Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group - Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

Danielle · Danielle

Make yourself feel good. It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. Recovery is not only about stopping painful feelings; it is about creating a good life for ourselves. We don't have to deny ourselves activities that help us feel good. Going to meetings, bask...

gladlee · gladlee

welp, now that I just ate enough for four people, I think I'll post. The food didn't give me any answers. I need some help. The man that I have been dating for 6 weeks now, left my house yesterday morning after we spent the weekend together. We had a wonderful weekend of dining, walking at the botanical...

Danielle · Danielle

For the next twenty-four hours ... In recovery, we live life one day at a time, an idea requiring an enormous amount of faith. We refuse to look back - unless healing from the past is part of today's work. We look ahead only to make plans. We focus on this day's activity, living it to the best of our ability....

youfoundme · youfoundme

I don't know what to do anymore. I feel very lost and sad. I have gone to alanon in the past, my bf is an addict and alcoholic. I am not sure if this is the place for me because I know what to say to sound like I am getting better and in recovery. I know the words that sound good... HE is not like I see describe...

Sarahleah · Sarahleah

I've been in AA for 5 years now because I thought my problem was alcohol. But I've been slowly dying inside from untreated co-dependence. I dont think I've ever been Real alcoholic, but I drank like one to escape the pain of being alone and not being ok being alone. Thank God a member of AA was able to poin...

Danielle · Danielle

BLUE BOOK STUDY RETREATFriday 29th ~ Sunday 31st July 2011 “To a loving Higher Power,To each member of the Fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous andTo the codependent who still suffers.” Welcome to St Joseph’s Prayer Cte, Formby, U.K.A Great Place to Increase Your Conscious Contact with God(...

Danielle · Danielle

Often, we can learn much about ourselves from the people to whom we are attracted. As we progress through recovery, we learn we can no longer form relationships solely on the basis of attraction. We learn to be patient, to allow ourselves to take into account important facts, and to process informati...

Freya · Freya

I'm really finding it hard to let go and let God. I'm filled with grief and sadness at the loss of my relationship with my partner. He is deep in his recovery and seems to be doing well taking care of himself, and making time for friends and family. I feel like I've lost a leg and am having trouble getting...

billyjack · billyjack

I read about this " The Karpman Drama Triangle " in our Codependent No More book a few weeks ago, and then looked at it again this past week. I have always found that in my recovery that when I am ready to grow, and I am looking at the apropreate material, that I act out the worst case ( or at least it...

shrinkingviolet · shrinkingviolet

why do we not have meetings for this group?

gladlee · gladlee

I RESIST THE IMPULSE TO BE A "GOOD" HELPER I don't have to take care of people by thinking for them. Intimacy is not about helping people do things right, but rather being supportive and on their side. Today I will resist the urge to do a "little lecturing" to those I care about. I d...

gladlee · gladlee

ALL THAT I AM IS BEAUTIFUL, AND I CELEBRATE MYSELF TODAY Today I am aware of my finest qualities. I am aware of my warmth, my strength, and my beauty. I need to nurture and care for myself as I would any living thing that I love. Some of us treat our pets far better than we treat ourselves. Today I affirm, n...

tracy · tracy

Hi everyone, I had become so reliant on my sober ABF emotionally and as he got better and saw this he suggested we needed space to concentrate on our recoveries as it was unhealthy. He was so right we have not spoke to for 5 days I have started to reach out to others I did not realise how much I was isolati...

Danielle · Danielle

Often, the spiritual and recovery lessons we're learning at work reflect the lessons we're learning in other areas of our life. Often, the systems we're attracted to in our working life are similar to the systems in which we find ourselves living and loving. Those are the systems that reflect our iss...

Danielle · Danielle

Allowing ourselves to receive love is one of the greatest challenges we face in recovery. Many of us have blocked ourselves from receiving love. We may have lived with people who used love to control us. They would be there for us, but at the high price of our freedom. Love was given, or withheld, to cont...

