Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

Danielle · Danielle

Let fears slip away. Release any negative, limiting, or self-defeating beliefs buried in your subconscious too. These beliefs may be about life, love, or yourself. Beliefs create reality. Let go. From as deep within as your fears, resentments, and negative beliefs are stored, let them all go. Let...

kizzy72 · kizzy72

I don't want to be a part of a board where I can't receive at least a welcome and being allowed to share what I am currently going through. I'm new to CODA, I've never been to a meeting, and this is not how you welcome someone to a support group. Delete my membership

cindy · cindy

daily i must watch tht my survival mechanisims arent causing havoc in my present life..and usually its takes a lot to notice..mostly i get twigged by the nightmares. then i get the ..omg.i am so fked..(this can last for awhile) eventually with the help of my friends i get thru whatever the hell i got mys...

Danielle · Danielle

Children are gifts, if we accept them. —Kathleen Turner Crilly Children are gifts. Our children, if we have children, are a gift to us. We, as children, were gifts to our parents. Sadly, many of us did not receive the message from our parents that we were gifts to them and to the Universe. Maybe our paren...

gladlee · gladlee

Hi everybody, just a quick share... I canceled my eHarmony account and in the following days, I was finally contacted by two matches who appealed to me very much. I was hesitant because I really wanted to focus on this study, but I just could not resist. I have met one man last weekend, and two days lat...

Freya · Freya

Hi, I'm Freya, your board was recommended to me, and I'm glad to have found you. I'm working the steps in Al Anon and CODA, and am really happy to have a "coda" place I can come to between meetings to get understanding and support.

Ythannah · Ythannah

Hey everyone! I'm over on the Al-Anon board and I've been lurking around here periodically ever since John posted about the new CoDA board. Lots of things that I read have been resonating with me, so I figure I should hang out here more often. Long story short, I'm the daughter of two alcoholic parents...

Linistea · Linistea

Now this is a topic that has been rolling around in my head for a VERY long time. I would love to start a discussion about it. We judge others - it is inevitable. We HAVE to, to protect ourselves and to make good, healthy decisions. We make judgements continuously throughout our days - things we like an...

LinBaba · LinBaba

One of the things I found helpful to setting boundaries was reading something called "fighting fair", it's all about using "I" messages, and for me, "I feel" being the most effective, I can argue with how you think, but I can't argue with how you feel. Example, years...

kizzy72 · kizzy72

-- Edited by kizzy72 on Thursday 24th of March 2011 05:01:09 AM

LinBaba · LinBaba

In the Step One Study I talked about my parents seperating, and me going with my father, he was a fisherman at that time and he left me up in Northern California in a house he bought on the banks of The Russian River, I was left alone for a week or two at a time while he was out at Sea, until in the offseason he mov...

gladlee · gladlee

I AM ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE WHO ARE AVAILABLE FOR INTIMACY New territory is opening to me as I acquaint myself with my feelings and beliefs. I am open to experimenting with new behavior as I release the shackles of my past programming. Being attracted to someone I cannot have is safe. This becomes harmf...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Well we've successfully been up and running for a few weeks now, I thought I'd see about getting a group conscience going since we have been flying by the seat of our pants 1. Get some stickies up I was reading in the "official" Coda meeting starter packets, and they have some good solid guide...

Dean · Dean

Happiest of Birthdays to Danielle!

SoberSteve · SoberSteve

I mean in AA we know the solution is dont drink no matter what, get a sponsor, work the steps etc.. is the solution for codependency the same? but dont be codependent no matter what? Do you get a seperate sponsor than your AA one? Are the steps the same? Do we ask God to remove our codependency traits? t...

Danielle · Danielle

You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice. How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves. When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction...

Cl · Cl

Hi, some of my story is in the other thread for the Codependent No More study group. Long story short, I have been married for 22 yrs to a man who last year accepted he is an A and is now about 8 months sober. About a year ago, I picked up Codependent No More and found myself described to a "T" in th...

Dean · Dean

I share on this later, just want to get characteristic threads going.

