Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

Danielle · Danielle

One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living. Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate it w...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Over the years one thing I have learned is I have an "Operating system" much like a computer, lets call it "Delusional XP Pro", because it is an expert at delusion, one of the things I realized was I had imaginary friends, imaginary girlfriends to be exact, well, lets call them ma...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Dealing with a situation at work yesterday made me start thinking, I truly do work for a crazy man, and it's so hard to keep my center when he starts throwing little temper tantrums, stomping his little feet, being insulting and demeaning, even his compliments are demeaning, he lives in one of the most...

Danielle · Danielle

Picture yourself swimming floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscious of your situation. Frightened, overwhelmed with "what if's?" your body tenses. You begin to thrash around, frantically look...

gladlee · gladlee

Dear Friends, I am writing in haste, but I am so curious to know your perspective regarding a person whom you are dating that continues to maintain a "friendship" with their former lovers/spouse. Personally, I have a "friendly" rapport with my ex-husband, and to me, that is a...

Danielle · Danielle

LinBaba, your shares in the willingness post inspired me to post this. I really empathised with your inner struggle, the tiredness, the dogged negativity in the face of all your efforts. I identified with you in knowing how it feels to have this seemingly endless internal tussle. Our content may be d...

Danielle · Danielle

Taking responsibility for our financial affairs will improve our self-esteem and lessen anxiety. Each of us, today, has a present set of financial circumstances. We have a certain amount of money in hand, and money due to us. We have a pile of bills that we owe. We have taxes to pay. Those are our presen...

Danielle · Danielle

How sick and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and were in the midst of anx...

Danielle · Danielle

I don't precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out. —Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have learned how to dep...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Link VALENCIA, CA—Promoting the coaster as "the most heartbreaking ride on earth," the Six Flags Magic Mountain theme park unveiled its newest attraction this week: a 395-foot-tall steel roller coaster designed to simulate a grueling three year relationship with Deborah. Develope...

Linistea · Linistea

I start every morning by reading Mr. Sponsorpants. It is an AA recovery blog that I just love. Something he said this morning resonated with me . . . "Wishing for a different result without being willing to change your process is as common as dirt. Asking your Higher Power to help you be willing...

tracy · tracy

Hi everyone, I really do feel I have hit my rock bottom!!! I went to doctors yesterday because I am off work with a chest infectio I ended up breaking down my mother was with me and I let it out how big old strong Tracy just is not coping. I questioned when I got home my behavior its like I need support I nee he...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Linistea just contacted me and asked that I let you guys know she will be updating the book and step study as soon as she can as she is a bit busy right now with work and family stuff

tracy · tracy

Hi I am Tracy, I have been over responsible all my life caring for everyone. Always friends with the kids with problems. Could never say no at 17 got into a relationship and married a compulsive gambler would have a;lways took him back but in the end he lost our home and me and kids had to move on. Then af...

Freya · Freya

Hi, I'm a bit confused about how to write about how I'm feeling, but hope that by writing about my feelings here I can stop being so hard on myself. I'm trying to keep the focus on me, but tend to find that difficult as I was told I was selfish a lot as a kid growing up, and also that I was moaning and "over-...

serenity · serenity

Hi....thought it about time i introduced myself..i have been trailing through this notice board for two days for hours on end...i identify with so much of whats been written and has opened up a whole new world to me...im not alone anymore just so hopeful..i can change. My good friend suggested i take...

gladlee · gladlee

FORGIVENESS I FORGIVE MYSELF AND OTHERS WHO HAVE HURT ME I can forgive and let go. I cannot forget the past of the family I was raised in. But I can learn from my experiences and not repeat them if I choose. Today I know that only through forgiveness can I release my guilt and fear. Forgiving mysef will b...

Danielle · Danielle

Recovery is about more than walking away. Sometimes it means learning to stay and deal. It's about building and maintaining relationships that work. —Beyond Codependency Problems and conflicts are part of life and relationships - with friends, family, loved ones, and at work - problem-solvin...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I need to get this is out of my head as my sponsor is unable to talk. A few years ago we rented a house out to a lady who was trying to make a new start after leaving her abusive husband. Everything was fine up until just before Christmas. We went to check on the place and there were a few broken windows. S...

