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Enjoy it!
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Today, I got up early (for a change) and headed out to a "gig" at a senior center a few miles from here (I play sax). As I drove along, I kept thinking about how bad the band of "old guys" might be or that the crowd would be tired, bored and "out of it" so all of that negativity would bug me and spoil the (free) gi...
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Donation Drive complete
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The godaddy bill has now been paid! The total was $142.46. Tanin was able to get a bit of a discount. This left me with a surplus of $7.07, which I will contribute to the activeboard fund at Sparklit.Thanks for everyone's help, we are good to go on hosting for another year! Yay!!!Kenny
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Transition update and Donation Request
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The transition committee is in the final stages of transitioning the Miracle in Progress, Account from John over to the committee. We have been advised that the chat room and meeting room costs of $149.00 for the year needs to be paid by May 15. The message board bill has already been paid and we are n...
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Typical Teenagers
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I would have ordinarily posted this to the ACoA forum but I’m banned from there and this item might even get me banned form here but I still feel it’s worth the risk to say what I want to say to parents and there kids. I keep seeing disparaging comments on line about TYPICAL TEENS and, since I once was a tee...
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Codependent on dead wife
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I don't like the term "dead" so I will refer to my late wife as crossed over or dis-incarnate since she is still very alive and well in the Afterlife but I cannot prove that. Shortly after Irene crossed over, I realized just how codependent I had been with her. We were "happy" codependents and never st...
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Bad relationships
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I guess everyone has their idea what they are. For me, I can think I have things together. I stepped in it again because I got into a bad relationship (friend) (actually not even that). It went south. Someone from church. She switched on me and started treating me like a resource to her. And becoming...
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Thanks!
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Hi Everyone, On behalf of the transition committee, I just wanted to thank everyone for your donations! After the last donation drive we had we came out about a year ahead on our fees to Sparklit, who is the host of our board, so we decided to stop taking donations for a little while.We may have another c...
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CODA and me II.
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Sometimes when i share i say the first thing that comes into my head... what came into my head just now was the movie "Wild". This movie was a real rite of passage for a very sick person. I did not have the same sickness, but I realised so closely to the journey, and the process that came out of that. Cheryl...
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Tradition 7 call-up around the MIP Board.
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Hi y'all, Tanin is in the process of setting up the framework for funding the board. The CODA board has been his first port of call. The arrears and the call-up of funds is from all 5 of the boards, not just the CODA board. -David.
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John, goodbye.
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I never met John who started all this, but have read some of his posts from years ago. I was just over at ACA and read a post that he passed away today. Go in peace. You will find it.
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Feelings
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Just found these articles; a bit of food for thought: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/feeling-our-emotions/ And another: http://www.6seconds.org/2011/07/26/integrated-emotions/ Interesting. Qualifier: None are CoDA approved but so many CoDAs have trouble with fee...
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7th tradition request for donations to support MIP
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David G has already posted informaiton regarding this procedure In keeping with the Seventh Tradition that states "Every group should be self supporting", the MIP transition committee, voted to solicit contributions from each MIP Board to clear a billing from the Vendor that hosts t...
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Joining ACA difficult
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I wanted to join ACA as well because there are a lot of postings on that site and a couple of new ones with videos concerning trauma which are fascinating and I recommend. I wanted to thank the person that included those for others to watch. But they won't let me join without providing an email address!...
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Stopping Victimization
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Stopping Victimization Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated u...
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New here
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Hello, New here. I am not used to posting on sites like this. I ended up leaving a reply under a comment made back in September! I have read posts here off and on for awhile. Poignant and salient. I attended CoDA meetings in my town for awhile but did not feel safe so I left. I am more counter-dependen...
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Sponcer
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Hello, I am new here and wanted to get some information on getting an online sponcer. If anyone has any advice that would be great.
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Table manners
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I just came home from a jazz festival gig down in San Diego where some of us, in the band, had dinner together and I had an unwitting return of some of the crippling scripts and programs that my FOO installed in me so long ago. We all sat down to a large round table and, as I started working on my food, while loo...
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"No" a complete sentence.
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I thought I would start a new tread on this topic. I'm now learning here and in the Fellowship about the word and sentence of "NO". In the past and sometimes now my "no" means "maybe" or "yes- if someone pushes hard enough". My wife loves to keep moving. ...
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They did the best they could!
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I know that many folks want to honor, respect and idolize their beloved parents with the excuse that their parents did the best they could with what they knew and, since I am working a program that requires rigorous honesty, I cannot give my parents the "best they could" excuse for what they did to me and...
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Some information for Newcomers to Recovery
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http://acoa.activeboard.com/t62895419/hello-newcomers/
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Inner Child Affirmations
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-- Edited by jimrich on Thursday 24th of November 2016 11:16:34 AM
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Why do we struggle to detach
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Why do we struggle to detach from family members that abuse us and in my case my children aswell even though i know that they are unwell, my mum dad are addicts brother sister are co-dependant aswell as me. How can the 12 step program help me in this vicous cycle.
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Finding a sponsor in another group
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I am working on step 2 and can't find any coda meeting nearby in my country. The nearest one would be in another country (Swiss) which is as the border country of mine but with a small community. I have tried to get an online sponsor without succes.
Therefore, I am wondering if it possible to find a sponso...
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Happy Thanksgiving Y'all!
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Sponsor
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Hi, I am very new to CoDA but not new with other 12 steps program. I would like to find a sponsor but in my area there is none. Please advise.
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Step Study - Step 1
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We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. In the book "Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps", the author Melody Beattie, begins by telling how she reacted to this step. She didn't understand. "Powerless over others? My life - unmana...
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Online over-payment scams
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I know that this is not a riveting CODAissue but, I've just had a run-in with an online Scammer and am in the middle of tormenting and counter-scamming the Scammer. I have an item for sale at VarageSales and the Scammer sent me a cashiers check for MORE than the item is selling for and wants me to QUICKLY ma...
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Newbie
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Hi, Sarah here. I've thought about joining for years now but thankfully I had a nice long patch where I forgot I needed help. Unfortunately the past 2 days have been hell....i met my now husband 10 years ago. We were both extremely heavy drinkers. We started dating not long after that and the first year...
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Welcome home
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I have just joined this forum, after getting out of a short term relationship with a recovering alcoholic and realising that I had my own problems. Long story short, I left an abusive, controlling long term relationship 25 years ago. At the time I underwent counselling, did lots of work on myself and m...
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Hi, I'm new.
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Hello everyone. I found this forum while looking for resources to help me work the Steps. I joined a NA group for those affected by a drug addict and it does touch on codependency but not to the degree I think it does here (from what I've read so far). Here's my story: In 2015, I started working on a new proje...
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