Linistea · Linistea

Synopsis: The book I am reading has a copyright of 1987 - so it has some time under it's belt. In the introduction the author, Melody Beattie, talks of her first exposure to codependency. She was an active alcoholic / addict and as she described the codependent you could see her judgement of these peopl...

Twyla · Twyla

Hi Everyone, Thanks to all of you for being here. I discovered this site about a week ago and have gained alot of comfort in all your words. And I've finally built up the courage to post something! I don't know whether I'm co-dependent, love addicted etc. All I know is that I'm crap when it comes to relatio...

NaninMinn · NaninMinn

I am learning so much here on this board and by reading Melody Beattie's books. I haven't finished either one (I'm reading "Codependent No More" and "Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps") so maybe she covers this issue. But I just don't see how I can have a sponsor and not get...

gladlee · gladlee

"I CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND ALLOW SOLUTIONS TO COME AT THEIR OWN PACE" Today I will not rush toward solutions. There is a proper time for everything and I must learn to respect the flow of events and my own sense of timing. I must learn patience. When I rush into something before I'm prepare...

Linistea · Linistea

I am going to be using "The Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" as my core resource in starting the step threads for this step study. I will also be referencing many of the other books I have on the steps including the AA Big Book, the 12x12, Paths to Recovery from Al-Anon and more. Plea...

Danielle · Danielle

It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right. Many of us have lived around negativity for years. We've become skilled at labeling what's wrong with other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, our conduct, our recovery, and ourselves. We...

Danielle · Danielle

Don't others see how much I'm hurting? Can't they see I need help? Don't they care? The issue is not whether others see or care. The issue is whether we see and care about ourselves. Often, when we are pointing a finger at others, waiting for them to have compassion for us, its because we have not fully acc...

Danielle · Danielle

In spite of our best efforts to work our programs and lean on God's guidance, we sometimes don't understand what's going on in our life. We trust, wait, pray, listen to people, listen to ourselves, and the answer still does not come. During those times, we need to understand that we are right where we ne...

Linistea · Linistea

I have tried to get traffic going over on the step work board and it just isn't that active. I was thinking we could do a step a month (or more) here focusing on codependency. I have done the steps through the Codependents' Guide to the 12 steps by Melody Beattie and taken a sponsee through it. I highly r...

Linistea · Linistea

I would like to start a book study and begin with Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. I was thinking a chapter a week starting in a week so everyone can have an opportunity to obtain the book. Thoughts? Linistea

gladlee · gladlee

"I WILL STEP ASIDE AND LET GOD TAKE OVER" Today I will stand aside and let the Higher Power work through me. I will no longer try to block my Higher Power by my own efforts. Today I will put my ego in the background and allow my inner voice to show me the way. I will not interfere with the working o...