SoberSteve · SoberSteve

Has anyone here actually been to a real CODA meeting? I was thinking about attending one, (if I can find one in my area) and was wondering what I may expect,,, Thanks

Mike B · Mike B

Not many CODA meetings in my area, so I went to the next option, and went to an Alanon meeting. Plenty of them in my area. The meeting was small but very warm and inviting. I enjoyed the topic- Live and Let Live and the shares of the folks there. The shares came from the angle of taking care of ourself and...

Linistea · Linistea

You know, it is interesting what I have realized lately. My MO before was to isolate. I am an extremely private person, don't speak much, don't really get into anyone else's business, don't gossip etc. And you know what? I like those traits about myself and I like people like that. I don't have to k...

Myopia1964 · Myopia1964

Hello. Glad I found this board. I have been doing a lot of self-examination, reading, and counseling over the last two years and I'm now working on the co-dependent behaviors that have wrecked every intimate relationship I've ever had. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and a co-dependent father. My...

Newlight · Newlight

People often talk about success, and I am interested to hear what success means to different people. I am a work in progress, but I like this definition for now. To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people, and the affection of children. To earn the appreciation of honest critics,...

gladlee · gladlee

SELF-PITY I FACE MY EMOTIONS AND EXPERIENCE THEM FREELY I can talk about my pain and not fear that I am overdoing it, or that people will pity me. I will not disown myself from my pain; neither will I indulge in self-pity. There is a distinct difference between acknowledging pain and blaming others fo...

Danielle · Danielle

Experiment. Try something new. Try stepping out. We have been held back too long. We have held ourselves back too long. As children, many of us were deprived of the right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves of the right to experiment and learn as adults. Now is the time to experiment. It is...

LinBaba · LinBaba

This is the pebble rattling around my tin can today, thinking about the thread on success....success as defined by other people...and being shamed into having someone else's definition of success become our own There are studies that show if you put a person in a room with 9 other people and those 9 pe...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Hello: I've been an active participate on the Al-Anon board for a while. I hopped over here to check this board out. I've been reading many of the posts/replies. A lot of what I read resonates with me. What brought me to the Al-Anon board was my marriage to a great guy with an "allergy" to a...

Danielle · Danielle

It's okay to have a good day. Really. It's okay to be doing okay and to feel like our life is manageable and on track. Many of us have learned, as part of our survival behaviors, that the way to get the attention and approval we want is to be victims. If life is awful, too difficult, unmanageable, too hard, u...

Danielle · Danielle

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go After-Burn How could I do it? How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid. This is common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can tr...