Linistea · Linistea

This is from the Courage to Change Daily Reader from Al-Anon. The three A's have been on my mind for the last couple of weeks so I thought I would start a discussion here. I will start with the reading from April 1st. Courage to Change I’ve heard acceptance mentioned at meetings as one part of the “Three...

tracy · tracy

I have just come home from a coda meeting. I attended coda acouple of times last year and stopped going as i am already a member of al anon I find it really hard to take it easy and really need to slow down. Now however I am thinking did I stop going because these meeting make me look at my sickness and it scar...

gladlee · gladlee

Dear Friends, Just need to write this out today..... In the past month, I have been dating two different men, the first relationships since my divorce over three years ago. I met my husband when I was 17, never been with another man until a weekend fling last summer, a man from the other side of the pl...

Danielle · Danielle

The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places - time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath. But change is inevitable and desirable. Sometimes...

Linistea · Linistea

Hey everyone - just wanted to touch base. I know I am pretty behind on the book and step study and I apologize. Last week was business in FL and some minor surgery to end the week properly and now I am sitting in the Seattle airport waiting for the shuttle and will be here through the week. Hopefully this c...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been in recovery(this time) for over two years. I've seen the changes in me and my life as a result of the program, and am soooo grateful to be here. Found out yesterday that there are "multiple" blood clots in my leg, and was crushed again. In the past 2 months I've had two surgeries and...

free2bme · free2bme

To make a long story short, I recently, in a very HP guided kind of way, found out I have a blod clot in my leg, and was admitted to the hospital. I had had two prior surgeries in the past six weeks which may be the reason why. Being a single mom, and a pcp for another adult, and foster mom to wayyyy to many anim...

gladlee · gladlee

I TRUST MY HIGHER POWER TO BRING ABOUT THE PERFECT FULFILLMENT OF GOOD Today I relax the tight grip I have on my thoughts and attitudes. I ease up, secure in the knowledge that no disasters will happen if I relax my vigilance. I release all matters to God's Divine Plan for me. At times I might find it diff...

gladlee · gladlee

TODAY I TAKE CONTROL OF MY AFFAIRS I have the certain knowledge that I can control my thoughts and feelings. I am not compelled to respond today with the same emotions I had as a child growing up in an alcoholic home. If I sense negative thoughts or self-defeating behaviors beginning to take hold, or if...

Danielle · Danielle

We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as self-care. Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin off of the Me generation. It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that word. We're learning to take care of ourselves, instead of o...

Danielle · Danielle

We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the purpose and plan for each detail...

Freya · Freya

I'm really struggling with myself. I've stopped blaming other people for the state of my life and can see how I've made choices right down the line that left me open to be hurt and emotionally battered, when other people would have walked away. I'm looking at my life and the state it's in and feel so much...

Freya · Freya

I haven't seen or contacted my partner for over a week after telling him last week that I wanted some time to myself. I've spent the week practically sitting on my hands so that I didn't call him or go and visit him. I haven't done either. Coming here to the board and reading people's shares and experie...

Danielle · Danielle

Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues. Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive; i...

LinBaba · LinBaba

Characteristics of Sex and Love AddictionHaving few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency...

