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POSTING GUIDELINES
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Posting Guidelines This forum is intended to provide an atmosphere of open communication, where each member can share his or her own insights and opinions. To help achieve this goal, we ask that you:Do not post threatening, abusing, defamatory, libelous or illegal material.Do not post harassing...
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A Simple Thank You
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Hello Everyone, As the founder and webmaster of Miracles In Progress I want to extent a personal "Thank You" to each of you for valuing and utilizing the CoDA portion of our site. As we grow in our recoveries from alcoholism, addiction, or being a family member of a loved one who suffers from this di...
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MIP Business Board
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The MIP Business board has been set up at https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com MIP Business is a place where members of all the fellowships in Miracles in Progress can be informed and have a say in changes that affect the MIP website pages. This is a place to communicate, discuss, and, when neces...
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Codependent No More Book Study - Links to All Chapters
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http://coda.activeboard.com/t41972579/book-study-codepende...
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Learning to live, and living to learn...
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Working on the coast for 10 days... I still have a hotspot link- and will check in here, and post maybe. Je ma'appelle DavidG, and i am a proud recovering codependent. I seem to have found a healthy way of living, thinking, loving, working, learning, and teaching maybe. Will be close to the city...
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Me...
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Hi y'all... Cool rainy overcast day here in AoNZ. A DREAM:- that all of us- on this journey- when we reach and attain Step 12 are very much on a par. No matter, exactly, of the details of brought us here in the first place. I say more and more often- begin the journey as young as you can. It isn't alw...
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This is getting to book length... ???
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There could be an end in sight- but it could be a wee way off... Would welcome some friendly intrusion- or comments. ... I come from an era, pre-codependency, and pre- a time when people had sponsors. I say this many times- but members of our Alanon group bought Women Who Love Too much, and Codepe...
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Bigpeople stuff...
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Our assembly- up and gorge worked out well. There ere only a few delegates there- to be true. But our local group all turned up for the afternoon meeting- great support! As an adult child i will always have trouble with figures of authority. Sometimes being far too deferential, and sometimes...
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Friendly Fire.
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FF is a military term- where you are bing fired on by your friends and allies. In toxic family systems- it is those who could be caring and nurturing who have you under attack. This would be the principal cause of codependency. ??????..... It can happen with our 12 Step groups. Within MIP...
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...uplifting shame...
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Look at the world's upheavals, and people's personal upheavals... ...I don't shun this. I know my boundaries fairly well know- and areas of responsibility. As a co-dependent I have had to pay attention to this. Not to limit myself, nor over extend myself either. I always say that if people want...
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D.R E.A.M.S...
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D.R E.A.M.S... DON'T REALLY EVER ADMITS MAGIC SURFACES. Just a randomly made up response to an Akronym attempt... I dreamed of discovering something really unique about the human spirit. Was a fan of Brene Brown and her "Grounded Theory". Something anyone could practise inside, or outside of an a...
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Two more sleeps!
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Going to see K. after 50 years... I asked her to mention me to her family- as a way of setting boundaries... and she has friends too- where she seemed to be isolating 3 months ago. We have daily contact- about 3 times a day by chat- a real rite of re-encounter. K. is shy to hone- but we did have a phone conv...
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N.O.O.S.E.
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No Oughts Or Shoulds Everywhere... I most usually applied oughts and should to the world at large. I was an idealist and a dreamer. On my journey I invented an intellectual trinity- the ideal, the idea, and the real. My life was a mess and was close, at times, to living on the side of the street. Ev...
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My journey...
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...parts of my journey fit together at age 70... At age 16 I studied the healer Wiremu Tahupotiki Ratana. A miracle healer, here in Ao-NZ, this movement is still active today. I had lost my mojo. There were compelling reasons for this- that only really came to light later in life. I actively and d...
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B A G G A GE
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-- Edited by DavidG on Tuesday 2nd of November 2021 10:02:20 PM
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Old girlfriend stuff, Mk III
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I planned to be a caregiver, and not a care-taker. To be independent and interdependent... Big roman words... ...online with messenger and facebook- can be seductive and elusive sometimes. As we say in Ao-NZ- Ka korero ai, whakarongo ai, tangata ki te tangata, kanohi ki te kanohi... We can sp...
