Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

gladlee · gladlee

I AM MOTIVATED TO PURSUE MY GOAL Today I will pursue my goals and set my sights towards motivating myself. There is no need for me to lead an empty, unfulfilled life. If I am not sure where I am going, I will take the time to ask God for light and inspiration. What is my sincere desire in life? Have I settle...

Danielle · Danielle

Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. This is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wait. Feel the confusion and chaos, and then let it...

SoberSteve · SoberSteve

Thanks John and Dean for making this happen.. Im going through a lot right now. Will post soon with an update.. Thanks to everyone at MIP the last 2 years for sharing all your Experience, Strength and Hope. I believe this forum will help a lot of people, including me. 8 girls in a year and a half since I s...

gladlee · gladlee

I REJOICE IN MY LAUGHTER Laughter is a vital part of life, born in a baby's smile. I am alive with delight. As I continue to recover, I am more aware of the healing that laughter brings. Laughter is one of God's gifts to lighten the heart. I accept and reflect happiness and see it appearing everywhere...

Newlight · Newlight

I've had many substance addictions throughout my life, and just for today, I am free of them. I am only starting to be able to address other 'addictions' such as behaviour patterns. I can see in hindsight, that I was unable to get any clarity untill I was free of substance addictions. I do get very confus...

Alexmaui · Alexmaui

i'm reading Co-Dependent No More....I'm trying to "detach" as Al Anon tells me....I'm hurting. My AH and I separated. He's a sweet guy..but his drinking and drugs got out of control and I found myself more of a caretaker than a wife. We live pretty close to each other so I let him into my life a...

Danielle · Danielle

I was forty-six years old before I finally admitted to myself and someone else that my grandfather always managed to make me feel guilty, angry, and controlled. —Anonymous We may love and care about our family very much. Family members may love and care about us. But interacting with some members may...

Dean · Dean

"I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others." Ifind myself giving people advise they don't ask for, and offering to do favors, usually work that these folks need to do for themselves. Of course I see these as unselfish good deeds, but if I exami...

gladlee · gladlee

CLARITY IS ALWAYS WITHIN MY REACH My thinking is simplified today as I center my attention on my inner voice. So often in my alcoholic home, the environment was chaotic and complicated. As a child, I seemed to be always caught up in cross-currents of confusion. As an adult, my thinking sometimes be...

jj · jj

i have spent so many years "protecting" myself that half truths pop out of my mouth easier than anything else. and now i am not quite sure just exactly what i am protecting or have been protecting all these years.... "feelings" i guess. and then it makes me angry that i am so af...

LinBaba · LinBaba

This is taken from a thread I participated in a few years ago, I didn't write this, this was a response Setting Boundaries The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves...

Danielle · Danielle

Happy Birthday, Brother! I hope you're celebrating in style! Recovery love & fellowship always 1Day@aTime, Danielle x

gladlee · gladlee

Note: Please let me know if this is an unwelcome addition on this board. DISCOVERY "I AM ON A JOURNEY TO DISCOVER THE STRONG INNER ME" "I will open myself to risk and to surprise. Like all journeys, the quest for self-knowledge can bring strength and illumination. I have confidence...

Danielle · Danielle

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. —Step Three of Al-Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered. We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible. Doors open. Windows open. Po...

LinBaba · LinBaba

I just had an incredibly interesting conversation about this tonight, and I'd thought I would try to get my thoughts down while they were still fresh. I maintained that when I was a "people pleaser" it was basically me manipulating other peoples responses, it was me lying by evasion, prev...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I was wondering if there were others like myself, who when faced with someone saying I can't do this or I can't do that, I feel myself start to bur up inside. Then I start to make things hard for them eg The other day I called a theme park to see if we could take our own food along (we have 5 children at home)...

Danielle · Danielle

Anxiety is often our first reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be p...

Dean · Dean

I still do. Perfectionism racks my mind, as I constantly consider what others might think about some minor purchase. Or I'm obsessed about paying too much and spend way too much time looking for the best deal, once again thinking about that someone might ask. Then there's the fear of making a poor de...

Dean · Dean

THE PREAMBLE Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-disco...

