostly this is how we do stuff... ...part of the dream was to look as "The American Model" of doing 12 Step work- and The Internati...

DavidG · DavidG

I am not sure I appreciate being able to look in on the MIP Alanon group- and not being permitted to share? The group has taken a turn- which I appreciate and support in principle. Wholeheartedly in fact! But I would rather have access to the steps board and other items in the MIP camp. ...

DavidG · DavidG

STEP 8... I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... to do my programme really. It has been fairly successful, overall. Facebook is a mixed blessing for some. Personally i find that it helps bring family and community together. And this depends on how we choose to use tools, like this......

DavidG · DavidG

Don't justify, argue, defend, or explain. I think maybe, that the last word was added to make up the akronym? I really love to explain, when I am asked stuff. Over years of 12 step recovery, my communication has improved a lot- at least I believe so. But stepping in and explaining stuff- where there...

DavidG · DavidG

Bon looking at the work of Dr. Alice Miller- who was a pioneer- in getting away from blaming the child... ...getting hooked up into the blame-shame cycle, imo, is a precursor to our co-dependency. I blue that the things Dr Porges is enunciating it an outcome of this modern trend... ...thes...

DavidG · DavidG

Below is a quote from on elf our MIP members. It looks like out combined MIP Steps group- of which CODA form a a part has been wrecked. The Alanon Mod refused to hold a conscience meeting on the Alanon Business board- and to conduct a properly convened conscience meeting. Instead there was a kangaroo co...

DavidG · DavidG

It can be a long convoluted journey! ... Watch Dr. Brene Brown do the journey. Ah believe that Bill W. of AA fame also undertook it. Alice Miller- "The Drama of the Gifted Child" also- and for herself, mostly, imo... People will step in your way. Overtalking- oversharing. Taking up far too much sp...

Linistea · Linistea

The first chapter starts as it should, someone telling their story so we can identify. This was Jessica's story. A 32 year old woman married to an alcoholic. Jessica tells of her inability to function in life anymore. The depression - the lack of will to do even the smallest things like showering....

DavidG · DavidG

I call it Te poutama tekau ma rua... The Twelve Steps. And the we all get to Step 12, and learn to dwell there we end up with a sense of commonality, and unity. I found this for myself- by visiting Stepping Stones- to home of Lois and Bill- and temporary home to many. I met the person on this clip- and knew...

DavidG · DavidG

As a co-dependent I had to learn to live with addiction, and equally, with other co=dependents. Listening to a talk by a pioneer and veteran, Bob E. is is entirely possible act the addict and or alcoholic has codependent traits as well. Not sure if we are allowed to unpack the nature of the disease? Or h...

DavidG · DavidG

From the MIP Alanon board:- "Your participation here has spiraled into as much insanity as the member who was recently banned. As another member, it's uncomfortable to watch, impossible to participate and just so removed from our purpose and intent." If this is about me- this is patently untrue...

DavidG · DavidG

I can't say that my SO was going through a relapse. My SO is a lovely mother, grandmas and aunt- always has been. But over 38 years I have had to face a mean nasty, gaslighting projecting fiend. Which i have used the steps and meetings as a way of dealing with. Something I didn't cause, can't change or cur...

DavidG · DavidG

https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=405968197554255&set=a.399936418157433

DavidG · DavidG

If a CODA member came through this way- I would go up to the Mall for coffee time and swap notes. ACA is unlikely to take hold here in my lifetime- barring a miracle. I have scaled down my involvement in recovery. 10 years with MIP groups. ... Getting across a city and sharing at a meeting for 3 or 4 min...

DavidG · DavidG

...scripting is something I reflect on a fair bit, doing Step 11. Where I end and other start- that sort of thing. In years past my boundaries have been bombarded. Sometimes that have been absent. And then I began to notice- that other people were being co-dependent on me- foisting their solutions...

DavidG · DavidG

Number one for me... Brene. These are unprecedented times!!!

DavidG · DavidG

MARIANNE ELIOT'S book "Zen under Fire" is a great treatise on codependency. A relationship starved of emotion under a really straitened situation. [https://www.thenile.co.nz/books/marianne-elliott/zen-under-fire/9780143567158?gclid=Cj0KCQjwjo2JBhCRARIsAFG667WLwLYu9oW7...

DavidG · DavidG

We have the right to be wrong. As co-dependents we are often bamboozled by dependents who expect perfection a fair bit. But in their overall life-style, that may not have made it at all. Not for themselves. One of the classic images of us- as a co-dependent- is being locked together with a narci...

DavidG · DavidG

I come from a small compact country. 5 million. We have communities here, and networks and links between these communities. Below is the testimony of a family member- a strong korero- a speaking time. I would have followed a talk like that with a song- so, as a consequence, I will follow with a song...