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	Daily Meditation ~ Enjoyment (Preview) One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living. Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate it w...	Danielle	0	814	Apr 13, 2011 by Danielle
	Fantasy based relationships (Preview) Over the years one thing I have learned is I have an "Operating system" much like a computer, lets call it "Delusional XP Pro", because it is an expert at delusion, one of the things I realized was I had imaginary friends, imaginary girlfriends to be exact, well, lets call them ma...	LinBaba	1	1895	Apr 13, 2011 by Linistea
	Baby you can drive my Car (Preview) Dealing with a situation at work yesterday made me start thinking, I truly do work for a crazy man, and it's so hard to keep my center when he starts throwing little temper tantrums, stomping his little feet, being insulting and demeaning, even his compliments are demeaning, he lives in one of the most...	LinBaba	3	1141	Apr 12, 2011 by Myopia1964
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Fear (Preview) Picture yourself swimming floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscious of your situation. Frightened, overwhelmed with "what if's?" your body tenses. You begin to thrash around, frantically look...	Danielle	1	936	Apr 12, 2011 by Mike B
	Dating question... (Preview) Dear Friends, I am writing in haste, but I am so curious to know your perspective regarding a person whom you are dating that continues to maintain a "friendship" with their former lovers/spouse. Personally, I have a "friendly" rapport with my ex-husband, and to me, that is a...	gladlee	6	813	Apr 12, 2011 by LinBaba
	The Story & Struggle of Me (Preview) LinBaba, your shares in the willingness post inspired me to post this. I really empathised with your inner struggle, the tiredness, the dogged negativity in the face of all your efforts. I identified with you in knowing how it feels to have this seemingly endless internal tussle. Our content may be d...	Danielle	7	1019	Apr 12, 2011 by Linistea
	Daily Meditation ~ Financial Goals (Preview) Taking responsibility for our financial affairs will improve our self-esteem and lessen anxiety. Each of us, today, has a present set of financial circumstances. We have a certain amount of money in hand, and money due to us. We have a pile of bills that we owe. We have taxes to pay. Those are our presen...	Danielle	0	763	Apr 11, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditation ~ Patience (Preview) How sick and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and were in the midst of anx...	Danielle	7	838	Apr 10, 2011 by jj
	Daily Meditation ~ Self Care (Preview) I don't precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out. —Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have learned how to dep...	Danielle	0	635	Apr 8, 2011 by Danielle
	New RollerCoaster Ride based on Relationships (Preview) Link VALENCIA, CA—Promoting the coaster as "the most heartbreaking ride on earth," the Six Flags Magic Mountain theme park unveiled its newest attraction this week: a 395-foot-tall steel roller coaster designed to simulate a grueling three year relationship with Deborah. Develope...	LinBaba	2	1206	Apr 8, 2011 by Freya
	Willing to change (Preview) I start every morning by reading Mr. Sponsorpants. It is an AA recovery blog that I just love. Something he said this morning resonated with me . . . "Wishing for a different result without being willing to change your process is as common as dirt. Asking your Higher Power to help you be willing...	Linistea	4	1068	Apr 7, 2011 by Freya
	independance (Preview) Hi everyone, I really do feel I have hit my rock bottom!!! I went to doctors yesterday because I am off work with a chest infectio I ended up breaking down my mother was with me and I let it out how big old strong Tracy just is not coping. I questioned when I got home my behavior its like I need support I nee he...	tracy	2	748	Apr 7, 2011 by Myopia1964
	Book/Step Study (Preview) Linistea just contacted me and asked that I let you guys know she will be updating the book and step study as soon as she can as she is a bit busy right now with work and family stuff	LinBaba	0	694	Apr 6, 2011 by LinBaba
	new to forum (Preview) Hi I am Tracy, I have been over responsible all my life caring for everyone. Always friends with the kids with problems. Could never say no at 17 got into a relationship and married a compulsive gambler would have a;lways took him back but in the end he lost our home and me and kids had to move on. Then af...	tracy	2	729	Apr 6, 2011 by Freya
	Having a bad couple of days (Preview) Hi, I'm a bit confused about how to write about how I'm feeling, but hope that by writing about my feelings here I can stop being so hard on myself. I'm trying to keep the focus on me, but tend to find that difficult as I was told I was selfish a lot as a kid growing up, and also that I was moaning and "over-...	Freya	5	1226	Apr 6, 2011 by Freya
	Just to say hello (Preview) Hi....thought it about time i introduced myself..i have been trailing through this notice board for two days for hours on end...i identify with so much of whats been written and has opened up a whole new world to me...im not alone anymore just so hopeful..i can change. My good friend suggested i take...	serenity	7	833	Apr 5, 2011 by Linistea