Dean · Dean

Affirmations - Affirmations are a tool in recovery, nurturing statements we make to ourselves. We use them as a means to start building ourselves up from the inside. The following includes a list of possible affirmations, and a link to web site with some great affirmation guidance tools. As we grow i...

billyjack · billyjack

OK, this is the third time i;m trying to post this. For some reason the board said it had to be reviewed first before it could be posted. Anyway, When I first came into AA 11 years ago, my then family was dying of untreated alcoholism, and it didnt survive. I heard a guy in the rooms say his family would do the...

billyjack · billyjack

When I first came in to AA 11 years ago,I heard someone say that his family was doing the dance of death. I borrowed that frase when my family, which was consumed by untreated alcoholism, disintergrated. I didnt really know how deep it really reached in the spiritual illness I suffer from. The rela...

Toad · Toad

Hi, I never knew what co- dependant meant. Six years clean and sober I started to hate alcoholics and addicts. The one on the top of the list was Wayne. I did not like me. My wife wwas a member of Al-Anon, and she mentioned some members hated their Alcoholics. I asked her if I could attend a meeting. She said...

Danielle · Danielle

I've learned I can take care of myself, and what I can't do, God will do for me. —Al-Anon member God, a Higher Power as we understand Him, is our source of guidance and positive change. This doesn't mean we're not responsible for ourselves. We are. But we aren't in this alone. Recovery is not a do-it-your...

Steve · Steve

Hi all -- Steve here, SteveP from another MIP board. What a great idea for this board. Thanks John. Steve

LinBaba · LinBaba

Many years ago Woody Allen made a film about a man with such poor boundaries he became a "human chameleon", he took on the attributes of those around him. He spliced old footage together with new footage shot in black and white, and mixed it, at one point it shows Zelig in Rome as a Cardinal up o...

John · John

Hello Everyone, At the request of numerous members of Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums, I have initiated the beginning of the MIP Codependent Anonymous Group. I have yet to decide whether to let it be an additional MIP group, or to utilize it to replace one of two very inactive groups on the...

Dean · Dean

I spent most of my life numb. I shut down a long time ago to avoid pain. The longer I hid from it the more I acted out to offset it. After awhile I couldn't feel anything good or bad, or my feelings wouldn't show up till a few days later. I remember at about 6 months in recovery, my 2 year old son developed a f...

Linistea · Linistea

When I entered into recovery I had no idea what Codependency even was. When I started reading "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I was shocked that the book seemed to have been written with me in mind. I believe understanding the definition of Codependency is a great place to start....

