When is the last time you did something for yourself? Something you truly love that is just for you - something healthy. I could choose retail therapy (shopping) or a new relationship to make me feel better, but is that really going to c h a n g e anything?
Maybe today I can:
Meditate Exercise Take a walk Do crafts Play music Take a drive Give myself a facial or manicure Take a vacation Learn something new Read a book
The list goes on and on and doesn't have to be expensive. I went to the Grand Canyon while on a business trip ... just booked at extra day and covered that financially. I had a free flight coupon for a missed flight and a friend gave me their timeshare so I took my parents on vacation. I am learning to play guitar. I live close to some fantastic places, I am sure we all do. So trips to San Francisco, Tahoe, Yosemite are all within a 4hour drive. Really not that expensive. I signed up for an art class I didn't finish, so I am going through the book now. I am watching instructional videos on photography on the web. Exercise can be simply putting on music I love and dancing around the house ... really want to spice it up ... do it naked! I belong to a site called meetup.com and they have a LOT of groups that gather to do so many different things. Book clubs, hike clubs, just hang out clubs ... I also belong to livingsocial.com and I get extreme discounts on services so I am trying accupuncture next week. Maybe you like antiquing, knitting, scrapbooking, or wood work. Chances are, with technology these days, you can find someone interested in things you are. When there are more involved the expense is less and it is more fun.
It can be anything. It isn't about what we do or how much it costs, it is about feeding that child inside and making them happy. We work so hard for everyone else. I have put off a vacation while paying $1000 to fix my daughter's car. I have paid for 95% of the dates and outtings with the ex and bought him groceries and been told I do nothing. We sometimes have to sacrifice for those we care for. Others we need to recognize when we are being used and stop the abuse. We have a list of people we need to care for - valid or not - but are we on that list? Do we even count?
I do.
-- Edited by willing on Thursday 1st of March 2012 01:21:24 PM
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Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
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You live 4 hours from Yosemite I have dreamed of going there for years, lucky you.
Recovery can be so exciting learning to have fun in healthy ways.
thanks for giving me some Ideas. I am just on my way to a Zumba exercise class with old friends. On monday I am going to the theatre to see Hormonal house wives a comedy with my friends. Oh yes and I have booked a weekend Coda retreat for end of June,