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	Daily Meditation ~ Feeling Good (Preview) Make yourself feel good. It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. Recovery is not only about stopping painful feelings; it is about creating a good life for ourselves. We don't have to deny ourselves activities that help us feel good. Going to meetings, bask...	Danielle	2	1112	May 7, 2011 by Danielle
	processing again (Preview) welp, now that I just ate enough for four people, I think I'll post. The food didn't give me any answers. I need some help. The man that I have been dating for 6 weeks now, left my house yesterday morning after we spent the weekend together. We had a wonderful weekend of dining, walking at the botanical...	gladlee	5	1034	May 6, 2011 by HeatherK
	Daily Meditation ~ Our Higher Power (Preview) For the next twenty-four hours ... In recovery, we live life one day at a time, an idea requiring an enormous amount of faith. We refuse to look back - unless healing from the past is part of today's work. We look ahead only to make plans. We focus on this day's activity, living it to the best of our ability....	Danielle	0	1171	May 2, 2011 by Danielle
	Re-posting this here from the alanon board where I first posted it: Hello (Preview) I don't know what to do anymore. I feel very lost and sad. I have gone to alanon in the past, my bf is an addict and alcoholic. I am not sure if this is the place for me because I know what to say to sound like I am getting better and in recovery. I know the words that sound good... HE is not like I see describe...	youfoundme	4	1513	May 2, 2011 by youfoundme
	Beginner (Preview) I've been in AA for 5 years now because I thought my problem was alcohol. But I've been slowly dying inside from untreated co-dependence. I dont think I've ever been Real alcoholic, but I drank like one to escape the pain of being alone and not being ok being alone. Thank God a member of AA was able to poin...	Sarahleah	7	1118	May 2, 2011 by Jamie D
	CoDA Retreat ~ Formby/Freshfield, Northwest U.K. (Preview) BLUE BOOK STUDY RETREATFriday 29th ~ Sunday 31st July 2011 “To a loving Higher Power,To each member of the Fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous andTo the codependent who still suffers.” Welcome to St Joseph’s Prayer Cte, Formby, U.K.A Great Place to Increase Your Conscious Contact with God(...	Danielle	0	871	May 1, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditation ~ Initiating Relationships (Preview) Often, we can learn much about ourselves from the people to whom we are attracted. As we progress through recovery, we learn we can no longer form relationships solely on the basis of attraction. We learn to be patient, to allow ourselves to take into account important facts, and to process informati...	Danielle	0	1029	Apr 29, 2011 by Danielle
	I've gone over to the dark side... (Preview) I'm really finding it hard to let go and let God. I'm filled with grief and sadness at the loss of my relationship with my partner. He is deep in his recovery and seems to be doing well taking care of himself, and making time for friends and family. I feel like I've lost a leg and am having trouble getting...	Freya	8	1752	Apr 28, 2011 by Freya
	The Karpman Drama Triangle (Preview) I read about this " The Karpman Drama Triangle " in our Codependent No More book a few weeks ago, and then looked at it again this past week. I have always found that in my recovery that when I am ready to grow, and I am looking at the apropreate material, that I act out the worst case ( or at least it...	billyjack	2	2900	Apr 26, 2011 by Freya
	just a question.. (Preview) why do we not have meetings for this group?	shrinkingviolet	1	1363	Apr 26, 2011 by billyjack
	ACOA - Helper Syndrome (Preview) I RESIST THE IMPULSE TO BE A "GOOD" HELPER I don't have to take care of people by thinking for them. Intimacy is not about helping people do things right, but rather being supportive and on their side. Today I will resist the urge to do a "little lecturing" to those I care about. I d...	gladlee	0	1534	Apr 26, 2011 by gladlee
	ACOA - self-acceptance (Preview) ALL THAT I AM IS BEAUTIFUL, AND I CELEBRATE MYSELF TODAY Today I am aware of my finest qualities. I am aware of my warmth, my strength, and my beauty. I need to nurture and care for myself as I would any living thing that I love. Some of us treat our pets far better than we treat ourselves. Today I affirm, n...	gladlee	0	1036	Apr 26, 2011 by gladlee
	space (Preview) Hi everyone, I had become so reliant on my sober ABF emotionally and as he got better and saw this he suggested we needed space to concentrate on our recoveries as it was unhealthy. He was so right we have not spoke to for 5 days I have started to reach out to others I did not realise how much I was isolati...	tracy	1	1088	Apr 25, 2011 by Freya
	Daily Meditation ~ Lessons on the Job (Preview) Often, the spiritual and recovery lessons we're learning at work reflect the lessons we're learning in other areas of our life. Often, the systems we're attracted to in our working life are similar to the systems in which we find ourselves living and loving. Those are the systems that reflect our iss...	Danielle	0	922	Apr 24, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditation ~ Opening Ourselves to Love (Preview) Allowing ourselves to receive love is one of the greatest challenges we face in recovery. Many of us have blocked ourselves from receiving love. We may have lived with people who used love to control us. They would be there for us, but at the high price of our freedom. Love was given, or withheld, to cont...	Danielle	0	905	Apr 23, 2011 by Danielle
