Thanks for sharing, Daisy. I Step1 these sorts of issues & recognise my powerlessness over what others may do or think. One of the first freedoms my sponsor taught me was that I can never really know for sure what others are thinking & that I'm not dependent on that anyway. This was a revelation in my early recovery as I felt I needed a lot of control & approval to help me feel safe. I understand these as strategies of my ego today & I try to let go & let the highest principle of what I believe to be God & God's love matter the most to me & not what others may think of me. This can be a tender spot for me on any given day & I keep learning more how to do it through the Steps & I grow in it all the time. I don't necessarily get complete immunity to these worries but I can be reprieved when I remember principles before personalities. I have a right to privacy & to protect that how I see fit even if I make a mistake or could be more graceful about it. I will be as soon as I learn how to & this knowledge comes & improves as I grow. I'm absolutely reliant on the God of my own understanding for my true sense of worth & peace comes when I work through my pain this way & remember no one else but this is my Higher Power. This is how I heal my fear & return to love for God, myself & others. I hope this makes sense with you in some way. Recovery is a continuous & persistant process for me. Love, lilmzx