Linistea · Linistea

John, Thank you so much for adding the this message board to the MIP Family! When I first started recovery I had no idea what the word even meant. When I started reading "Codependant No More" by Melodie Beatty - I was shocked. This book was written about me! Here is my favorite online descri...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	ACOA - Motivation (Preview) I AM MOTIVATED TO PURSUE MY GOAL Today I will pursue my goals and set my sights towards motivating myself. There is no need for me to lead an empty, unfulfilled life. If I am not sure where I am going, I will take the time to ask God for light and inspiration. What is my sincere desire in life? Have I settle...	gladlee	0	915	Mar 12, 2011 by gladlee
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Confusion (Preview) Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. This is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wait. Feel the confusion and chaos, and then let it...	Danielle	2	1249	Mar 11, 2011 by Mike B
	Im here (Preview) Thanks John and Dean for making this happen.. Im going through a lot right now. Will post soon with an update.. Thanks to everyone at MIP the last 2 years for sharing all your Experience, Strength and Hope. I believe this forum will help a lot of people, including me. 8 girls in a year and a half since I s...	SoberSteve	10	1107	Mar 11, 2011 by Mike B
	ACOA Daily Affirmation - Laughter (Preview) I REJOICE IN MY LAUGHTER Laughter is a vital part of life, born in a baby's smile. I am alive with delight. As I continue to recover, I am more aware of the healing that laughter brings. Laughter is one of God's gifts to lighten the heart. I accept and reflect happiness and see it appearing everywhere...	gladlee	0	1485	Mar 11, 2011 by gladlee
	Is recovery from codependency possible whilst in active addiction to a substance? (Preview) I've had many substance addictions throughout my life, and just for today, I am free of them. I am only starting to be able to address other 'addictions' such as behaviour patterns. I can see in hindsight, that I was unable to get any clarity untill I was free of substance addictions. I do get very confus...	Newlight	6	1305	Mar 10, 2011 by LinBaba
	Am i protecting myself....or just hurting him? (Preview) i'm reading Co-Dependent No More....I'm trying to "detach" as Al Anon tells me....I'm hurting. My AH and I separated. He's a sweet guy..but his drinking and drugs got out of control and I found myself more of a caretaker than a wife. We live pretty close to each other so I let him into my life a...	Alexmaui	7	1485	Mar 10, 2011 by HeatherK
	Daily Meditation ~ Living with Families (Preview) I was forty-six years old before I finally admitted to myself and someone else that my grandfather always managed to make me feel guilty, angry, and controlled. —Anonymous We may love and care about our family very much. Family members may love and care about us. But interacting with some members may...	Danielle	0	783	Mar 10, 2011 by Danielle
	Characteristics discussion - "I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others." (Preview) *"I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others."* Ifind myself giving people advise they don't ask for, and offering to do favors, usually work that these folks need to do for themselves. Of course I see these as unselfish good deeds, but if I exami...	Dean	2	2505	Mar 10, 2011 by gladlee
	ACOA - Clarity (Preview) CLARITY IS ALWAYS WITHIN MY REACH My thinking is simplified today as I center my attention on my inner voice. So often in my alcoholic home, the environment was chaotic and complicated. As a child, I seemed to be always caught up in cross-currents of confusion. As an adult, my thinking sometimes be...	gladlee	0	875	Mar 10, 2011 by gladlee
	honesty and anger are big problems for me (Preview) i have spent so many years "protecting" myself that half truths pop out of my mouth easier than anything else. and now i am not quite sure just exactly what i am protecting or have been protecting all these years.... "feelings" i guess. and then it makes me angry that i am so af...	jj	1	995	Mar 9, 2011 by NaninMinn
	So What Are Boundaries (Preview) This is taken from a thread I participated in a few years ago, I didn't write this, this was a response Setting Boundaries The purpose of setting boundaries is to take care of our self. Being forced to learn how to set boundaries is a vital part of learning to own our self, of learning to respect ourselves...	LinBaba	7	1374	Mar 9, 2011 by Mattie
	Happy Bellybutton Birthday, Dean!!! (Preview) Happy Birthday, Brother! I hope you're celebrating in style! Recovery love & fellowship always 1Day@aTime, Danielle x	Danielle	4	1212	Mar 9, 2011 by Mike B
	Daily Affirmation - ACOA (Preview) Note: Please let me know if this is an unwelcome addition on this board. DISCOVERY "I AM ON A JOURNEY TO DISCOVER THE STRONG INNER ME" "I will open myself to risk and to surprise. Like all journeys, the quest for self-knowledge can bring strength and illumination. I have confidence...	gladlee	1	1184	Mar 9, 2011 by Dean
	Daily Meditation ~ Surrender (Preview) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. —Step Three of Al-Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered. We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible. Doors open. Windows open. Po...	Danielle	4	1379	Mar 9, 2011 by gladlee