	ACOA - Forgiveness, Love (Preview) FORGIVENESS I FORGIVE MYSELF AND OTHERS WHO HAVE HURT ME I can forgive and let go. *I cannot forget the past of the family I was raised in. But I can* learn from my experiences and not repeat them if I choose. Today I know that only through forgiveness can I release my guilt and fear. Forgiving mysef will b...**	gladlee	0	816	Apr 5, 2011 by gladlee
	Daily Meditation ~ Negotiating Conflicts (Preview) Recovery is about more than walking away. Sometimes it means learning to stay and deal. It's about building and maintaining relationships that work. —Beyond Codependency Problems and conflicts are part of life and relationships - with friends, family, loved ones, and at work - problem-solvin...	Danielle	0	836	Apr 4, 2011 by Danielle
	Upsetting Day (Preview) Hi, I need to get this is out of my head as my sponsor is unable to talk. A few years ago we rented a house out to a lady who was trying to make a new start after leaving her abusive husband. Everything was fine up until just before Christmas. We went to check on the place and there were a few broken windows. S...	Tracey C	5	937	Apr 3, 2011 by Dean
	Whats an actual CODA meeting like? (Preview) Has anyone here actually been to a real CODA meeting? I was thinking about attending one, (if I can find one in my area) and was wondering what I may expect,,, Thanks	SoberSteve	8	4657	Apr 2, 2011 by Danielle
	Went to my first Alanon meeting (Preview) Not many CODA meetings in my area, so I went to the next option, and went to an Alanon meeting. Plenty of them in my area. The meeting was small but very warm and inviting. I enjoyed the topic- Live and Let Live and the shares of the folks there. The shares came from the angle of taking care of ourself and...	Mike B	2	1333	Apr 1, 2011 by Toad
	Who am I? (Preview) You know, it is interesting what I have realized lately. My MO before was to isolate. I am an extremely private person, don't speak much, don't really get into anyone else's business, don't gossip etc. And you know what? I like those traits about myself and I like people like that. I don't have to k...	Linistea	3	1086	Apr 1, 2011 by Mike B
	New to the Board (Preview) Hello. Glad I found this board. I have been doing a lot of self-examination, reading, and counseling over the last two years and I'm now working on the co-dependent behaviors that have wrecked every intimate relationship I've ever had. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and a co-dependent father. My...	Myopia1964	10	992	Mar 31, 2011 by Mike B
	Success (Preview) People often talk about success, and I am interested to hear what success means to different people. I am a work in progress, but I like this definition for now. To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people, and the affection of children. To earn the appreciation of honest critics,...	Newlight	7	1263	Mar 31, 2011 by Cl
	ACOA - Self Pity, Freedom (Preview) SELF-PITY I FACE MY EMOTIONS AND EXPERIENCE THEM FREELY I can talk about my pain and not fear that I am overdoing it, or that people will pity me. I will not disown myself from my pain; neither will I indulge in self-pity. There is a distinct difference between acknowledging pain and blaming others fo...	gladlee	0	773	Mar 31, 2011 by gladlee
	Daily Meditation ~ Experiment (Preview) Experiment. Try something new. Try stepping out. We have been held back too long. We have held ourselves back too long. As children, many of us were deprived of the right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves of the right to experiment and learn as adults. Now is the time to experiment. It is...	Danielle	0	666	Mar 30, 2011 by Danielle
	Allowing other peoples opinions to define who I am/conformity (Preview) This is the pebble rattling around my tin can today, thinking about the thread on success....success as defined by other people...and being shamed into having someone else's definition of success become our own There are studies that show if you put a person in a room with 9 other people and those 9 pe...	LinBaba	0	1122	Mar 30, 2011 by LinBaba
	Hello, I'm New to This Board (Preview) Hello: I've been an active participate on the Al-Anon board for a while. I hopped over here to check this board out. I've been reading many of the posts/replies. A lot of what I read resonates with me. What brought me to the Al-Anon board was my marriage to a great guy with an "allergy" to a...	GailMichelle	8	1006	Mar 28, 2011 by SoberSteve
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Go of Being a Victim (Preview) It's okay to have a good day. Really. It's okay to be doing okay and to feel like our life is manageable and on track. Many of us have learned, as part of our survival behaviors, that the way to get the attention and approval we want is to be victims. If life is awful, too difficult, unmanageable, too hard, u...	Danielle	3	1264	Mar 28, 2011 by Newlight
	Daily Meditation ~ After-Burn (Preview) You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go After-Burn How could I do it? How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid. This is common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can tr...	Danielle	2	2963	Mar 27, 2011 by SoberSteve
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