DavidG · DavidG

This is my only point of contact with the MIP family. This CODA board. Like with my own FOO, I felt that MIP had treated me really badly. There is one person in the MIP family I think ah kin trust. And you might be that person reading this right now. ??? Gaslighting and bullying. My place here is stop b...

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	STICKY: POSTING GUIDELINES (Preview) Posting Guidelines This forum is intended to provide an atmosphere of open communication, where each member can share his or her own insights and opinions. To help achieve this goal, we ask that you:*Do not post threatening, abusing, defamatory, libelous or illegal material.Do not post harassing...***	DavidG	1	1021	Oct 28, 2019 by DavidG
	STICKY: A Simple Thank You (Preview) Hello Everyone, As the founder and webmaster of Miracles In Progress I want to extent a personal "Thank You" to each of you for valuing and utilizing the CoDA portion of our site. As we grow in our recoveries from alcoholism, addiction, or being a family member of a loved one who suffers from this di...	John	28	24748	Sep 25, 2019 by DavidG
	STICKY: MIP Business Board (Preview) The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...	WebHelper	0	1879	Sep 20, 2018 by WebHelper
	STICKY: Codependent No More Book Study - Links to All Chapters (Preview) http://coda.activeboard.com/t41972579/book-study-codepende...	willing	11	12946	Apr 22, 2016 by willing
	"Friendly Fire" (Preview) Anzacs is what we call ourselves "down under". I saw an Australian member come in yesterday- and quickly retreat. A loved sponsee of Betty and a close friend of mine. Watch that space- pretty certain that she will not come back again. "Friendly fire" is what we hear a whole heap since 1942. Happen...	DavidG	0	5	8h ago by DavidG
	Old girlfriend stuff... (Preview) I didn't tell my SO about it. And now I am glad I didn't, as things have worked out... ... K. and I went out together, two different times- in the early '70's. An old friend started a facebook forum- and pinned up a photo of us together. I had always wondered how things had gone for her! So we friende...	DavidG	2	16	14h ago by DavidG
	New Zealand meetings... (Preview) [https://www.codependentsanonymous.org.au/nz-meetings]	DavidG	1	12	yesterday by DavidG
	Anger, pain and grief... (Preview) Used to be burdened with that stuff! So joy is an emotion too? Had to look for joy- search for it... ...	DavidG	1	17	yesterday by DavidG
	Scripts, and narratives... (Preview) My hero of all time is Janet Frame. I saw the first clip- and though the reacher was being really sadistic- and into blaming- big-time.	DavidG	0	17	3 days ago by DavidG
	B-b-b-b- boundaries... (Preview) -boundaries are always topical. I reckon that are created through our rituals of encounter. Also I focus on rites of passage- which I think are what gives us maturity. The process by which we give ourselves maturity. Get maturity. Below is a reading from another MIP group. It is a resume of a rea...	DavidG	0	21	5 days ago by DavidG
	A dream... (Preview) Whilst in the USA- in 2013 I met three of the principals of these MIP boards. Sadly, since then both Betty K. and John F. have passed away. I am a rural person- a farm boy- and mostly this is how we do stuff... ...part of the dream was to look as "The American Model" of doing 12 Step work- and The Internati...	DavidG	0	23	7 days ago by DavidG
	Friday share... (Preview) I am not sure I appreciate being able to look in on the MIP Alanon group- and not being permitted to share? The group has taken a turn- which I appreciate and support in principle. Wholeheartedly in fact! But I would rather have access to the steps board and other items in the MIP camp. ...	DavidG	2	23	7 days ago by DavidG
	I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... (Preview) STEP 8... I will stand on a street corner... or on a mountain top... to do my programme really. It has been fairly successful, overall. Facebook is a mixed blessing for some. Personally i find that it helps bring family and community together. And this depends on how we choose to use tools, like this......	DavidG	4	33	8 days ago by DavidG
	j.a.d.e. AND jaded... (Preview) Don't justify, argue, defend, or explain. I think maybe, that the last word was added to make up the akronym? I really love to explain, when I am asked stuff. Over years of 12 step recovery, my communication has improved a lot- at least I believe so. But stepping in and explaining stuff- where there...	DavidG	0	32	13 days ago by DavidG
	Switching the paradigm- to take care of ourselves... (Preview) Bon looking at the work of Dr. Alice Miller- who was a pioneer- in getting away from blaming the child... ...getting hooked up into the blame-shame cycle, imo, is a precursor to our co-dependency. I blue that the things Dr Porges is enunciating it an outcome of this modern trend... ...thes...	DavidG	0	22	September 2nd by DavidG