	People Pleasing vs Manipulation (Preview) I just had an incredibly interesting conversation about this tonight, and I'd thought I would try to get my thoughts down while they were still fresh. I maintained that when I was a "people pleaser" it was basically me manipulating other peoples responses, it was me lying by evasion, prev...	LinBaba	6	8119	Mar 9, 2011 by LinBaba
	authority figures (Preview) Hi, I was wondering if there were others like myself, who when faced with someone saying I can't do this or I can't do that, I feel myself start to bur up inside. Then I start to make things hard for them eg The other day I called a theme park to see if we could take our own food along (we have 5 children at home)...	Tracey C	10	2515	Mar 8, 2011 by NaninMinn
	Daily Meditation ~ Peace (Preview) Anxiety is often our first reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be p...	Danielle	2	1045	Mar 8, 2011 by NaninMinn
	I have difficulty making decisions. (Preview) I still do. Perfectionism racks my mind, as I constantly consider what others might think about some minor purchase. Or I'm obsessed about paying too much and spend way too much time looking for the best deal, once again thinking about that someone might ask. Then there's the fear of making a poor de...	Dean	5	1643	Mar 7, 2011 by Steve
	Coda Preamble (Preview) THE PREAMBLE Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-disco...	Dean	1	1325	Mar 7, 2011 by Dean
	Affirmations (Preview) Affirmations - Affirmations are a tool in recovery, nurturing statements we make to ourselves. We use them as a means to start building ourselves up from the inside. The following includes a list of possible affirmations, and a link to web site with some great affirmation guidance tools. As we grow i...	Dean	2	3904	Mar 7, 2011 by Dean
	A Dance of Suffering, Shame, and Self-abuse (Preview) OK, this is the third time i;m trying to post this. For some reason the board said it had to be reviewed first before it could be posted. Anyway, When I first came into AA 11 years ago, my then family was dying of untreated alcoholism, and it didnt survive. I heard a guy in the rooms say his family would do the...	billyjack	1	1516	Mar 5, 2011 by LinBaba
	A Dance of Suffering, Shame, and Self-abuse (Preview) When I first came in to AA 11 years ago,I heard someone say that his family was doing the dance of death. I borrowed that frase when my family, which was consumed by untreated alcoholism, disintergrated. I didnt really know how deep it really reached in the spiritual illness I suffer from. The rela...	billyjack	0	869	Mar 4, 2011 by billyjack
	Never Knew (Preview) Hi, I never knew what co- dependant meant. Six years clean and sober I started to hate alcoholics and addicts. The one on the top of the list was Wayne. I did not like me. My wife wwas a member of Al-Anon, and she mentioned some members hated their Alcoholics. I asked her if I could attend a meeting. She said...	Toad	9	1508	Mar 4, 2011 by Dean
	Daily Meditation ~ Higher Power as a Source (Preview) I've learned I can take care of myself, and what I can't do, God will do for me. —Al-Anon member God, a Higher Power as we understand Him, is our source of guidance and positive change. This doesn't mean we're not responsible for ourselves. We are. But we aren't in this alone. Recovery is not a do-it-your...	Danielle	1	1346	Mar 4, 2011 by gladlee
	Good to be here. (Preview) Hi all -- Steve here, SteveP from another MIP board. What a great idea for this board. Thanks John. Steve	Steve	2	1221	Mar 4, 2011 by Dean
	Zelig (Preview) Many years ago Woody Allen made a film about a man with such poor boundaries he became a "human chameleon", he took on the attributes of those around him. He spliced old footage together with new footage shot in black and white, and mixed it, at one point it shows Zelig in Rome as a Cardinal up o...	LinBaba	1	1585	Mar 3, 2011 by Steve
	Miracles In Progress CODA Group (Preview) Hello Everyone, At the request of numerous members of Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums, I have initiated the beginning of the MIP Codependent Anonymous Group. I have yet to decide whether to let it be an additional MIP group, or to utilize it to replace one of two very inactive groups on the...	John	6	1939	Mar 3, 2011 by Newlight
	I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel. (Preview) I spent most of my life numb. I shut down a long time ago to avoid pain. The longer I hid from it the more I acted out to offset it. After awhile I couldn't feel anything good or bad, or my feelings wouldn't show up till a few days later. I remember at about 6 months in recovery, my 2 year old son developed a f...	Dean	0	1875	Mar 3, 2011 by Dean
	What is Codependency? (Preview) When I entered into recovery I had no idea what Codependency even was. When I started reading "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I was shocked that the book seemed to have been written with me in mind. I believe understanding the definition of Codependency is a great place to start....	Linistea	0	2902	Mar 2, 2011 by Linistea
	What is Codependency? (Preview) John, Thank you so much for adding the this message board to the MIP Family! When I first started recovery I had no idea what the word even meant. When I started reading "Codependant No More" by Melodie Beatty - I was shocked. This book was written about me! Here is my favorite online descri...	Linistea	0	1058	Mar 2, 2011 by Linistea
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