My Share:

Usually, I recognize myself in the Codependent patterns. This one defies me; I am totally opposite, yet the recovery statement applies.

For me in my codependence, I would not trust my self to make a decision. I would consult people, books, magazines, websites for input and advise. Then sometimes the advise would be so confilicting that I still would not make a decision because I had information overload.

When I was in high school, my guidance counselor gave me a useful method of making decisions.
She said; take a big paper. Write your Question across the top (ie should I attend XYZ University; or should I major in xyzology?) It's important to keep the question simple and one to a page.
Then under the question, Draw a line down the center of the page. On one side write PROs on the other side write CONs.
Then start to list all the good reasons and all of the bad reasons; write them into the proper column.
When that is done, evaluate them and rank each by how important. Cross off the less important things.
You should be left with the important items. Count how many pros vs how many cons and your decision should be easy.

I've used this technique often through the years.
But I still find myself indecisive on small stuff.

Since I'm in recovery, I have turned to my HP to help me decide small stuff.

Two examples early in my recovery involved purchases.
One; I needed tires for my car. I spent hours researching the best brand to get.
I went off to the store, info in hand. The sales person said they didn't make the size my car required. The store did have another highly rated tire; it was in stock and on sale.
So instead of being upset; I took it as a decision my higher power made for me and I left the auto store happy with wonderful new tires. Before recovery I would have been angry; probably because I did not have complete control of the purchase. Today, I let my anger go and let my HP decide.

Another day, I was buying a small appliance. I couldn't decide between one or the other. So I asked my HP to give me a sign. In the store, I could not find the one I really wanted; so took it as a sign from my HP to get the one that was well stocked. I was a little nervous with my choice because I had not researched it completely; but I did know that this store sells only quality items. But I decided that one brand would be as good as the other; then to let it go; to trust my HP to decide for me. So far, I'm happy with that product. I am having success with allowing my HP to guide some of my small decisions as well.

I am trying to always be aware of the signs that I used to ignore. I am noticing there are far fewer complications in my days when I am not trying to force and control every outcome.

Blessings in CoDA