	MIP in turmoil-just not true... (Preview) Below is a quote from on elf our MIP members. It looks like out combined MIP Steps group- of which CODA form a a part has been wrecked. The Alanon Mod refused to hold a conscience meeting on the Alanon Business board- and to conduct a properly convened conscience meeting. Instead there was a kangaroo co...	DavidG	1	23	September 1st by DavidG
	From sympathy to empathy... (Preview) It can be a long convoluted journey! ... Watch Dr. Brene Brown do the journey. Ah believe that Bill W. of AA fame also undertook it. Alice Miller- "The Drama of the Gifted Child" also- and for herself, mostly, imo... People will step in your way. Overtalking- oversharing. Taking up far too much sp...	DavidG	0	28	August 30th by DavidG
	Book Study: Codependent No More - Chapter 1 (Preview) The first chapter starts as it should, someone telling their story so we can identify. This was Jessica's story. A 32 year old woman married to an alcoholic. Jessica tells of her inability to function in life anymore. The depression - the lack of will to do even the smallest things like showering....	Linistea	37	12062	August 28th by DavidG
	Putting CODA, Alanon, ACA, NA, AA, Xa together... (Preview) I call it Te poutama tekau ma rua... The Twelve Steps. And the we all get to Step 12, and learn to dwell there we end up with a sense of commonality, and unity. I found this for myself- by visiting Stepping Stones- to home of Lois and Bill- and temporary home to many. I met the person on this clip- and knew...	DavidG	0	18	August 28th by DavidG
	A Sunday Share... (Preview) As a co-dependent I had to learn to live with addiction, and equally, with other co=dependents. Listening to a talk by a pioneer and veteran, Bob E. is is entirely possible act the addict and or alcoholic has codependent traits as well. Not sure if we are allowed to unpack the nature of the disease? Or h...	DavidG	0	25	August 28th by DavidG
	Is this comment about me? (Preview) From the MIP Alanon board:- "Your participation here has spiraled into as much insanity as the member who was recently banned. As another member, it's uncomfortable to watch, impossible to participate and just so removed from our purpose and intent." If this is about me- this is patently untrue...	DavidG	2	61	August 27th by DavidG
	Embracing the 12 Steps... (Preview) I can't say that my SO was going through a relapse. My SO is a lovely mother, grandmas and aunt- always has been. But over 38 years I have had to face a mean nasty, gaslighting projecting fiend. Which i have used the steps and meetings as a way of dealing with. Something I didn't cause, can't change or cur...	DavidG	0	32	August 26th by DavidG
	CODA explained... (Preview) https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=405968197554255&set=a.399936418157433	DavidG	0	28	August 25th by DavidG
	Meetings... (Preview) If a CODA member came through this way- I would go up to the Mall for coffee time and swap notes. ACA is unlikely to take hold here in my lifetime- barring a miracle. I have scaled down my involvement in recovery. 10 years with MIP groups. ... Getting across a city and sharing at a meeting for 3 or 4 min...	DavidG	0	41	August 24th by DavidG
	Projection... both backwards and forwards... (Preview) ...scripting is something I reflect on a fair bit, doing Step 11. Where I end and other start- that sort of thing. In years past my boundaries have been bombarded. Sometimes that have been absent. And then I began to notice- that other people were being co-dependent on me- foisting their solutions...	DavidG	1	35	August 24th by DavidG
	Random, random, random... lock-down chocolate... (Preview) Number one for me... Brene. These are unprecedented times!!!	DavidG	3	62	August 24th by DavidG
	CODA TRADITION 10 (Preview) MARIANNE ELIOT'S book "Zen under Fire" is a great treatise on codependency. A relationship starved of emotion under a really straitened situation. [https://www.thenile.co.nz/books/marianne-elliott/zen-under-fire/9780143567158?gclid=Cj0KCQjwjo2JBhCRARIsAFG667WLwLYu9oW7...	DavidG	0	31	August 23rd by DavidG
	Making Mistakes. (Preview) We have the right to be wrong. As co-dependents we are often bamboozled by dependents who expect perfection a fair bit. But in their overall life-style, that may not have made it at all. Not for themselves. One of the classic images of us- as a co-dependent- is being locked together with a narci...	DavidG	0	33	August 23rd by DavidG
	Trying far too hard- can sometimes work- because it create resilience. (Preview) I come from a small compact country. 5 million. We have communities here, and networks and links between these communities. Below is the testimony of a family member- a strong korero- a speaking time. I would have followed a talk like that with a song- so, as a consequence, I will follow with a song...	DavidG	2	52	August 22nd by DavidG
	Angry with the MIP family... (Preview) This is my only point of contact with the MIP family. This CODA board. Like with my own FOO, I felt that MIP had treated me really badly. There is one person in the MIP family I think ah kin trust. And you might be that person reading this right now. ??? Gaslighting and bullying. My place here is stop b...	DavidG	5	64	August 21st by DavidG
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