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Holiday over...
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Always loved books- from young age... ...ended up with "the paralysis of analysis"... but over time wriggled free of this... I think... [that was an old share- or part of that I forgot to submit.] I gravitate to old friends- who knew me as I am. One in the far north of the island. I spent time with...
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On Holiday- vacation...
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I have said before- that our newest CODA group is in our capital city- and I did don't get there, this tour. Went to Alanon in an old goldfield town last week; and to ACA last night in this city. The meeting was skimpy. The chair I had not met- but we knew a heap of people in common. It was AA who actually ...
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ADDRESSING TRAUMA...
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The "nicklebum" NICABM group of therapists are in the forefront of addressing the issue of trauma. I Alanon, and maybe AA we would be allowed to talk about such stuff. In CODA, from an ethical point of view, we should endorse or deny such information. And any professionals coming forward as me...
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Oh, what is a healthy personality all about, anyway?
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15 or 18 years ago I met up with this person on a CODA forum. A nice person- a bit astute. A university lecturer over in the USA. We got talking, and she invited me over to Sydney Austraila for a Christmas with friends- with her of course. I was mildly flattered and played along with this for a coupl...
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Codependency in Alanon...
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... sometimes in Alanon we have bossy boots codependence who insist on some pretty dodgy interpretations of the rules. Have seen in on online groups too. Like throwing someone out of a meeting for mentioning the word "codependency". Anyway- this week I had another instance of this with our nati...
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Holiday/vacation...
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They say that trauma never sleeps. So I will attend meetings where I can over the next two weeks. My SO growls about this. But what if my redeeming interest was cricket. All day, or four day matches! W. is a wahine [woman] I have now for 50 years now. She and her older sister, aged 11 and 12 were basical...
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One day the posts here may tail off- and then there will be eternal silence... ???
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...squirrelling is powerful for me. I find that a -no cross talk- 12 step meeting to be very therapeutic and enabling... and it is sometimes difficult to find- to be at the right place at the right time. Currently I a part of a plant hold an Alanon assembly through my home group. Coming out of cov...
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The kind of people I know...
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I don't actually know this person. This is the person I spoke about- who was talking on Tv... ...but I do know a lot of people like this, in AoNZ. This is a special and a beautiful share. It takes a kind heart to see this. ... https://www.facebook.com/TeWanangaoAotearoa/posts/tricia-walsh...
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A girl in every port- and any port in a storm...
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Well, there is now storm, really... I believe in a gender free universe really-in theory... ...in practise, there was a few more generations to go- really. But i do have chick-mates, a bit more than male pals. As regards male pals- maybe read six or seven generations! A bit of mild dalliance,...
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Half measures avail us nothing...
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Half measures avail us nothing... comes from the AA Big Book. ... Progress, not perfection- from Alanon, really. ... The second saying, for me may have a tad of passive aggressiveness attached to it. "Play Safe". "Spare the histrionics, David..." was something I coined myself- more from ACA....
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D.R.E.A.M.S...
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Dreams... ...one time we visited Stepping Stones- the home of the 12 Step Movement. The awakening there came through a flood of tears- listening to the first words of Abby and Bill. I am a friend of Lois -primarily... but I felt like Lois and Bill were my mum and dad. Exclusively. After that...
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Every day...
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...every day... I have contact with my old friend who has breast cancer... ...I am so familiar with rejection and abandonment. I was in a treatment centre in 1985 and 87. As a family member, a co-dependent. I had access to the office- and the library they had there. So I studied up on scripting- and th...
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New avenues for diagnosis and treatment of anxiety.
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No-one come into our meetings without some measure of anxiety. In theory- with any 12 Step group- I believe that we work in tandem with the clinical sector. In practise, experiences differ a lot, I find. I, myself, believe that experiences of stakeholders count for just as much. I participat...
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