Newlight · Newlight

I know I'm not stupid - yet when I see my words in print, I feel stupid. Having grown up in a family where I needed to deny my thoughts and feelings, trying to figure out first what am I thinking, and then how do I put it into words, and now type those words, I feel very inadequate to the task. I used to be very goo...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Daily Meditation ~ Releasing (Preview) Let fears slip away. Release any negative, limiting, or self-defeating beliefs buried in your subconscious too. These beliefs may be about life, love, or yourself. Beliefs create reality. Let go. From as deep within as your fears, resentments, and negative beliefs are stored, let them all go. Let...	Danielle	2	774	Mar 27, 2011 by SoberSteve
	Delete my membership please (Preview) I don't want to be a part of a board where I can't receive at least a welcome and being allowed to share what I am currently going through. I'm new to CODA, I've never been to a meeting, and this is not how you welcome someone to a support group. Delete my membership	kizzy72	4	1191	Mar 27, 2011 by SoberSteve
	as mad-eye says "constant vigilance" (Preview) daily i must watch tht my survival mechanisims arent causing havoc in my present life..and usually its takes a lot to notice..mostly i get twigged by the nightmares. then i get the ..omg.i am so fked..(this can last for awhile) eventually with the help of my friends i get thru whatever the hell i got mys...	cindy	1	904	Mar 26, 2011 by SoberSteve
	Daily Meditation ~ Gifts, Not Burdens (Preview) Children are gifts, if we accept them. —Kathleen Turner Crilly Children are gifts. Our children, if we have children, are a gift to us. We, as children, were gifts to our parents. Sadly, many of us did not receive the message from our parents that we were gifts to them and to the Universe. Maybe our paren...	Danielle	0	913	Mar 26, 2011 by Danielle
	I did something different (Preview) Hi everybody, just a quick share... I canceled my eHarmony account and in the following days, I was finally contacted by two matches who appealed to me very much. I was hesitant because I really wanted to focus on this study, but I just could not resist. I have met one man last weekend, and two days lat...	gladlee	11	1374	Mar 26, 2011 by Dean
	Hi, I'm Freya (Preview) Hi, I'm Freya, your board was recommended to me, and I'm glad to have found you. I'm working the steps in Al Anon and CODA, and am really happy to have a "coda" place I can come to between meetings to get understanding and support.	Freya	10	1052	Mar 26, 2011 by Freya
	Newbie Saying Hi (Preview) Hey everyone! I'm over on the Al-Anon board and I've been lurking around here periodically ever since John posted about the new CoDA board. Lots of things that I read have been resonating with me, so I figure I should hang out here more often. Long story short, I'm the daughter of two alcoholic parents...	Ythannah	4	798	Mar 26, 2011 by SoberSteve
	Judging Others (Preview) Now this is a topic that has been rolling around in my head for a VERY long time. I would love to start a discussion about it. We judge others - it is inevitable. We HAVE to, to protect ourselves and to make good, healthy decisions. We make judgements continuously throughout our days - things we like an...	Linistea	5	1031	Mar 25, 2011 by gladlee
	Fighting Fair (Preview) One of the things I found helpful to setting boundaries was reading something called "fighting fair", it's all about using "I" messages, and for me, "I feel" being the most effective, I can argue with how you think, but I can't argue with how you feel. Example, years...	LinBaba	10	1408	Mar 25, 2011 by Freya
	Transferred: What is wrong with me? (Preview) -- Edited by kizzy72 on Thursday 24th of March 2011 05:01:09 AM	kizzy72	10	1215	Mar 25, 2011 by Linistea
	Another Piece of The Puzzle (Preview) In the Step One Study I talked about my parents seperating, and me going with my father, he was a fisherman at that time and he left me up in Northern California in a house he bought on the banks of The Russian River, I was left alone for a week or two at a time while he was out at Sea, until in the offseason he mov...	LinBaba	1	1014	Mar 24, 2011 by Linistea
	ACOA - Intimacy (Preview) I AM ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE WHO ARE AVAILABLE FOR INTIMACY New territory is opening to me as I acquaint myself with my feelings and beliefs. I am open to experimenting with new behavior as I release the shackles of my past programming. Being attracted to someone I cannot have is safe. This becomes harmf...	gladlee	3	1589	Mar 24, 2011 by Freya
	Group Conscience (Preview) Well we've successfully been up and running for a few weeks now, I thought I'd see about getting a group conscience going since we have been flying by the seat of our pants 1. Get some stickies up I was reading in the "official" Coda meeting starter packets, and they have some good solid guide...	LinBaba	9	1508	Mar 21, 2011 by Newlight
	Happy Birthday Danielle! (Preview) Happiest of Birthdays to Danielle!	Dean	0	896	Mar 18, 2011 by Dean
	Whats the solution to codependecy? (Preview) I mean in AA we know the solution is dont drink no matter what, get a sponsor, work the steps etc.. is the solution for codependency the same? but dont be codependent no matter what? Do you get a seperate sponsor than your AA one? Are the steps the same? Do we ask God to remove our codependency traits? t...	SoberSteve	4	920	Mar 18, 2011 by Dean