	Awareness / Acceptance / Action (Preview) This is from the Courage to Change Daily Reader from Al-Anon. The three A's have been on my mind for the last couple of weeks so I thought I would start a discussion here. I will start with the reading from April 1st. Courage to Change I’ve heard acceptance mentioned at meetings as one part of the “Three...	Linistea	2	2817	Apr 22, 2011 by gladysg
	Fear (Preview) I have just come home from a coda meeting. I attended coda acouple of times last year and stopped going as i am already a member of al anon I find it really hard to take it easy and really need to slow down. Now however I am thinking did I stop going because these meeting make me look at my sickness and it scar...	tracy	3	976	Apr 21, 2011 by Linistea
	I gotta keep coming back (Preview) Dear Friends, Just need to write this out today..... In the past month, I have been dating two different men, the first relationships since my divorce over three years ago. I met my husband when I was 17, never been with another man until a weekend fling last summer, a man from the other side of the pl...	gladlee	1	871	Apr 19, 2011 by Linistea
	Daily Meditation ~ Accepting Change (Preview) The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places - time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath. But change is inevitable and desirable. Sometimes...	Danielle	0	859	Apr 19, 2011 by Danielle
	Step and Book Study (Preview) Hey everyone - just wanted to touch base. I know I am pretty behind on the book and step study and I apologize. Last week was business in FL and some minor surgery to end the week properly and now I am sitting in the Seattle airport waiting for the shuttle and will be here through the week. Hopefully this c...	Linistea	0	667	Apr 19, 2011 by Linistea
	Holding on to hope and faith, praying for peace and clarity. (Preview) I've been in recovery(this time) for over two years. I've seen the changes in me and my life as a result of the program, and am soooo grateful to be here. Found out yesterday that there are "multiple" blood clots in my leg, and was crushed again. In the past 2 months I've had two surgeries and...	free2bme	0	654	Apr 19, 2011 by free2bme
	Death, dying, and the next right thing (sorry kinda long-need input) (Preview) To make a long story short, I recently, in a very HP guided kind of way, found out I have a blod clot in my leg, and was admitted to the hospital. I had had two prior surgeries in the past six weeks which may be the reason why. Being a single mom, and a pcp for another adult, and foster mom to wayyyy to many anim...	free2bme	4	1011	Apr 19, 2011 by free2bme
	ACOA - Trust (Preview) I TRUST MY HIGHER POWER TO BRING ABOUT THE PERFECT FULFILLMENT OF GOOD Today I relax the tight grip I have on my thoughts and attitudes. I ease up, secure in the knowledge that no disasters will happen if I relax my vigilance. I release all matters to God's Divine Plan for me. At times I might find it diff...	gladlee	0	696	Apr 19, 2011 by gladlee
	ACOA - Control (Preview) TODAY I TAKE CONTROL OF MY AFFAIRS I have the certain knowledge that I can control my thoughts and feelings. I am not compelled to respond today with the same emotions I had as a child growing up in an alcoholic home. If I sense negative thoughts or self-defeating behaviors beginning to take hold, or if...	gladlee	0	1115	Apr 19, 2011 by gladlee
	Daily Meditation ~ Taking Care of Ourselves (Preview) We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as self-care. Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin off of the Me generation. It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that word. We're learning to take care of ourselves, instead of o...	Danielle	0	738	Apr 17, 2011 by Danielle
	Daily Meditation ~ Letting Things Happen (Preview) We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the purpose and plan for each detail...	Danielle	1	713	Apr 17, 2011 by LinBaba
	Sick and tired of being sick and tired. (Preview) I'm really struggling with myself. I've stopped blaming other people for the state of my life and can see how I've made choices right down the line that left me open to be hurt and emotionally battered, when other people would have walked away. I'm looking at my life and the state it's in and feel so much...	Freya	8	1135	Apr 15, 2011 by Freya
	Starting to do things differently (Preview) I haven't seen or contacted my partner for over a week after telling him last week that I wanted some time to myself. I've spent the week practically sitting on my hands so that I didn't call him or go and visit him. I haven't done either. Coming here to the board and reading people's shares and experie...	Freya	4	876	Apr 15, 2011 by Freya
	Daily Meditation ~ Perfectionism (Preview) Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues. Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive; i...	Danielle	0	949	Apr 14, 2011 by Danielle
	Characteristics of Love Addiction (Preview) Characteristics of Sex and Love AddictionHaving few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency...	LinBaba	2	10186	Apr 14, 2011 by tracy
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