Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. —Codependent No More
This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be.
How often we waste our time and energy wishing we were someone else, were doing something else, or were someplace else. We may wish our present circumstances were different.
We needlessly confuse ourselves and divert our energy by thinking that our present moment is a mistake. But we are right where we need to be for now. Our feelings, thoughts, circumstances, challenges, and tasks - all of it is on schedule.
We spoil the beauty of the present moment by wishing for something else.
Come back home to yourself. Come back home to the present moment. We will not change things by escaping or leaving the moment. We will change things by surrendering to and accepting the moment.
Some moments are easier to accept than others.
To trust the process, to trust all of it, without hanging on to the past or peering too far into the future, requires a great deal of faith. Surrender to the moment. If you're feeling angry, get mad. If you're setting a boundary, dive into that. If you're grieving, grieve. Get into it. Step where instinct leads. If you're waiting, wait. If you have a task, throw yourself into the work. Get into the moment; the moment is right.
We are where we are, and it is okay. It is right where we're meant to be to get where we're going tomorrow. And that place will be good.
It has been planned in love for us.
God, help me let go of my need to be someone other than who I am today. Help me dive fully into the present moment. I will accept and surrender to my present moments - the difficult ones and the easy ones, trusting the whole process. I will stop trying to control the process; instead, I will relax and let myself experience it.
There is a quote at the beginning of a Brad Easton Ellis' Book about spiritual bankruptcy from Ernest Hemingway
Matt: How'd you go bankrupt Hank?
Hank: two ways actually, slowly, then suddenly
I'm finding the reverse is true, I wrote this yesterday I think
Life has shifted from "challenging" (this sucks) to "rewarding" (this is awesome) imperceptibly recently, like in the same way we go bankrupt, slowly then suddenly
Like I woke up a few weeks ago, and everything was great, I find myself doing gratitude lists on the way to work not because I have to, but because I want to, to like, catalogue this influx of good fortune that has been coming my way, I'm in the middle of an 8 day work flurry, following a week I think I worked 7 out of 10 days, I gave myself a day off tomorrow but had to work because they made it so economically attractive I couldn't say no, I've lost 25 lbs in the past month, I'm in a GREAT mood, I ...god I don't even know where to start, like all this outside stuff came pouring in but it's reflecting my insides, like I am....this is the result of a lot of todays of moving forward, a lot of setbacks, a lot of victories, but they all came together to make this series of "nows" that are so awesome, driving around the Delta in my recently restored 72' Mercedes Benz Convertible, going 4 wheeling waaaay up in the backroads of the foothills in my new Jeep with a new friend
Hard to explain, but like all those moments of frustration, of wishing I was someone else, somewhere else, was WITH someone else, doing some THING else, all lead to this. that steady returning to mantras like "patience is not waiting for something to change, but allowing the present moment to be what it is" kind of lead to all these things manifesting in my life, once I got out of my own way and jettisoned some bad habits, old behaviors and dead weight, like started moving forward rather then trying to repair or redo the past, started living in the day, and everything just fell together
I find myself asking myself, how lucky can one guy be?
Tom Robbins wrote once all experiences in Life can be boiled down to two words, Yum and Yuck, and if we eliminate the S*** that makes us say "yuck" and are drwn to the stuff that makes us say "Yum" our lives get better, things like living in the now, being around people who are emotionally evolved as opposed to passive aggressive and that lie, like how does this person -really- make me feel on a gut level?
and frankly that is a direct result of everything in this post, learning to do these things, learning to be in the now, and more importantly learning when I wasn't in the now, learning to trust my gut, learning to say "No", both in my home/personal life and my professional life (that caused some upheaval in both places) but I just got to a place where I said "No More...This stops here, this stops NOW", once I learned to say No and to get out of my own way my life got really good again finally
who'da thunk?
that God fella moves a bit slow, like glaciers are like Jaguars compared to this dood, but he's sho nuff inexorable, and he's like the Pony Express, he gets through eventually
-- Edited by LinBaba on Thursday 18th of August 2011 10:54:22 PM
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it's not the change that's painful, it's the resistance to change that is painful
I like this thought very much. I remember writing a journal entry about my ex-BF and how I thought it was odd that he always looked forward to something else, instead of enjoying the moment he had previously been looking forward to! I have done this also; I often remind myself to stop and look around, so I can see what is really valuable in this moment. That's where it helps to write down gratitudes too. Today I am grateful for this meditation!