	Daily Meditation ~ Empowering (Preview) You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice. How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves. When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction...	Danielle	0	816	Mar 17, 2011 by Danielle
	Why I became codependent - my version of the dysfunctional family (Preview) Hi, some of my story is in the other thread for the Codependent No More study group. Long story short, I have been married for 22 yrs to a man who last year accepted he is an A and is now about 8 months sober. About a year ago, I picked up Codependent No More and found myself described to a "T" in th...	Cl	1	1500	Mar 17, 2011 by Twyla
	I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long. (Preview) I share on this later, just want to get characteristic threads going.	Dean	12	1437	Mar 17, 2011 by Mike B
	Book Study: Codependent No More - Introduction (Preview) Synopsis: The book I am reading has a copyright of 1987 - so it has some time under it's belt. In the introduction the author, Melody Beattie, talks of her first exposure to codependency. She was an active alcoholic / addict and as she described the codependent you could see her judgement of these peopl...	Linistea	15	2749	Mar 17, 2011 by Cl
	I'm Scared and confused! (Preview) Hi Everyone, Thanks to all of you for being here. I discovered this site about a week ago and have gained alot of comfort in all your words. And I've finally built up the courage to post something! I don't know whether I'm co-dependent, love addicted etc. All I know is that I'm crap when it comes to relatio...	Twyla	10	1250	Mar 17, 2011 by stillalive2dream
	How can I work with a sponsor if I'm so prone to let my relationships turn codependent? (Preview) I am learning so much here on this board and by reading Melody Beattie's books. I haven't finished either one (I'm reading "Codependent No More" and "Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps") so maybe she covers this issue. But I just don't see how I can have a sponsor and not get...	NaninMinn	6	2456	Mar 17, 2011 by NaninMinn
	ACOA - Timing (Preview) "I CULTIVATE PATIENCE AND ALLOW SOLUTIONS TO COME AT THEIR OWN PACE" Today I will not rush toward solutions. There is a proper time for everything and I must learn to respect the flow of events and my own sense of timing. I must learn patience. When I rush into something before I'm prepare...	gladlee	0	790	Mar 17, 2011 by gladlee
	Step Study - Introduction (Preview) I am going to be using "The Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" as my core resource in starting the step threads for this step study. I will also be referencing many of the other books I have on the steps including the AA Big Book, the 12x12, Paths to Recovery from Al-Anon and more. Plea...	Linistea	5	944	Mar 17, 2011 by LinBaba
	Daily Meditation ~ Positive Energy (Preview) It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right. Many of us have lived around negativity for years. We've become skilled at labeling what's wrong with other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, our conduct, our recovery, and ourselves. We...	Danielle	0	1259	Mar 16, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditations ~ Removing the Victim (Preview) Don't others see how much I'm hurting? Can't they see I need help? Don't they care? The issue is not whether others see or care. The issue is whether we see and care about ourselves. Often, when we are pointing a finger at others, waiting for them to have compassion for us, its because we have not fully acc...	Danielle	0	911	Mar 15, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditation ~ Clarity & Direction (Preview) In spite of our best efforts to work our programs and lean on God's guidance, we sometimes don't understand what's going on in our life. We trust, wait, pray, listen to people, listen to ourselves, and the answer still does not come. During those times, we need to understand that we are right where we ne...	Danielle	3	1315	Mar 14, 2011 by Twyla
	Step Study (Preview) I have tried to get traffic going over on the step work board and it just isn't that active. I was thinking we could do a step a month (or more) here focusing on codependency. I have done the steps through the Codependents' Guide to the 12 steps by Melody Beattie and taken a sponsee through it. I highly r...	Linistea	17	1430	Mar 14, 2011 by Mike B
	Book Study: Codependent No More (Preview) I would like to start a book study and begin with Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. I was thinking a chapter a week starting in a week so everyone can have an opportunity to obtain the book. Thoughts? Linistea	Linistea	19	1597	Mar 14, 2011 by Linistea
	ACOA - HIGHER POWER (Preview) "I WILL STEP ASIDE AND LET GOD TAKE OVER" Today I will stand aside and let the Higher Power work through me. I will no longer try to block my Higher Power by my own efforts. Today I will put my ego in the background and allow my inner voice to show me the way. I will not interfere with the working o...	gladlee	1	874	Mar 13, 2011 by jj
	What sort of relationships? (Preview) I know I'm not stupid - yet when I see my words in print, I feel stupid. Having grown up in a family where I needed to deny my thoughts and feelings, trying to figure out first what am I thinking, and then how do I put it into words, and now type those words, I feel very inadequate to the task. I used to be very goo...	Newlight	3	1064	Mar 13, 2011 by Linistea
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